What We Wore Wednesday

Jacket: Target Shirt: Long Peplum – Kohl’s Pants: Jordache Skinny Jeans Shoes: Black Booties I have no idea from where I got them. They are old. LOL Earrings: N&S Stone Cut Outs

Shirt: Kohl’s Pants: Jordache Skinny Jeans Shoes: Target Earrings: N&S Select Black

Shirt: Target Pants: Liverpool Skinny Jeans from StitchFix Shoes: Blush Gladiator Sandals from Old Navy Earrings: N&S Select Black

 

Button Up: Chambray from Target T-Shirt: Gas Station Disco Band Tee Pants: Pleather leggings from Target Shoes: Brown Sandals from WalMart Earrings: N&S Leopard (not in stock)

Rhonda –

I really didn’t get many full outfit pictures this week – partially because there were days I didn’t put on pants and then there were times I just didn’t photograph it.

Mine and Claudia’s Tanks:  Old Navy, not available. Claudia’s shorts: Target.

Dress: Old Navy. Necklace: Icing. Earrings: BaubleBar [I may receive points if you make a purchase from this link.]

Tank: Old Navy, not available. Shorts: Target. Sandals: Target. Earrings: N&S Matte Gold.

My Menstrual Cup Memoir – Ashley

I was definitely that teenage girl who cried and threw a hissy fit over having to learn to use a tampon for the first time. I can vividly remember my mom telling me that “if I wanted to swim I was just going to have to learn to do it.”Ok- so I can’t vividly remember the EXACT words she used but it was something along the lines of “suck it up buttercup… and get to it.” Not that she meant that with any less than the utmost concern. 😉

I’m certain I asked my mom how to do it. You know. How to insert the tampon. Like literally. I can remember attempting to do it while laying down. That approach didn’t work so well. My next course of action? I consulted the instructions. I’m big on instructions – unless I just absolutely trust that someone can tell me how to do it. Tampon instructions. That’s where I learned the squat and lean forward method. I figured it out and had been successfully wearing tampons, with zero regrets, until September of last year.

What happened in September? Well, it was just a culmination of a lot of things including some personal lady issues and hearing Rhonda rave about her Diva Cup. I knew at that point that I no longer wanted to use tampons. I didn’t want that toxic material, inside me. And really. Have you worn a tampon recently? It doesn’t always feel great. Especially the coming out. Tampons just block and stop everything from flowing correctly. I was at a point that I needed to see the amount of blood exiting my body. You can’t do that with tampons. And speaking of that blood. It’s not just  a smooth flowing spring like you’ve seen exiting from other parts of your body. This blood is ooey, gooey, and full of giant clots. I mean really. Just think of  the logistics of a compact piece of material properly absorbing that mess. So maybe you’re thinking, Ashley, seriously…what exactly is so bad about a tampon beyond your own personal experience? I mean..to name a few things:

  • Ingredients in tampons are not nearly regulated as they should be.
  • Your vagina is super absorbent. Therefore, the pesticides and chlorine that are present in the cotton used to make a tampon are being absorbed into your vagina. That’s cool right?
  • Speaking of….there are pesticides on your tampon! And chlorine. Have you even considered the possible long term effects of repeatedly exposing your body to those??
  • They create the perfect environment for infection. A tampon holds blood in contact with the vagina, the stagnant blood changes vaginal pH, and prevents the vagina from flushing out the harmful bacteria. Hello infection!  
  • Need more reasons? Just Google it man. There are a plethora.

I didn’t go straight to using a cup. I actually didn’t jump and make that decision until I was once again confronted with the issue of wanting to swim while being on my period. I was also over the messiness of using pads. And pads are not even that great for your vaginal health either. It was just definitely time to take the plunge. So I hopped on Amazon and within a few clicks my Pixie Cup was being prepared to ship to my house. Why didn’t I go with the Diva? Well, I read all the reviews on Amazon. Most people said the Pixie was much more flexible/soft than the Diva – and the Pixie had a better price point. I think I may get a Diva Cup at some point just to compare.

Now, there are a lot of articles out there detailing how to use a menstrual cup. I’m not here to give you some generic set of instructions. I’m here to give my specific thoughts and experience.

