Week In Review: Rhonda

God, that week felt so long.  It seemed to just drag on and was exhausted the entire week.  I think I know why though, and more about that later.  So let’s recap.

Seriously, Monday through Friday were an absolute blur.  Sleepiness, exhaustion, Target runs, with Wine Wednesday up in the middle.  Also at some point during the week, I made a HUGE business decision and spent a lot of time planning for that.

I also decided during the week that the reason I have been so tired and moody and run-down is due to backsliding on my healthy lifestyle.  Since moving, things have been wild and busy and definitely unhealthy.  I decided that Monday would be a reboot.  Meal prep and workouts on their way!

Saturday we got up and got busy shopping for things for the house and putting up lights in the backyard.  We had “a few friends” over (let’s just call it what it was – a hell of a party) and Stuart set the backyard on fire.  So that was lovely.

Sunday, Stuart, Claudia, and I hopped in the car and spent the afternoon in some different areas of the DFW.  We went to the Japanese book store Kinokuniya to get my copper Leuchtturm1917 journal that I’ve wanted for a few months.  Then we went to get some Bing Su (a tasty shaved ice treat) while we were in this Asian strip mall.  After that, we headed to IKEA where Claudia promptly made herself at home.  She wanted to sit in every chair and lie down in every bed.  Stuart and I argued over chairs, because of course.  Back at home, Stuart hung more lights in the backyard and grilled and Quentin and I prepped my lunches for the week.

Now I’m ready to tackle a new week. We are starting school and I am rebooting a healthy lifestyle. Do you ever feel like you just need to start over on everything?

Week In Review: Ashley

Hey y’all hey! Welcome back to another Monday of Week In Reviews. 🙂 So glad you’re here. Ok, sooo prepare for lots of me going on and on about Pre-K drama.

Monday & Tuesday & Wednesday were pretty typical. As you know (or don’t know if you don’t regularly read my WIR posts…) we have been riding the struggle bus when it comes to getting Cooper adjusted to full day Pre-K. He has been freaking out at drop off each day. HOWEVER We had some fantastic days of drop off during the first part of this week! Cooper didn’t cry one bit which was super fantastic. I really felt like we were making some progress.

Then. His teacher called Wednesday afternoon to say that he’d been having a hard day. She said he was whining a lot and very concerned about what was going to happen next…as in he was asking her this every five minutes or so. The wanting to know what is next – well that’s just his personality. He’s super aware of his surroundings. He always wants to know the span of events that lie before him. I can understand though how that is frustrating. Because seriously you guys, some days I have to tell him “enough with the questions…I’ve already told you this over and over again.” She did suggest that maybe he needs more one on one time and attention from me. I get that. I decided I’d start making more deliberate attempts at giving him my attention in the evenings. Also, she thought maybe he was trying so hard to keep things together for my sake at drop off that the emotions were coming out throughout the day now. Thursday he was pretty upset at drop off BUT nothing major.  So that night we went to Chick-Fil-A and played at the playground and I took him to Target to pick out a toy for being so good at drop off for the four previous days.  I wanted to give him some positive reinforcement.

Friday morning was a rough rough rough. I’m pretty sure he sensed that it wasn’t a normal day. He could tell that I wasn’t going to work…we weren’t rushing like we normally do. So, about an hour before we had to leave he started getting upset and crying. I normally attempt to console him and do everything that I can to get him calmed down and not crying. However, that day I decided maybe he just needs to cry at home and get it all out of his system? So I let him go on and on. I told him it was ok to cry at home, but when we get to school he has to stop. Did that work? Hell no. He was in major freaking melt down mode once we got to school. I was crying. He was flipping out. It was bad bad bad. I actually told his teacher I was considering taking him out of school. She urged me to take him home that day and think things over, because the truth is that he’ll have to adjust now at Pre-K or later at Kindergarten.

I could tell that he was just doing all that he could in order to get to stay home with me. As soon as he realized he was going home he stopped crying and pitching a fit.

I honestly believe he has some major anxiety issues. I know part of it is that he just can’t control his anxiety and emotions. I get that. I feel for him. It’s stressful on both of us..and sometimes I make it all about me and how it makes me feel and how emotionally draining this whole process has been on me. But I have to remember that HE is the one going to school.

