A Hair Challenge

I am have always been bad about being stuck in hair ruts.  Yes, I change color pretty often and used to switch up my cuts a lot.  However, for years, I have always just straightened it or put it in a ponytail…neither being particularly healthy for my hair or flattering.  I look best when my hair is at least mostly down and with some wave/curls/body.

With my hair needing a cut and color, I knew I needed to do something to look and feel better, so I issued myself a challenge to help pass the time until I can get a hair appointment.  I decided that for 7 days, I would do a different style each day.  Admittedly, some of these will look the same to you, but trust me, they are different.

Super not fancy, just pinned on the sides because the front of my hair looked weird.

This day, I TWISTED the sides before pinning.

My go-to style the day before I wash, messy waves.

Hair washing day called for a blow-out.

Okay, I know what you’re thinking. “Oh, pinned back.  So innovative.”  Guys, this one is different.  I teased the crown before pinning back the sides!  I also pulled the sides all the way back so that the pins cross in the back.  I know!  I am so creative and WILD.

My daughter had her hair in pigtails so I just ran with it for myself. My hair was damaged and stringy at the ends.  This ended up being a good way to mask that.

Well, I had enough.  I ended the challenge by cutting my own hair.  Yep, I’m more than a little crazy.  But now my damage is gone and I will see a professional in a few weeks!

I felt like pushing myself to try something different really made me feel put together every day.  Do you ever feel like you get stuck in a rut, whether it’s with your makeup, clothes, hair, diet, or daily routine?  Try issuing yourself a challenge and see how you do!

 

What We Wore Wednesday

Ashley –

Jacket: Burke’s [similarTop: Target – it’s actually a navy top ..looks black here Pants: Jordache Skinnies for the win Earrings: N&S Rose Gold Choker: IDK

Jacket: Ross Tank Top: Target Pants: Liverpool Skinnies from StitchFix Shoes: CATO [similarEarrings: N&S Leopard

Sweater: Kohl’s Chaps Brand Jeans: Jordache Skinnies Earrings: N&S Champagne Shimmer Shoes: Walmart

Shirt: Target .. I think I’ve worn this thing a million times since I bought it. Pants: Denizen Skinnies from Target Shoes: CATO  [similar] Earrings: N&S White

Cut Out

Shirt: Chambray button up from Target [similar ](#thankstargetformywholewardrobe) Pants: Black Skinny Jeans from…..TARGET Choker: Target Shoes: Walmart Earrings: N&S Select Black

Some observations? I wear my hear up way way to often lately. Probably time to cut it. For real. Target for sure takes all my monies. I didn’t fail to come through with some stripes and chambray for you guys. You’re welcome. 🙂 🙂

Rhonda –

Top: Old Navy, not available. Shorts: Target. Earrings: BaubleBar, this style not available, but shop here for similar styles (I may get points if you make a purchase).

Top: Elodie brand, from Marshall’s. Skirt: Ambiance brand, from Ross. Shoes: Kenneth Cole.

Top: Tovia brand, from Ross. Shorts, not shown: white cutoffs from Walmart.  Earrings: Nickel & Suede Lip Gloss.

Tee: Target. Shorts: Target. Shoes: Target. Earrings: Nickel & Suede Lip Gloss. Sunnies: Sojos.

I am trying to get better at outfit pictures, but shit… y’all don’t even know how crazy my life has been. Do you have those days or weeks where it’s a miracle you ever put pants on?

 

A Parent’s Influence

The ways my dad made me the person I am today – Ashley

I’m pretty sure that most parents, don’t set out with every single little value that they want to instill in their children’s hearts and minds. I mean I know this is how I feel about my approach. I know we all have core beliefs and values that we want to share with our children and hope that they adopt them because we believe that they will make them better human beings. A lot of times those things happen by accident, or our parents try to bestow one set of beliefs on us and we reach for the exact opposite.

Father’s day was this past Sunday and I can say without a doubt that I am super lucky to have the dad that I have. I get all sentimental when I think of the ways the has knowingly and unknowingly shaped who I am. To say that I was a “daddy’s girl” growing up is an understatement. I pretty much worshiped my dad. In my memories of him he was the end all and be all. He knew everything. He did no wrong. His stature was even bigger.

As I got older – all of that changed for me. I could clearly see his faults. I realized that he did not in fact know everything. I also noticed that he is so tiny. Did any of those realizations make me love him less? Did any of that make me like him less? Nope. My dad is in no way perfect, but he’s the perfect dad for me. I will forever be grateful and mindful of the ways that he (maybe unintentionally?) shaped who I am, for the better.