  • I chose the size 2 because I’m over 30 and have had two children vaginally. Insertion was not a problem. I just folded it and popped it in. Using the whole squat and lean forward method.
  • Even though I knew logically it wasn’t possible – I had the fear that my cup would be sucked up deep inside me and I’d have to rush to the ER to have it removed. Have you guys seen that episode of Sex and The City where Samantha had to retrieve Carrie’s diaphragm from inside her? Because Carrie couldn’t seem to reach it herself?  Yeah. Root of my fear there.
  • In the beginning, it’s messy AF when removing the cup to empty. Also, don’t be white girl wasted while trying to navigate the first time use of your cup. You will probably make a bloody mess…in your best friend’s bathroom. And have no idea that you did. But yeah. That whole process gets easier with practice. I’m pretty savvy now.
  • I ended up having to turn my cup inside out. This was a tip from Rhonda when I complained that I could still feel it. I tried just trimming the stem first – that didn’t work. So, I flipped the whole thing inside out. I just use my muscles to push it out and pinch the end  while pulling the cup the rest of the way out when I’m ready to empty.
  • The thought occurred to me that it’s kind of sad that I realized how unfamiliar I am with my vagina. There never really was an instance where I was repeatedly all up in her biznass before. Tampons allow you to have basically no contact, thanks to that toxic plastic applicator. And well recreationally? I mean. I have a vibrator which makes hand to vagina contact:  not necessary. I think it just falls under that umbrella of in so many subtle (and sometimes not so subtle) ways women are brainwashed to hate their bodies. So, you dare not explore it…especially your precious flower of a vagina. That’s taboo. Anyway, she and I have definitely become better acquainted. 🙂
  • At first…I pinched myself a shit ton. A nail pinch. Yeah. OOOOWWW. I am happy to say that those instances are few and far in between now..usually only happens if I’m in a rush or something. Why would I be in a rush? Oh I don’t know. .. Maybe those times when my children are pounding at the bathroom door because they all of a sudden NEED me.
  • Getting my cup to open up once it’s inserted is what takes me the longest. How do I do that? I do a combination/series of things. I’ll use my muscles to push it out a little and lightly grab the bottom of the cup between my fingers and spin it. I then run my pointer finger around the bottom outside to ensure that it has completely opened. Once I know it’s open, I contract my muscles and use my finger to push it a little further up inside me.
  • The whole experience has been liberating and freeing..and well life changing. I know I’ll never introduce Sophie to tampons.

And there you have it. My unsolicited. Frank. Pretty rambly. And Honest – thoughts on using a menstrual cup. I know this is no comprehensive guide. I could say a ton more. You guys know my tendency to ramble. I’ll leave it here though. And listen,  don’t stop your research with this blog post. Google. Read on. Form your own opinion…but I’m pretty sure you will be converted to the dark side. The dark side where we aren’t ashamed to face the natural functions of our body. The dark side where we respect our bodies and stop putting dangerous stuff inside them.

What We Wore Wednesday

Ashley –

Jacket: Burke’s [similarTop: Target – it’s actually a navy top ..looks black here Pants: Jordache Skinnies for the win Earrings: N&S Rose Gold Choker: IDK

Jacket: Ross Tank Top: Target Pants: Liverpool Skinnies from StitchFix Shoes: CATO [similarEarrings: N&S Leopard

Sweater: Kohl’s Chaps Brand Jeans: Jordache Skinnies Earrings: N&S Champagne Shimmer Shoes: Walmart

Shirt: Target .. I think I’ve worn this thing a million times since I bought it. Pants: Denizen Skinnies from Target Shoes: CATO  [similar] Earrings: N&S White

Cut Out

Shirt: Chambray button up from Target [similar ](#thankstargetformywholewardrobe) Pants: Black Skinny Jeans from…..TARGET Choker: Target Shoes: Walmart Earrings: N&S Select Black

Some observations? I wear my hear up way way to often lately. Probably time to cut it. For real. Target for sure takes all my monies. I didn’t fail to come through with some stripes and chambray for you guys. You’re welcome. 🙂 🙂

Rhonda –

Top: Old Navy, not available. Shorts: Target. Earrings: BaubleBar, this style not available, but shop here for similar styles (I may get points if you make a purchase).

Top: Elodie brand, from Marshall’s. Skirt: Ambiance brand, from Ross. Shoes: Kenneth Cole.

Top: Tovia brand, from Ross. Shorts, not shown: white cutoffs from Walmart.  Earrings: Nickel & Suede Lip Gloss.