So. I’ve decided to implement some changes and start reinforcing routine for the morning. I don’t know how to fix his anxiety and make all of our transition problems magically go away, but I do know that he thrives in a routine. So yeah, I’m making some changes to our morning so that it will always be the same and consistent – you know as much as I can…I can’t control everything. Unfortunately. 😉 And his dad is going to start dropping him off .. I think that not having to leave me will help.  And I’m also going to do a calendar that we’ll put stickers on everyday that reflect how that day went at drop off and give him little rewards each day when he does well.

But yeah. We shall see if that all makes a difference.

This weekend? We stayed home. Took several trips to Target. Sunday afternoon we did get out for a bit to go the Lynn Meadows Discovery Center in Gulfport. If you are local, you should definitely take your children there. Sunday afternoons are a great time to go because it’s only $6 to enter. That night I made Sangria and watched the BEST Game of Thrones episode from this entire season.

There you have it. What have you guys been up to? Anyone else have some transitioning to Pre-K stories similar to mine? If so, tell me and make me feel better by saying it all worked out in the end. 😉

Currently Obsessing and Detesting

 

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Hey hey party people … happy Friday Eve! Ashley here. 🙂 Today is kind of like my ‘Friday in theory’,  because I have a lovely three day weekend this week that starts on Friday. So yes. While you’re reading this I’m reveling in the fact that I have the next three days off.

But anywaaaay now that we’ve discussed my schedule – what are we here for today? Well, I wanted to share with you guys some products/things that  I’m obsessed with and regarding with great detest as of late. You know. Because we just love to buy shit around here. Try out things. Talk about said things. Rhonda and I do it constantly through text. I figured – why not include you all in on the loop.

Alright let’s get to it. I’m going to break it down into a few categories and list the things I’m obsessing over and detesting within each category.

BEAUTY

Obsessing –

Physician’s Formula Butter Blush in Plum Rose –  If you read my easy everyday ‘natural’  makeup tutorial blog post ,  then you got a little preview of my love for this blush. I seriously reach for this blush every single day. It just gives a natural flush to my cheeks. The formula is smooth and surprise! Buttery. 😉 It blends out really well on top of powdered and unpowdered foundation. The fact that it smells like summertime is just icing on the cake. I love it. You should go try some.

Detesting –

L’Oreal Paris Cosmetics Voluminous Lash Paradise – I saw this mascara ALLLLL over YouTube. People were saying that it was a Better Than Sex (Too Faced Mascara) dupe, and that they were basically dying for it. I’m pretty sure even Jaclyn Hill praised this mascara. Me though? Eh. I don’t really care for it. And I gave it a fair try. It’s just too clumpy and gives no volume.

MUSIC

Obsessing –

I’m having a serious Imagine Dragons moment. Specifically their Evolve Album . Some of my favorite songs are, Believer, Thunder, and Whatever It Takes.

Detesting –

So, in general I will skip past any Katy Perry or Ariana Grande song. However, lately I just cannot stand the DJ Khaled song with Rhianna  & Bryson Tiller called Wild Thoughts .

FASHION

Obsessing –

When I like something I tend to wear it over and over and over again. As of late my newest favorite clothing purchase is my basic girl Adidas shirt . I bought it in blue, but I need to order one in black as well.

Detesting –

Ok, so I got this Not Your Bae shirt from JcPenny’s not to long ago, and I do really love the shirt. BUT when I washed it the first time, according to instructions,  and the black part on the top of the shirt still bled to the white lower part. 🙁 🙁 🙁 So mad.

SKIN CARE

Obsessing –

I cannot get enough of the Milani Keep It Smooth Luxe Lip Treatment. I’m on my second tub. I use this everyday. Night and Day. It lasts a long time on my lips and seriously does keep them smooth.

Detesting –

I bought this gold mask from WalMart the other day. I cannot remember the brand and I can’t find it on their site. It was in black packaging. I still have to mention it, and if you follow our SnapChat you already know how I felt about it. It was supposed to be a sheet mask – but it was super flimsy and in two pieces. AND it made my chin break out. I will find out the brand and come back to edit this post. Just you know. Stay away from collagen boosting gold sheet masks in black packaging that cost around $2.50 from WalMart. 😉

TV

Obsessing –

I’m currently binging on Elementary. It’s my go to show when I want something to watch. And obviously, I’m tuning in to GoT weekly.