  • My dad taught me that gender roles at home don’t have to be a thing. My mom never really cooked for us on a regular basis. She didn’t like to, and my dad does. So he cooked dinner every night. He made breakfast and lunch on the weekends. My dad would also always make my mom’s plate for her. I know that my dad didn’t do this because he sought to prove anything to anyone – he was just doing his part. It didn’t matter that he was the man or that he worked long 12+ hours a day (mostly outside). My mom didn’t like to cook – and he did. So he cooked for us. Plain and simple. I always said that I’d marry a man who would cook for me too, because I absolutely hate it. That hasn’t happened yet, but fingers crossed one day it will. 😉 Dad likes to say that my liberal tendencies started because I went to MUW…got news for you dad…you started it. You showed me that I don’t have to fulfill the roles that society deemed ‘fit for a woman’. You didn’t mean to. You even tried to teach me how to cook and attempted to get me to appreciate the value in knowing how to prepare a meal for my future loved ones. Your actions though. Your actions every single night in that kitchen showed me that I can do whatever I want to. You showed me that I can be the person I want to be – and that there would be someone out there who could support that and stand by me while I did.
  • Sometimes my dad can be harsh. There have been many times that I’ve seen him bring my mom to tears or illicit one of those “looks” because he said something completely inconsiderate. Sometimes my dad can be incredibly narrow minded. It’s his way or the highway. When he believes that he is right – well he won’t back down. These two characteristics are things that I’ve always intentionally (and sometimes subconsciously) tried to not embody. I think twice..a million times…before I speak. Especially to those that mean the most to me. And I never ever want to be narrow minded. I’m continually trying to understand and relate to and find common ground with people. I don’t change my mind easily. I just know the danger in not being able to open my eyes to what’s around me and know how to stand firm in what I believe within the midst of differences -even if those differences are among my family. 
  • Politics – standing up for what’s important to you by voting, being informed, and knowing who you want to shape the laws of the country that you live in. All of that was not something that I even worried that much about. The first time that I can remember even caring was when Barack Obama ran for president the first time. My dad said to me once that I’d really really care when I realized how much all of that actually affected my life. He was so right. I’m living in a time right now where I feel like so many of us are having to actively stand up and fight for what we want our political leaders to advocate for on our behalves. So yeah, you were right dad. We may not see eye to eye on what I we want. You definitely also taught me how much I hate FOX News…despite the fact that you continue to listen to it. 😉 But nevertheless – you always tried to let me know that I can’t just live my life and think that what’s going on in our government and elsewhere in this country does not affect me. I used to think you were being overly dramatic – now I know you weren’t. 
  • Being deliberate about showing interest in my children, the things they like to do, and the things I’d like for them to like doing with me. My dad has always been that way. He included me in his hobbies. I really really saw his deliberate attempt at a strong and connected relationship through his interaction with my little brother. I see him do it with my own son and daughter. My kids may not end up liking the same things I do. I just want them to remember that I always included them and that I always wanted to be a part of what they wanted to do as well.

So yeah. Thanks dad. You’re my number one guy from the beginning … Love you,

Week In Review: Rhonda

As you know, we had a lot going on and skipped our Week in Review last week.  So I going to to just hit the highlights.  I had a kid-free two weeks, so it was both relaxing and productive, with a good dose of fun!

Tuesday and Wednesday, I took advantage of my solo status and worked at Starbucks and Buffalo Wild Wings…with shopping breaks.  I got a lot of blogging, working, and writing done, along with a healthy dose of people watching.

Thursday and Friday were spent getting some stuff done around the house and relaxing. I worked on some wedding party stuff, which was really exciting.  Friday night was supposed to be the night that Ashley arrived for a visit, but the airline had different ideas, so we invited Stuart’s coworker over to grill.  Stuart grills a mean steak.

Ashley finally arrived Saturday and we had a wonderful whirlwind day.  Shopping, happy hour, a tattoo for Ashley, and a night at the Fort Worth Stockyards.

I finally got to start wedding dress shopping.  More to come on that later.  Suffice it to say, nothing I tried worked, but I got a better idea of what I wanted.

After a Thursday afternoon spent at Starbucks working, Friday brought about a great surprise – Stuart took the day off to take care of our internet issues.  Once those were cured, we went to visit the marketing coordinator at our preferred venue.  We were happy to determine that it is THE place for us.  I’ll tell you more later!  Later that evening, Stuart surprised me with a date night to our favorite steakhouse.  I can’t recommend enough that you try out The Keg in Arlington for the kind of steak that that nearly gives you an orgasm.