Tee: Target. Shorts: Target. Shoes: Target. Earrings: Nickel & Suede Lip Gloss. Sunnies: Sojos.

I am trying to get better at outfit pictures, but shit… y’all don’t even know how crazy my life has been. Do you have those days or weeks where it’s a miracle you ever put pants on?

 

A Parent’s Influence

The ways my dad made me the person I am today – Ashley

I’m pretty sure that most parents, don’t set out with every single little value that they want to instill in their children’s hearts and minds. I mean I know this is how I feel about my approach. I know we all have core beliefs and values that we want to share with our children and hope that they adopt them because we believe that they will make them better human beings. A lot of times those things happen by accident, or our parents try to bestow one set of beliefs on us and we reach for the exact opposite.

Father’s day was this past Sunday and I can say without a doubt that I am super lucky to have the dad that I have. I get all sentimental when I think of the ways the has knowingly and unknowingly shaped who I am. To say that I was a “daddy’s girl” growing up is an understatement. I pretty much worshiped my dad. In my memories of him he was the end all and be all. He knew everything. He did no wrong. His stature was even bigger.

As I got older – all of that changed for me. I could clearly see his faults. I realized that he did not in fact know everything. I also noticed that he is so tiny. Did any of those realizations make me love him less? Did any of that make me like him less? Nope. My dad is in no way perfect, but he’s the perfect dad for me. I will forever be grateful and mindful of the ways that he (maybe unintentionally?) shaped who I am, for the better.

  • My dad taught me that gender roles at home don’t have to be a thing. My mom never really cooked for us on a regular basis. She didn’t like to, and my dad does. So he cooked dinner every night. He made breakfast and lunch on the weekends. My dad would also always make my mom’s plate for her. I know that my dad didn’t do this because he sought to prove anything to anyone – he was just doing his part. It didn’t matter that he was the man or that he worked long 12+ hours a day (mostly outside). My mom didn’t like to cook – and he did. So he cooked for us. Plain and simple. I always said that I’d marry a man who would cook for me too, because I absolutely hate it. That hasn’t happened yet, but fingers crossed one day it will. 😉 Dad likes to say that my liberal tendencies started because I went to MUW…got news for you dad…you started it. You showed me that I don’t have to fulfill the roles that society deemed ‘fit for a woman’. You didn’t mean to. You even tried to teach me how to cook and attempted to get me to appreciate the value in knowing how to prepare a meal for my future loved ones. Your actions though. Your actions every single night in that kitchen showed me that I can do whatever I want to. You showed me that I can be the person I want to be – and that there would be someone out there who could support that and stand by me while I did.
  • Sometimes my dad can be harsh. There have been many times that I’ve seen him bring my mom to tears or illicit one of those “looks” because he said something completely inconsiderate. Sometimes my dad can be incredibly narrow minded. It’s his way or the highway. When he believes that he is right – well he won’t back down. These two characteristics are things that I’ve always intentionally (and sometimes subconsciously) tried to not embody. I think twice..a million times…before I speak. Especially to those that mean the most to me. And I never ever want to be narrow minded. I’m continually trying to understand and relate to and find common ground with people. I don’t change my mind easily. I just know the danger in not being able to open my eyes to what’s around me and know how to stand firm in what I believe within the midst of differences -even if those differences are among my family. 
  • Politics – standing up for what’s important to you by voting, being informed, and knowing who you want to shape the laws of the country that you live in. All of that was not something that I even worried that much about. The first time that I can remember even caring was when Barack Obama ran for president the first time. My dad said to me once that I’d really really care when I realized how much all of that actually affected my life. He was so right. I’m living in a time right now where I feel like so many of us are having to actively stand up and fight for what we want our political leaders to advocate for on our behalves. So yeah, you were right dad. We may not see eye to eye on what I we want. You definitely also taught me how much I hate FOX News…despite the fact that you continue to listen to it. 😉 But nevertheless – you always tried to let me know that I can’t just live my life and think that what’s going on in our government and elsewhere in this country does not affect me. I used to think you were being overly dramatic – now I know you weren’t. 
  • Being deliberate about showing interest in my children, the things they like to do, and the things I’d like for them to like doing with me. My dad has always been that way. He included me in his hobbies. I really really saw his deliberate attempt at a strong and connected relationship through his interaction with my little brother. I see him do it with my own son and daughter. My kids may not end up liking the same things I do. I just want them to remember that I always included them and that I always wanted to be a part of what they wanted to do as well.