Detesting –

I mean, detest may be a strong word in this instance BUT I haven’t been loving Big Brother. I’m usually glued to it…but I just can’t get into it this season which is sad.  🙁

 

And there you have it. Short and sweet. What have you guys been obsessing over or detesting lately?

 

What We Wore Wednesday

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And then it was Wednesday.  Doesn’t even seem possible, but here we are.  Don’t forget to show up to our Wine Wednesday show tonight on our Facebook page!  For now, let’s see some clothes.

Rhonda –

Dress: Amazon. Shoes: Target. Earrings: Nickel & Suede.

Tee: Ross. Shorts: Old Navy. Shoes: Target. Earrings: Nickel & Suede.

Dress: Target. Earrings: Nickel & Suede.

Dress: Joe Fresh. Shoes: Target. Necklace: BaubleBar.

Tank: Old Navy. Shorts: Target. Shoes: Converse. Earrings: Nickel & Suede.

Ashley –

And then I took pictures of two of my outfits … lame.

Shirt: Target Pants: Target Earrings: N&S Rose Gold

Dress: Umgee dress I bought from Rhonda’s resale shop Shoes: Old Navy Blush Gladiator Sandals  Earrings: N&S Rose Gold

 

RHOD: Gigantic Wine Glasses

I have been in love with the Real Housewives for many years and have given each city’s version a try.  My top 5 are:

5. New Jersey

4. Beverly Hills

3. New York

2. OC

1. Dallas!!!  I was into it before I even moved to the DFW, but now that I live here, I have a brand new appreciation for these ladies and can’t wait to see what the season brings. So here we are, at the start of the second season.

Let’s see what fuckery is unfolding this episode.

Stephanie starts us out with talking about her dog Biscuit.  She says he really likes running around with her panties in his mouth, like Travis.  Um, ok Stephanie…that’s one image I didn’t need to have.

Kameron is a new cast member this season.  She is super wealthy (like everyone on this show but this is on another level) and hangs out with Cary.  We learn from Kameron that she plays the role of the dumb blonde in her life because she doesn’t want people to know how smart she is. Kameron’s mom is an amazing cook and Kameron is trying to learn. She came from California to Texas to go to college at SMU.  She married her nerd spirit animal basically and they live in Highland Park (super exclusive area, for those of you not in  DFW) in a 7500 sq ft house.  Also, she has an idiotic pink dog food idea and that’s all you need to know about that.

Cary is planning her husband Mark’s birthday party and has decided she will invite LeeAnne, who has been known to cause a lot of drama and exhibit major anger issues.  Later in the episode, we see Cary and LeeAnne go to the park and talk about their issues from last season.  They also discuss Brandi and Stephanie.

LeeAnne is in anger management therapy and has really been trying to work on herself, so Brandi has has also been giving her a chance.  They have been getting much closer because…..

FREAKING BRANDI AND STEPHANIE are not on speaking terms.  (This is where I started crying.) Stephanie says she doesn’t know why brandi is giving her the cold shoulder.  I don’t know either.  I don’t know if I missed something or the show is dragging this storyline out and intentionally leaving out details.  They did both reveal that they have struggled balancing their marriages and friendship and that both have gotten closer to their husbands when they aren’t basically married to each other.

We are introduced to another new cast member, D’andra, when she meets with leann for dinner.  D’andra grew up privileged, met her husband who  had kids from a previous marriage.  He is former military and a photojournalist and their home is decorated in a very eclectic style, which I totally relate to.  It’s refreshing to see their house isn’t the same untouchable style as a lot of Housewives’ homes.

Back at Stephanie’s home, Travis brings home presents for the kids.   We hear how while their marriage has gotten better since Stephanie and Brandi stopped hanging out, but Bryan, Brandi’s husband, wants them to all hang out together again.

Brandi tells us that she feels like Stephanie pulled away from their friendship to make herself more available for the Dallas social scene.