We spent Saturday with all the relaxation.  We stopped by an open house for a rental house.  It was oddly situated in a sketchy neighborhood but was a super nice house.    Stuart once again surprised me as we dropped by our wedding venue for a quick beer (they were about to close).  We came home to grill again, which is always a good idea.

Sunday was our final morning without children, so we had brunch, then went to Stuart’s messy-ass office for him to do some work.  Then we hit the road to get the kids, which is always a grand adventure.

What did you do this week?  Get into anything fun?

 

Week In Review: Ashley

Wellll hey guys! I feel like it’s been forever since I’ve written a week in review. We missed last week. Life just got in the way BUT we’re back this week. 🙂

Ok, so since I didn’t recap the week before last – I think I’ll just do a mash up the previous two weeks. If that’s ok with you guys? … It is? Cool.

Last weekend I got the chance to fly out to Dallas and hang with Rhonda and Stuart. My plane was supposed to leave Friday evening. That didn’t happen though. After a mad rush to find a parking space and then HOURS waiting on the plane. The flight was cancelled and rescheduled for the next morning. That sucked so bad. I ended up spending Friday night at my parents, because they are a smidge closer to NOLA than my house. After about three hours of sleep I was back on the road to the airport. That flight took off without a hitch – except for when I got Dallas…sans my bag.

We still had a fabulous time! There was some day drinking, brunch eating, shopping, snapchat hilarity, girly time getting ready together….AND THEN we headed out to the Stockyards for the night. What did we do there? Well, I got a tattoo… we made friends with a band playing at one of the bars (per our usual)…and you know. Just a few shenanigans. 😉

I had so much fun…and I can’t wait to go back for a longer period of time!

The next week was the usual Monday and Tuesday work and after work grind. Wednesday I took Coop to get registered for summer day care and fall preschool. He actually starts tomorrow – and I’m quietly freaking out. He’s never been to any sort of day care. His grandparents and/or aunts and uncles are the only people that have ever cared for him in the absence of me or his dad. I’m sure he’ll do great. He’s incredibly social and eager to learn and meet new friends….I’m …well I’m just so nervous.

This past Friday night I got to go out with one of my favorite people, Michael, and see the band Dumm at the IP in Biloxi. I drank allll the wine and you know – just generally had a blast. 🙂

Saturday and Sunday we spent most of the day at my parents. Celebrating my dad. Cause you know. Father’s Day. 🙂

And now the kids are in bed…I’ve blabbed on enough about our ongoings …time to try to sleep while I stress about Cooper starting daycare. No big deal. 😉

What have you guys been up to??

 

June Ipsy Reveal

Hey you guys! It’s that time again – to divulge the goodies we received in our Ipsy Bags! We both always look forward to getting that pretty pink envelope in our mail boxes. 🙂

What is ipsy? It is a monthly subscription service. You pay ten dollars a month and get a cute bag and five makeup/beauty related products. They are usually deluxe sample sized – sometimes you get a full sized product. When you sign up you do a little ‘get to know you’ type of survey that the ipsy peeps use to determine what types of products to send you. Also, as you receive the products each month you get to review each one individually. If ipsy sends you something you absolutely hate…all you have to do is let them know in the review and they won’t send it again. For instance, say you get some nail polish in your first bag, and you don’t really care for nail polish. Let them know in the review that you’d like to not receive it again. And voila! They won’t send it in your bag anymore!

We both look forward, with great anticipation, each month to receiving our ipsy bags. Ipsy is a great way to try out all kinds of different beauty brands and products without investing in the full size version – not knowing if you will like it or not. You don’t get to hand pick what comes in your bag, but we are pretty sure that there won’t be many times that you regret trying what they send you. 😉

Ipsy rewards you points for referrals, purchasing through their website, and reviewing.  The points can be redeemed in the rewards shop toward products.

You can sign up to receive Ipsy by clicking here (we may receive credit if you sign up). Ok ! On to this month’s goodies:

Ashley –

So first of …that bag.. so freaking cute. It will definitely become one I use in my purse. Overall, I wasn’t dying over the contents of this month’s bag. I definitely wasn’t displeased…just nothing I fell over for. 😉

NYX Professional Makeup Whipped Lip and Cheek Souffle :  Now this product did surprise me. It reminded me of my Bare Minerals liquid lip cream that I have. The texture is so buttery and moisturizing on my lips. It is definitely not long lasting. I expected that though. I threw this in my purse, because it will be a great on the go neutral to have on hand. I haven’t tried it on my cheeks yet…but I’m definitely loving it on my lips.