So yeah. Thanks dad. You’re my number one guy from the beginning … Love you,

Week In Review: Ashley

Wellll hey guys! I feel like it’s been forever since I’ve written a week in review. We missed last week. Life just got in the way BUT we’re back this week. 🙂

Ok, so since I didn’t recap the week before last – I think I’ll just do a mash up the previous two weeks. If that’s ok with you guys? … It is? Cool.

Last weekend I got the chance to fly out to Dallas and hang with Rhonda and Stuart. My plane was supposed to leave Friday evening. That didn’t happen though. After a mad rush to find a parking space and then HOURS waiting on the plane. The flight was cancelled and rescheduled for the next morning. That sucked so bad. I ended up spending Friday night at my parents, because they are a smidge closer to NOLA than my house. After about three hours of sleep I was back on the road to the airport. That flight took off without a hitch – except for when I got Dallas…sans my bag.

We still had a fabulous time! There was some day drinking, brunch eating, shopping, snapchat hilarity, girly time getting ready together….AND THEN we headed out to the Stockyards for the night. What did we do there? Well, I got a tattoo… we made friends with a band playing at one of the bars (per our usual)…and you know. Just a few shenanigans. 😉

I had so much fun…and I can’t wait to go back for a longer period of time!

The next week was the usual Monday and Tuesday work and after work grind. Wednesday I took Coop to get registered for summer day care and fall preschool. He actually starts tomorrow – and I’m quietly freaking out. He’s never been to any sort of day care. His grandparents and/or aunts and uncles are the only people that have ever cared for him in the absence of me or his dad. I’m sure he’ll do great. He’s incredibly social and eager to learn and meet new friends….I’m …well I’m just so nervous.

This past Friday night I got to go out with one of my favorite people, Michael, and see the band Dumm at the IP in Biloxi. I drank allll the wine and you know – just generally had a blast. 🙂

Saturday and Sunday we spent most of the day at my parents. Celebrating my dad. Cause you know. Father’s Day. 🙂

And now the kids are in bed…I’ve blabbed on enough about our ongoings …time to try to sleep while I stress about Cooper starting daycare. No big deal. 😉

What have you guys been up to??

 

June Ipsy Reveal

Hey you guys! It’s that time again – to divulge the goodies we received in our Ipsy Bags! We both always look forward to getting that pretty pink envelope in our mail boxes. 🙂

What is ipsy? It is a monthly subscription service. You pay ten dollars a month and get a cute bag and five makeup/beauty related products. They are usually deluxe sample sized – sometimes you get a full sized product. When you sign up you do a little ‘get to know you’ type of survey that the ipsy peeps use to determine what types of products to send you. Also, as you receive the products each month you get to review each one individually. If ipsy sends you something you absolutely hate…all you have to do is let them know in the review and they won’t send it again. For instance, say you get some nail polish in your first bag, and you don’t really care for nail polish. Let them know in the review that you’d like to not receive it again. And voila! They won’t send it in your bag anymore!

We both look forward, with great anticipation, each month to receiving our ipsy bags. Ipsy is a great way to try out all kinds of different beauty brands and products without investing in the full size version – not knowing if you will like it or not. You don’t get to hand pick what comes in your bag, but we are pretty sure that there won’t be many times that you regret trying what they send you. 😉

Ipsy rewards you points for referrals, purchasing through their website, and reviewing.  The points can be redeemed in the rewards shop toward products.

You can sign up to receive Ipsy by clicking here (we may receive credit if you sign up). Ok ! On to this month’s goodies:

Ashley –

So first of …that bag.. so freaking cute. It will definitely become one I use in my purse. Overall, I wasn’t dying over the contents of this month’s bag. I definitely wasn’t displeased…just nothing I fell over for. 😉

NYX Professional Makeup Whipped Lip and Cheek Souffle :  Now this product did surprise me. It reminded me of my Bare Minerals liquid lip cream that I have. The texture is so buttery and moisturizing on my lips. It is definitely not long lasting. I expected that though. I threw this in my purse, because it will be a great on the go neutral to have on hand. I haven’t tried it on my cheeks yet…but I’m definitely loving it on my lips.

SPF Rx Ultra-Clear  Daily Sky Hyrdrator with SPF 50:  I put on moisturizer with an SPF every day before I start my makeup. I don’t think this one is anything extra special, but I’m sure it does the job. It will be a good travel moisturizer & SPF.