At Mark’s birthday party, there such a cold and uncomfortable greeting between Brandi and Stephanie.  It’s sad and cringeworthy.  Also, they are drinking out of gigantic wine glasses and damn, I should have gotten a picture of that shit.

Then freaking LeeAnne keeps interrupting when Stephanie wants to set up a time to talk to Brandi.  LeeAnne acts like she is her damn manager.  Stephanie and Brandi are both crying messes and I just really want them to be back together.  I kind of can’t take it.

 

Fix it, Jesus.  Fix it all.  It’s going to be a good season though!  Tell me, did you watch it?  What did you think?  Will you be tuning in and discussing with me next week?

Week in Review: Rhonda

Thanks for showing up yet again to see what I have been up to.  We have lived through the first week in our new house and I am so pleased to watch the house coming together!  Tuesday the fridge came, which changed everything for the better.   You really get an appreciation for appliances when you have to live without them for several days.

By Thursday, we had settled into an adaptation of our usual routine…waiting out front for Stuart to come home from work, then helping him make his dinner.

I spent Friday running errands and hammering shit into the walls.  It is starting to look less like a model home and more like we live here.

We spent Saturday cleaning and unpacking the remaining boxes in preparation to have friends over.  Some of Stuart’s coworkers came over in the evening and we had some drinks and grilled.

We wrapped up a wonderful weekend by grilling again and then I soaked with a new bath bomb.  Can’t beat that for a Sunday evening!

Here’s to another week!  I hope yours was amazing.

 

 

Week In Review: Ashley

Dang. The weeks literally are flying by. I think especially having this weekly documentation … it just puts into perspective how quickly time can seem to go by. When you know. In actuality. Time passes at the same rate.

Also. I have this thing I’ve been meaning to do. Like this big life changing thing. I keep putting it off. It requires some confrontation…and well. I hate confrontation. Not to mention. Well I did mention – but it’s life changing. So anyway. My weeks are going by quickly, because I have this thing on my to do list that I keep skipping over. And another Friday gets here and I’m like damn. I still haven’t done the thing. And it’s just really making me sad. The whole thing. The thing I have to do and me not doing it…

Ok. Sooo anyway…to the things I actually did this week. 🙂

Being real here – I sucked at taking pictures. Sorry Charlies.

Wednesday was my usual off day, and it was also the first day that Cooper would be going to all day school while I was off. It felt so weird leading up to that day. It seemed so strange to be leaving him there when I could very well take care of him. But you guys know. He’s been balking at having to go to school. So, I knew the best course of action was to keep establishing an expected routine by taking him to school and leaving him there the entire day. So, I did which ended up being really nice for Sophie and I. We didn’t have to rush home to get chores finished before time for pick up at 11:45. What did we do? Well, obviously we went by Target – then we stopped by Aunt Grace’s house to visit with her and Uncle Dejan. Soso’s had this thing since…I don’t know…almost birth – that she’s been skittish around Dejan. We’ve been working on it and she actually seems to enjoy him now. Which is a big plus. No more crying and freaking out when she’s in the same room with him! 🙂 🙂

Wednesday night was Wine Wednesday on our Facebook Page. It was a lot of fun..as usual. I did have some nasty storms rolling through that night which was messing with the internet so we had to end things a little early. You should totally go watch the video if you missed it!

Friday night I had dinner with my sister, and then just went home for an early bedtime. OH! Friday morning Cooper DID NOT cry when I dropped him off at school! That was a fantastic start to our day. All the teachers were so happy to see him not upset…I talked about the whole thing on SnapChat that afternoon…soo make sure you’re following us there too! (RAtheMOMachine) We were just having such a great morning that day, and when I pulled into the school parking lot I got a pit in my stomach with dread that he may get upset. He didn’t though! It was just really a great feeling for both of us. He literally talked about it in almost every conversation I had with him for the rest of the weekend. Hopefully this trend continues!

Saturday and Sunday were pretty lazy days. I did spend a little time at my parent’s on Saturday after I sat in WalMart for FOUR hours waiting on an oil change. Four hours. Ridiculous. Cooper stayed the night with Grammy and Ppop so Sophie and I hit up Target that evening. It’s expected right? 😉 Sunday we picked up Cooper on the way home from a quick trip to Slidell to go to Toys R Us.