SPF Rx Ultra-Clear  Daily Sky Hyrdrator with SPF 50:  I put on moisturizer with an SPF every day before I start my makeup. I don’t think this one is anything extra special, but I’m sure it does the job. It will be a good travel moisturizer & SPF.

City Color Cosmetics Bold Brow Eyebrow Powder in Medium: I was really looking forward to receiving this product, because Rhonda got in her last iPsy bag and LOVED it. I actually got a chance to preview the product when I was at her house last weekend, because I had no makeup since my bag got lost…. But anyway. I really liked it. This was my first time using a brow powder. I ended up mixing the two shades. It applied really easily and evenly. I was happy with the end result. 🙂

theBalm Cosmetics Balm Springs Blush: This the second time I’ve received a blush from theBalm in my iPsy bag. I loved the first one. I think that this one will be no exception. It is very smooth. The color is pretty light and natural looking – but that’s fine because some days that’s all you want.

Luna by Luna Cosmetics Eyeshadow in Jace:  This eyeshadow is almost the exact same color as the blush I received. It does have a little bit more of a peachy tone than the blush which is more true baby pink. The Luna eye shadow felt pretty chalky when I swatched it, but it had decent pigment. We shall see how it looks on the eye. I’m going to wear it tomorrow with my Stilla Magnificent Metal Glitter. Make sure you’re following IG and Snapchat so you see it in action !

Rhonda –

How cute is this bag, first of all?!?!  The fabric of it is high quality and this is one of my favorites I have ever received.

Delectable by Cake Beauty Coconut & Cream Triple Moisture Body Lotion – This is the second time I have received a cream from this brand.  I believe my last one was a hand cream.  They smell SO AMAZING and really moisturize without leaving the skin greasy.  I immediately ripped this open, applied it, and put it in my purse for on-the-go moisture.

Margaret Dabbs London Treatment-Enriched Nail Polish in Green Daylily – This color was right in my wheelhouse and I could not wait to get it on my nails.  I was shocked that it covered in one coat.  Not surprisingly, it was chipped within 24 hours, which is why I typically stick to press-on nails.  I look forward to wearing this on my toes though.  And bonus? It has a rose scent when dried.

NYX Professional Makeup Whipped Lip & Cheek Soufflé in Pink Cloud- This was….fine.  It’s a beautiful color, but it was gone from my lips in 30 minutes and I just don’t like liquid cheek color in general.  The color is beautiful though.  Swatched below, far right.

City Color Cosmetics Shimmer Shadow in Beach Cottage – This I loved.  It was probably the stand-out for me in this bag.  City Color never disappoints and this color is gorgeous.  The shadow is extremely pigmented and shimmery and has golden flecks.  Swatched below, center.

theBalm Cosmetics Balm Springs Blush – I love everything from the Balm, always.  This was no exception.  The blush gave me the perfect flush and lasted all day.  So easy to apply and completely blendable, this is the perfect blush for someone who wants a no-fuss makeup routine.

Did you get any of these items in your June bag?  What was your favorite?

The Story of My Tattoo : Ashley

When I went to Dallas this past weekend to see my amazing blogging partner, Rhonda, in an uncharacteristically spur of the moment decision (one that was for sure fueled by copious amounts of alcohol) I decided to get a tattoo. I know what you’re thinking. Well I do if you really know me or if you read  my “20 Things” post..  Ashley, I thought you didn’t do spontaneity? I don’t. And like I said I did have alcohol encouraging me. And honestly, I’ve been considering this tattoo for FOREVER. I’ve been writing it on my arm for months on end. I’d been putting off the exact time – kind of like you do with the first time you have sex. You want it to be beautiful, magical, perfect, at the right time, and with the right person. That’s way too much pressure. In both situations. Just unrealistic expectations. I love the way my tattoo happened. I was with one of my most favorite people. My nearest and dearest. She was there to hold my hand, and write the template for the words that are now forever written on my arm.

Why those words? Why that phrase? My dad actually said it once during a sermon. He was speaking about the sacrifice that Jesus made by dying on the cross for his followers. My dad was saying that Jesus is love. That Jesus is the ultimate representation of love because he chose to love those that did not deserve it and showed that love by sacrificing his life so that they may have everlasting (after)life. Now, I don’t believe in god – or that Jesus was the son of god. I think he was just a man. I do believe in what my dad said though.