City Color Cosmetics Bold Brow Eyebrow Powder in Medium: I was really looking forward to receiving this product, because Rhonda got in her last iPsy bag and LOVED it. I actually got a chance to preview the product when I was at her house last weekend, because I had no makeup since my bag got lost…. But anyway. I really liked it. This was my first time using a brow powder. I ended up mixing the two shades. It applied really easily and evenly. I was happy with the end result. 🙂

theBalm Cosmetics Balm Springs Blush: This the second time I’ve received a blush from theBalm in my iPsy bag. I loved the first one. I think that this one will be no exception. It is very smooth. The color is pretty light and natural looking – but that’s fine because some days that’s all you want.

Luna by Luna Cosmetics Eyeshadow in Jace:  This eyeshadow is almost the exact same color as the blush I received. It does have a little bit more of a peachy tone than the blush which is more true baby pink. The Luna eye shadow felt pretty chalky when I swatched it, but it had decent pigment. We shall see how it looks on the eye. I’m going to wear it tomorrow with my Stilla Magnificent Metal Glitter. Make sure you’re following IG and Snapchat so you see it in action !

Rhonda –

How cute is this bag, first of all?!?!  The fabric of it is high quality and this is one of my favorites I have ever received.

Delectable by Cake Beauty Coconut & Cream Triple Moisture Body Lotion – This is the second time I have received a cream from this brand.  I believe my last one was a hand cream.  They smell SO AMAZING and really moisturize without leaving the skin greasy.  I immediately ripped this open, applied it, and put it in my purse for on-the-go moisture.

Margaret Dabbs London Treatment-Enriched Nail Polish in Green Daylily – This color was right in my wheelhouse and I could not wait to get it on my nails.  I was shocked that it covered in one coat.  Not surprisingly, it was chipped within 24 hours, which is why I typically stick to press-on nails.  I look forward to wearing this on my toes though.  And bonus? It has a rose scent when dried.

NYX Professional Makeup Whipped Lip & Cheek Soufflé in Pink Cloud- This was….fine.  It’s a beautiful color, but it was gone from my lips in 30 minutes and I just don’t like liquid cheek color in general.  The color is beautiful though.  Swatched below, far right.

City Color Cosmetics Shimmer Shadow in Beach Cottage – This I loved.  It was probably the stand-out for me in this bag.  City Color never disappoints and this color is gorgeous.  The shadow is extremely pigmented and shimmery and has golden flecks.  Swatched below, center.

theBalm Cosmetics Balm Springs Blush – I love everything from the Balm, always.  This was no exception.  The blush gave me the perfect flush and lasted all day.  So easy to apply and completely blendable, this is the perfect blush for someone who wants a no-fuss makeup routine.

Did you get any of these items in your June bag?  What was your favorite?

The Story of My Tattoo : Ashley

When I went to Dallas this past weekend to see my amazing blogging partner, Rhonda, in an uncharacteristically spur of the moment decision (one that was for sure fueled by copious amounts of alcohol) I decided to get a tattoo. I know what you’re thinking. Well I do if you really know me or if you read  my “20 Things” post..  Ashley, I thought you didn’t do spontaneity? I don’t. And like I said I did have alcohol encouraging me. And honestly, I’ve been considering this tattoo for FOREVER. I’ve been writing it on my arm for months on end. I’d been putting off the exact time – kind of like you do with the first time you have sex. You want it to be beautiful, magical, perfect, at the right time, and with the right person. That’s way too much pressure. In both situations. Just unrealistic expectations. I love the way my tattoo happened. I was with one of my most favorite people. My nearest and dearest. She was there to hold my hand, and write the template for the words that are now forever written on my arm.

Why those words? Why that phrase? My dad actually said it once during a sermon. He was speaking about the sacrifice that Jesus made by dying on the cross for his followers. My dad was saying that Jesus is love. That Jesus is the ultimate representation of love because he chose to love those that did not deserve it and showed that love by sacrificing his life so that they may have everlasting (after)life. Now, I don’t believe in god – or that Jesus was the son of god. I think he was just a man. I do believe in what my dad said though.