That evening they were both little wild heathens due to lack of naps; therefore, we started bath/bedtime about 30 minutes earlier than normal. I watched Game of Thrones and then called it a night.

Anddd that’s my week. What were you guys up to?

Getting the Most out of Your Amazon Prime Membership

It’s no secret that we love Amazon around here, and both of us have a Prime membership that we covet. I know for me personally, a week does not go by that I’m not utilizing my Prime membership to order something from Amazon – whether it be something fun or things for my household. What exactly is Amazon Prime? You pay a monthly fee of $10.00 or a yearly fee of $99. Paying this fee gives you access to Prime Free 2-Day shipping which is typically the biggest appeal when someone is considering getting a Prime Membership. However, I’m here today to let you know ALL the things available to you as Prime Member and share some of the ways that I personally maximize my Prime Membership on a regular basis.

Alright so what exactly do you get as a Prime member?

As you can see that is an extensive list. Most of the things on the list are just outright free because you are already paying for Prime. And some of the things on that list cost a little extra BUT not as much extra if you weren’t a Prime Member. It can actually be overwhelming – so much so that you may think…I’d never use all of that. And if I’m not using all of that…is it really worth it? Yes my friend. It is so worth it. Let me show you a few of the ways that I utilize my Prime Membership in my everyday life. 🙂

Obviously I use that Prime Free 2-Day shipping when purchasing things from Amazon. Clicking the little prime filter option on the left hand side of the screen is the very first thing I do before I even consider looking at what’s available after I search for something. But I mean this is a no brainer. This quick and free shipping is probably why you’re even considering Prime in the first place. It’s for sure a giant bonus.

Sometimes. And I mean sometimes I don’t need rush shipping on something I’m buying. Did you know that you can Earn Rewards or Discounts with Free No-Rush Shipping when you have a Prime Membership? Yup. Say you’re ordering something that you don’t need right away and can wait 6-7 days for. Click the FREE No Rush Shipping Option and you’ll receive either a discount or some kind of reward!

I use Prime Music every single day. Literally. I don’t listen to the radio. You get access to tons of music for free simply because you have a Prime Membership. I used this basic access for a while. Just recently I upgraded to Amazon Music Unlimited which is just $7.99 a month, because I am already a Prime Member. This $7.99 has given me access to more current hits. There has literally not been a single song or album that I’ve searched for that was not available for me to listen to. I think an extra eight dollars a month is worth it considering I’m not having to buy music and I don’t need to supplement my listening needs through any other venue.

Prime Video has not only been something that I turn to when looking for entertainment, but it is another great source for me to find something for the kids to watch. They have a lot of TV Shows and Movies available to watch for free. Cooper went through a phase where he watched Fireman Sam every single day. And it was free because of Prime Video!

And last but certainly not least, I use Prime Photo to backup the pictures on my phone. As a prime member I have free unlimited photo storage. All you have to do is download the app and set it to automatically backup.

 

Obviously, I didn’t tell you how I use EVERY thing available to me as a Prime Member, but I just wanted to show you some of the ways that I’m using my Prime Membership on a daily/weekly basis without even thinking twice in most instances. Amazon Prime has just become a natural part of my life. It would definitely be an adjustment to all of a sudden not have it around! Anyway, I hope I shed some light on the things that you get/can get as a Prime Member.

Do you guys have a Prime Membership? What’s your favorite way to use it?

Lilly Belle Market

Almost two years ago TO THE DAY, Rhonda ordered her first order of Lilly Belle Market bows on Etsy.  They were purchased partly for Claudia, with some of them being given to Ashley at Sophie’s baby shower.  We have been in love since and the obsession is real.  We are so happy to announce that we will be representing Lilly Belle Market this fall, along with some other amazing ladies and their gals.

Glitter, felt, sequins, leather, and more – LBM seriously has what your little one needs for her wardrobe!

Be sure to follow the Instagram page for Lilly Belle Market and like them on Facebook.  You’re going to love the bows and headbands and the cute clothing items!