Love is most certainly a choice. We are not forced to love anyone. Love for our children is not even something that is always automatic for people. There are plenty of men and women who walk away from their children and never look back. That is not love. We also do not “fall in love” with people. Romantically. I don’t believe in meant to bes and love at first sight. You may meet someone that you can’t get out of your head. It might be hard to stop thinking about them. You may even choose to love them when you know that you shouldn’t. Someone may make it known to you that they love you – and you find yourself wanting to love them back. Even when you may have never given them a second thought before. You can stop that though. Finding love. Loving someone. It’s just truly simple. You just make the choice. And for me. That revelation. The realization that I’m not bound by some mythical fairy tale elusive feeling or state of being – the realization that I can love whomever I chose to. That is so freeing.

When you are in a long term relationship – or when you have children, I think that you really experience and can recognize that love is a choice. You have to choose to love your partner daily. There are times that they do things that upset you, but you want to be with that person. So, you choose to love them. Not in spite of or despite the things they do – but because you want to. The same goes for our children. There are moments that those boogers make you just want to throw your hands up and walk away. But you don’t. Because you don’t want to. Those little humans give your life more meaning than you could have ever fathomed so you press on. You continue to choose to love them.

And equally as important as choosing to love someone – is to demonstrate that love through actions. That can be tricky. Sometimes the way we think is showing our love may not be a way that is recognized by the person we are attempting to show it to. You know – we all have different love languages. The point is. You can choose to love someone. You can tell that person that you are choosing to love them. You can say “I love you” over and over and over…but you need to follow that up with some demonstration. Some physical affection. Some other kind words in a moment of need. Some surprise gifts. Some thoughtful remembrances. Whatever the case may be. If Rhonda is the first one to start writing/editing a post that we are co writing, (like our OOTD posts) she will go ahead and insert my name and make it a heading for me. Why? Because she knows I hated dealing with html. That’s showing love people. Then she did the ultimate act of love by showing me a SHORTCUT to make my own headings without having to deal with html. 😉

Love is simple – but it’s multifaceted. You can love someone or something with never getting any love back. You can love someone and they can love you back – and that can be difficult at times. I just feel like though. If you keep it simple. If you make things basic. If you realize that Love is a Choice and An Action – you can always get back to where you want to be in your relationships and life. Sometimes that means walking away. Sometimes that means pressing on.

 

I got that phrase tattooed on my arm, because it’s a sentiment that I live by.

What We Wore

Hey, hey, hey!  So glad that you are all back for another week with us. You know we are here to show you our Haute Couture.  hahahahaha.

We are actually here to show you what real moms wear.  Let’s play a drinking game.  Every time one of us wears black, take a shot.

This week is going to go a little differently.  If you follow us on Instagram (and let’s be honest, if you don’t, you need to), you know that we have been experiencing….well, life.  As such, Ashley doesn’t have much to show in the way of outfits this week, so we are rolling her Saturday night outfit in with Rhonda’s and that will be that.

Tank: Old Navy, not available. Kimono: Ross, years ago. Shorts: WalMart, not available. Sandals: Target. Bag: Tommy Hilfiger, not available. Earrings: Nickel & Suede Select White Cut-Out.

Tee: Old Navy. Shorts: Target. Sandals: Target. Earrings: Nickel & Suede Lip Gloss.

Top: Harper Avery Boutique. Jeans: Target. (I wore the rose gold sandals that I wear almost daily.)

Rhonda’s Top: Marshall’s, maybe? Rhonda’s Leather look leggings: Gia Rose Designs. Rhonda’s Shoes: Steve Madden, no longer available. Similar here. Rhonda’s Earrings: Nickel & Suede Matte Gold.

Ashley’s Top: Target. Ashley’s Leather look leggings: Amazon. Ashley’s Shoes: Ross. Ashley’s Earrings: Nickel & Suede Select White Cut-Out.

Tee: Target, not available. Shorts: Target. Sandals: Target. #targetislife

Stop Living For the Freakin’ Weekend

I can admit that I’ve been this person who counts down to Friday…just waiting for the weekend to come so that I can live.  While I do still very much look forward to the weekends, my life got exponentially better when I stopped living for the weekend.  Yours can be that way too.