Love is most certainly a choice. We are not forced to love anyone. Love for our children is not even something that is always automatic for people. There are plenty of men and women who walk away from their children and never look back. That is not love. We also do not “fall in love” with people. Romantically. I don’t believe in meant to bes and love at first sight. You may meet someone that you can’t get out of your head. It might be hard to stop thinking about them. You may even choose to love them when you know that you shouldn’t. Someone may make it known to you that they love you – and you find yourself wanting to love them back. Even when you may have never given them a second thought before. You can stop that though. Finding love. Loving someone. It’s just truly simple. You just make the choice. And for me. That revelation. The realization that I’m not bound by some mythical fairy tale elusive feeling or state of being – the realization that I can love whomever I chose to. That is so freeing.

When you are in a long term relationship – or when you have children, I think that you really experience and can recognize that love is a choice. You have to choose to love your partner daily. There are times that they do things that upset you, but you want to be with that person. So, you choose to love them. Not in spite of or despite the things they do – but because you want to. The same goes for our children. There are moments that those boogers make you just want to throw your hands up and walk away. But you don’t. Because you don’t want to. Those little humans give your life more meaning than you could have ever fathomed so you press on. You continue to choose to love them.

And equally as important as choosing to love someone – is to demonstrate that love through actions. That can be tricky. Sometimes the way we think is showing our love may not be a way that is recognized by the person we are attempting to show it to. You know – we all have different love languages. The point is. You can choose to love someone. You can tell that person that you are choosing to love them. You can say “I love you” over and over and over…but you need to follow that up with some demonstration. Some physical affection. Some other kind words in a moment of need. Some surprise gifts. Some thoughtful remembrances. Whatever the case may be. If Rhonda is the first one to start writing/editing a post that we are co writing, (like our OOTD posts) she will go ahead and insert my name and make it a heading for me. Why? Because she knows I hated dealing with html. That’s showing love people. Then she did the ultimate act of love by showing me a SHORTCUT to make my own headings without having to deal with html. 😉

Love is simple – but it’s multifaceted. You can love someone or something with never getting any love back. You can love someone and they can love you back – and that can be difficult at times. I just feel like though. If you keep it simple. If you make things basic. If you realize that Love is a Choice and An Action – you can always get back to where you want to be in your relationships and life. Sometimes that means walking away. Sometimes that means pressing on.

 

I got that phrase tattooed on my arm, because it’s a sentiment that I live by.

What We Wore

Hey, hey, hey!  So glad that you are all back for another week with us. You know we are here to show you our Haute Couture.  hahahahaha.

We are actually here to show you what real moms wear.  Let’s play a drinking game.  Every time one of us wears black, take a shot.

This week is going to go a little differently.  If you follow us on Instagram (and let’s be honest, if you don’t, you need to), you know that we have been experiencing….well, life.  As such, Ashley doesn’t have much to show in the way of outfits this week, so we are rolling her Saturday night outfit in with Rhonda’s and that will be that.

Tank: Old Navy, not available. Kimono: Ross, years ago. Shorts: WalMart, not available. Sandals: Target. Bag: Tommy Hilfiger, not available. Earrings: Nickel & Suede Select White Cut-Out.

Tee: Old Navy. Shorts: Target. Sandals: Target. Earrings: Nickel & Suede Lip Gloss.

Top: Harper Avery Boutique. Jeans: Target. (I wore the rose gold sandals that I wear almost daily.)

Rhonda’s Top: Marshall’s, maybe? Rhonda’s Leather look leggings: Gia Rose Designs. Rhonda’s Shoes: Steve Madden, no longer available. Similar here. Rhonda’s Earrings: Nickel & Suede Matte Gold.

Ashley’s Top: Target. Ashley’s Leather look leggings: Amazon. Ashley’s Shoes: Ross. Ashley’s Earrings: Nickel & Suede Select White Cut-Out.

Tee: Target, not available. Shorts: Target. Sandals: Target. #targetislife

What We Wore

Happy Winesday!  Thanks for stopping by, but I assure you – we won’t keep you long.  We have been having a crazy time with life and haven’t been taking outfit pictures (and Rhonda hasn’t been getting dressed.  Slacker.).

Rhonda –

Dress: Joe Fresh from YEARS AND YEARS ago.  It has pockets and has been with me through 2-3 pregnancies and everything in between.  Sandals: Betseyville for Target, no longer available.  Earrings: Nickel & Suede Minty Fresh.

Ashley –

Andddd look at that we matched! Total accident BTW

Shirt: Forever21 Pants: Just Black Distressed skinny jeans from StitchFix (none of which is available online…. blogger fail!)