 

 

A Drinking Problem

This week I gave in and decided to hop on the bandwagon that is sarahah.  For those of you who somehow haven’t seen this on social media, it’s a website and app that allow you to receive anonymous comments from your friends or coworkers.  They are supposed to be “constructive.”  I started one, completely expecting to receive some hate mail.  I am not always the most loved person.

Anyway, it was lovely and full of kindness and even a secret admirer… until it got to the point that three people (and as I type this, I see another one has surfaced) had mentioned my drinking.

Now hold up one damn minute.  Drinking problem?  I take this really really fucking seriously.  As the daughter of an alcoholic, I have seen some shit and I KNOW what alcoholism is.  I have spent my entire adult life with the awareness that children of alcoholics run the risk of exhibiting the behaviors themselves.  I?  Do not have a drinking problem.

Let me break this shit down for you.

Alcoholism is often hidden behind closed doors.  It is not a bunch of wine and tequila selfies on social media.

Alcoholism is waking up thinking about when you can have a drink.  It is not having a cocktail every evening.

Alcoholism is frequently having relationship problems when drinking.  It is not having a good time with your family and friends, drinks in hand.

I could go on and on.  Quite frankly, I don’t have to fucking explain myself to anybody I don’t live with.  The reason I am so angry about this is that there are people with a TRUE ALCOHOL PROBLEM and this really makes it sound like every person who enjoys alcohol has a damn “problem.”

Listen, I love alcohol.  I really do.  Particularly, I love craft beer, a good bottle of wine, Tito’s vodka, and good agave tequila.  If I was an alcoholic and showed up to a party where there was only Bud Light to drink, I would drink it.  But no – fuck that shit.  If that’s all there is, pass me the water.  This is because I like the TASTE of good libations.  I mean, of course the way it makes me feel is for sure a bonus.

Here’s what you need to know if you are truly concerned and not just jealous and bitter that I do what the fuck I want:

I drink 6-7 nights a week on average.  Sometimes it’s one drink, sometimes it’s a bottle of wine (which if you aren’t a wine drinker may sound like a lot, but ask wine lovers.  I promise they finish the bottle most of the time).  I went several days without a single drink last week.  And nope, didn’t sit around thinking about it or anything.

I day drink mimosas on the weekends and when I’m on vacation at the beach.

99% of the time, I am drinking at home with my guy, not driving around like an idiot.

I spring out of bed early every morning, pour a cup of coffee, and join a productive society.  Sometimes (like once or twice a month) I have a single watermelon shandy while I work during the kids’ nap time.  It’s usually dinner time or later when I want a little low carb margarita or glass of rose.  Sometimes I have a single refreshing watermelon shandy while I work during the kids’ nap time.

I drink so slowly that Stuart often teases me about it.  It can take me 6 hours to finish a bottle of wine.

When you see pictures on social media of my drinks, you are seeing a small slice of my life.   You know what, I put my life out there and live wide open.  I overshare.  Drinks are pretty and to be honest, they get a lot of likes and comments, particularly on Instagram.  I am building a successful blog brand, so these things matter to me.

But I can promise you this – you are SURROUNDED daily by people who quietly drink at home, some of them far more than me.  It may be your pastor’s wife, your dentist, your kid’s teacher, your stylist, your elderly neighbor.  They just aren’t blasting it on social media.  I know this, because I hail from a small southern town in a dry county and everyone from my church and high school were lined up at the county line every pay day.  They would hide their faces, never making eye contact.

Above all, know these things:

  • I am in the healthiest relationship of my life and we pretty much pay the power bill at Total Wine.
  • My children are really fucking happy, well fed, and loved.  They are, however, really embarrassed by my kitchen dance moves after just a single glass of wine.
  • I run a successful business and my team and I love to trade drinking gifs since we all love our wine.
  • I am in amazing health.

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I opened myself up for criticism by participating in the sarahah hype and I LOVE honesty.  I just wanted to point out that much like OCD, anxiety, and depression, terms associated with alcoholism are overused and thrown about casually.

Know what the fuck alcoholism is before you accuse someone of having an issue.  And if you are truly concerned about me, talk to me about it openly.  I will be happy to invite you to my home so you can see what my life is actually like.