Here’s the thing, y’all.  There are seven days in a week.  What happens when you spend a good chunk of the week in a blur, waiting for Saturday?  You lose valuable time that you can never get back.

What about the weekend makes it more special than the weekdays for you?

Do you work Monday through Friday and off on weekends? And do you dislike that job?  Is it stressful?  Do you hate school days because of all the chaos that comes with that?  Maybe you are a stay-at-home parent and your other half works weekdays so you look forward to having an adult around on the weekend.

For me, there were times when I did not place much value on the weekends because I was a retail manager and usually worked.  I worked a couple of jobs that were typical weekday jobs and they were highly stressful, so I looked forward to that weekend break and time with my family.  Currently, working for myself from home and homeschooling four children, I crave those weekends, which bring time with Stuart and help around the house.  He works very long days, so I don’t even get to look forward to time in the evenings with him much.

Somewhere along the way, I changed in the last few months.  I started just taking advantage of blocks of time every day.  It took deciding that I was going to be positive and enjoy each and every ordinary day.

A random Tuesday doesn’t have to be full of plans and fun moments to be enjoyed.  It takes a simple action – a naptime margarita, a playdate with your best friend and her kids, watching shitty reality TV in your room while the kids watch YouTube videos, a trip to Ulta or a solo movie while your kids are at school.

There are two things I do every weekday to make sure I am taking care of my mental health and just living my life to the fullest.

  1. My pre-dinner ritual.  Whether or not the kids are home, I turn up my favorite music, pour a drink, and dance around the kitchen while I make dinner.  Trust me, it makes cooking dinner less of a routine chore and more of a moment to be enjoyed.  Sometimes I Snapchat the moment.  Sometimes I Instagram it.  Sometimes I leave my phone on the charger and just soak it in.
  2. Naptime routine.  My boys do not nap and Claudia rarely does, but we still make it part of the day.  They get in their beds, I put on the TV or hand them a tablet, and I take a coffee or beer to my room.  I lock the door and watch DVRed shows, workout, blog, do my makeup…whatever I want to do in peace.  They aren’t allowed to so much as knock on the door unless someone is hurt.

You don’t have to do the same things I do to make your day good.  But do something that makes you happy.  Soak in a bath, text a good friend, watch horrible TV, go for a walk, read a book, sit in Starbucks.

Every day is special.  Every.  Freaking.  One.  Because you’re still alive…. And the weekend will be here before you know it.  Now go live.

[t-shirt here]

Wedding Planning – Introduction

When Stuart and I got engaged this past December, I knew that I wanted to have the whole to-do.  Both of us had gotten married at the courthouse with our previous marriages and while that is lovely and gets the job done, I just wanted something different this time.  I wanted those who love us and support our relationship to be able to witness our union.  At the same time, I also knew that we wanted something personal and intimate that wouldn’t break the bank.

We set a date, then put off wedding planning until after my beach vacation.  I had too much else to focus on and pay for, so it just didn’t make sense to really get into it.  Now, here we are over a month after my vacation and I am just over 300 days away from my wedding date.  What have I planned?  Well, let’s see…

  • Date: CHECK!
  • Venue: Yeah, not so much.
  • Photographer: I have narrowed it down to a couple options.
  • Catering: I have some ideas…ish.
  • Wedding Party: Bride’s, yes.  Groom, uh…pretty sure we haven’t even talked about it.
  • Dress: Ha!
  • Aesthetic: Got that lined up!
  • Guest list: Sort of.  It has been discussed and it’s small enough that I could make the list in 5 minutes.

Safe to say we haven’t done shit.  I bought a planning binder, decided I didn’t like it…bought another.  I picked out my bridal party and they know who they are.  I know what the colors and feel of the wedding are.  I sort of know what I want in a dress and I have some ideas for catering.

We just really need this venue thing nailed down before we can do much else.  And here’s the thing – we have a venue in mind, but we also would prefer to do it in our own backyard….but we don’t have one.  We are trying to find a house and I hope it’s soon so that we CAN figure out if we want to get married there or elsewhere.

What I definitely know about our wedding is it will be intimate, personal, and very us.  In the same way I rage against the MOMachine, I will very much be raging against the wedding industry.  I have zero desire to just go along with and pay for everything I’m “supposed to.”  No thank you.  So you’ll see a lot of DIY and unusual ideas here.

Anyway, I will be posting an update to this series any time I feel like there is something to update on.  First installment will be about my bridal party and that is coming soon!

Anyone else really drag their feet in planning their wedding?