 

Soo yeah that’s it for today. What have you guys been wearing?? Stripes anyone? 😉

When a Facebook Comment makes you rant….

I am capable of making humans. I was born with this ability. I did not ask for it. I did not ask for reproductive organs that allow me to carry and grow a human. Nevertheless, I am able to do this. I am a woman. Have you figured out how to make humans without me yet? Are there little tiny humans cooking in some lab somewhere? If you have – that’s fantastic, because being pregnant fucking sucks and I would have gladly turned that responsibility over to someone else…or over to a lab tech. Whoever. Yeah, I could adopt – or hire a surrogate. I don’t HAVE to be pregnant. Do you know how expensive that is though? Having a baby, no matter how you do it, is expensive – BUT doing it myself is definitely less than the other options. And also, you’re still using a woman to make that baby. I know. I know. I need a man too. Not for the whole process though. We could freeze all the men’s sperm and kill them all and STILL be able to make babies. Just saying. I do not literally have intentions of doing that – just fyi. Buut yeah – can you make a baby for me at the same cost it is for me to do it myself? Oh. You haven’t figured that out yet?? What. A. Shame.

I know that I don’t speak for all women. I know that plenty of women have differing views than mine. That is totally fine. It is ok if you want to give up your rights to equal health care. It is your prerogative to take a back seat while we are being taken advantage of – laughed at for asserting ourselves – scoffed at for demanding what we deserve. It’s 2017 and our great grandmothers already fought this fight. It’s 2017 and didn’t we JUST enact the ACA? But here we are again. Here are the naysayers again. The ones that say, “You already got what you want.” while they attempt to take it away from us. For what? For religious liberty? You don’t have a vagina so it’s not your problem?? Well. Fuck off. You say. Abstain from sex if you don’t want to create an unwanted pregnancy. You say your moral code does not permit promiscuity so disease should not be a problem. You say “It’s all in gods hands – he has a plan and a purpose for everything” so I should just pray to/trust in him concerning things like uncontrollable pain, cancer, unending bleeding, recurrent ovarian cysts, hormone induced migraines…and so on?

Doesn’t your god work through his or her people? I’m not familiar with all religions and the way their god’s orchestrate their will. I am familiar with a few and in my experience the gods need us mere humans to do their bidding. So, as a religious individual isn’t it your responsibility to take care of the people? To take care of the people who are responsible for growing the future generation?

And it’s not your problem? Did I ask you to pay for my healthcare? Are you going to pay for my healthcare? Is someone going to make you pay for MY healthcare? Nope. The answer is no. Get off your high horse and come back to reality. If anything, we are imploring each other to pay for our own healthcare. Afraid of paying more taxes? Wouldn’t it be better to pay a little more in taxes than what you are paying out of pocket for healthcare? By the way, there are countries out there with functioning universal healthcare systems run through their governments.

Also, don’t misunderstand me. I’m not asking for a place of honor as a woman. I’m just asking for respect. I’m just asking for necessary care. I’m asking for you to stop being a prick. I’m asking for you to be considerate. I’m asking that you inform yourself. I’m asking that you don’t just take someone else’s word and run with it. I’m asking that you take the time to form your own educated opinions and learn how distinguish fact from fiction.

  1. Birth Control is not free to everyone at a state funded health department location. In most cases, you have to meet income guidelines. So, if I make a lot of money to support myself and my family, but my insurance doesn’t provide free or discounted access to BC – I probably also can’t get it at my local health department.
  2. You don’t pay more for healthcare as a man in order to pay for my BC and other female services. That’s a lie. No one is even asking you to pay more. You know who did pay more? Women. You know who are being threatened to once again have to pay more? Women.

Ok – so here’s the deal, no one is asking you to be inconvenienced by the things my body needs in order to function properly. No one is actually inconveniencing you. I’m worried though. I’m literally and rightfully worried about the future or my healthcare. I’m worried for my daughter. So I can’t just sit here and see your comment without saying something. I can’t know that there are people out there who think and feel the same way you do without doing something myself. So, I’m doing what I can. I’m speaking my mind, because thankfully I have a platform from which i can  stand on and write. I’ve donated money. I’ve signed petitions. I will do what I can and when I can to fight for myself. To fight for other women. I shouldn’t have to. It’s utterly insane that I do. That we do. I’ll admit that. This should all be a non issue. But it isn’t. So I’m not going to be silent.