Week In Review: Rhonda

Well another week has gone by and my kid-free time is OVER.  The kids are back and they came in like a wrecking ball.  Sheesh.

During this week, I started decorating our house for Halloween, meet my mom group for drinks at one of their houses, and shipped out a shitload of orders.

Friday was a freaking exciting day.  My company was holding its Leaders Conference and I eagerly watched groups to see what was announced.  Two new limited edition colors came out, along with reformulated concealers and a new blush.  Pretty much the entire company collectively freaked the fuck out.  All this was happening while I wandered around the Halloween store, staring at my phone watching updates.  That was also the day that I received my first three-figure commission check, so it was a good one.

Saturday, Stuart and I had brunch at home then ran a few errands while we waited on his friend Ben to arrive from Germany.  Then I ran out to do some quick shopping while they caught up.  When I got back, we grilled some steaks and had a lovely dinner together before going out.  We went to the Stockyards to see Justin Moore and Dylan Scott.  What a freaking AMAZING show they both put on.  Justin is especially a super talented entertainer.

Sunday we made brunch for Ben and sat outside in the lovely weather for awhile with him. Then went and got the darling children before coming home to grill.

I think the best part of my week was Saturday night. What was yours?

Week In Review – Rhonda

Hey, hey! We decided to delay the week in review posts to enjoy our Memorial Day events.  Just kidding, we totally forgot it was Monday until after 5 pm. So anyway, on to my week.

I hit the ground running on Monday.  I kicked its ass and sold a lot of toothpaste and lipsense.  That’s always a good thing!  Claudia made sure to be a big help for me all day, but especially when it was time to do dishes, her favorite task.

I had lots of errands to run on Tuesday, so after trying a new hairstyle (obsessed with this iron that gave me fast and easy messy waves), we hit the road.  Shipped some orders and went to the grocery store.  Then came home to make dinner, which ended up being fun and relaxing.

Wednesday, I took the kids to the playground.  It was absolutely perfect weather and they really needed to run off some energy.  We had a great time.

I took the kids to Target Thursday in an attempt to get some birthday stuff done.  It was a fail.  However, I did come home and make a successful and healthy dinner and Stuart brought home a bust form he bought for my resale shop, which was really exciting!

With one day left before Harper’s birthday party, I had last-minute shopping to do on Friday.  After that, the kids helped me get some decorating done.  And by “helped,” I mean got in my way.

Saturday was party day and we had a guest cancel last minute leaving us with an intimate family party, which are my favorite anyway.  It was perfect and Harper was happy, which is all that matters.  We grilled in the evening and had a great time just catching up with Dustin and drinking too much.

Sunday, before Dustin headed back home, we had him stay with the kids while we went to look at a house.  It was an absolutely perfect home (sadly though, we didn’t have our funding worked out yet and someone else has already put in an offer) and it was exciting to start looking at houses.  In the evening, I stepped on a piece of glass with BOTH feet, because I am freakishly talented.  It was extremely painful and bloody.  We ended the day with grilling again and just enjoying the less-humid weather.

Memorial Day was absolutely lovely.  You know you’re having a good day when you totally forget it’s Monday.  We did what most people do and grilled and drank.  Which also happens to be what we do every weekend lately.  I also cut the boys’ hair in the afternoon.  It was just the perfect day at home.


Week In Review – Rhonda

Another week has passed and I have to say, it was a damn good one for me.  I felt great and got a lot done.

Monday was a little bit of a rocky start, as Mondays tend to be.  My kids were cranky and fought half the day.  I did get some work done though, thanks to the power of music to motivate me.  We ran to the post office, which my kids love to do for some reason.

Tuesday, we started a solar system unit, which the kids have really been enjoying.  It’s one of those topics that every age can understand, which makes teaching them much easier.  During their naptime, I had beer and Fritos and tried to relax but I had so much work to do that I really just wore myself out trying to speed-work.

In the evening, I made a stop for some wine and cranked up the music while I cleaned the kitchen.  I got all up in my emotions thanks to music, but it was all very therapeutic. Sometimes you just need a good cry.

Lil’ Mama and I hit up Target on Wednesday, after I successfully placed a highly coveted Lipsense inventory order.  We had a lot of fun checking out their new carnival-inspired toddler girl clothes.  They are to die for.  In the evening, I looked at houses and wedding venues until my eyes were crossing.  Both wedding planning and house hunting are exhausting.

Stuart had the car Thursday, so I did a lot of housework after school.  I also cleaned my makeup brushes and made a lovely margarita to go with the taco salad I cooked.  Stuart came home with a big surprise – my first ever bouquet of flowers.  I have had flowers in the past, just not from a significant other.  It was such a simple gesture, but it meant everything to me.  So did the tequila he brought me.

Friday, we went grocery shopping once Claudia finally woke up.  Food shopping is one of those things I really enjoy, so it’s always a good day when I can do that.  Throw in some beautiful weather and making a few sales and it really was just a lovely day.

Sweet, sweet weekend.  No matter how good my week is, I am always excited for the weekend.  There is nothing better than boozy brunches, time with Stuart, and having help with the kids.  Saturday, we did our usual brunch routine and I played with makeup while Stuart handled some work stuff.  When he got back, we spent time outside grilling and listening to music.

Sunday was a lot like Saturday – brunch, makeup, grilling and hanging outside.  I started the day out by opening my Mother’s Day gifts though.  A stack of birthstone bangles to add to my Alex and Ani collection – PERFECT. They also brought me more flowers!  I got spoiled.

I mean, I don’t think my weekend could have been any better.  It was amazing.  Tell me about your Mother’s Day!

 

For My Mama – Love, Rhonda

Damn, mothering is hard.  Like, really hard.  I never really understood exactly what goes into parenting until I became a parent myself – I’m sure every parent can say that.  On a daily basis, I experience every emotion possible – joy, sadness, anger, frustration, anxiety, fear, love, contentment, and so on.  It is absolutely a rollercoaster ride.

It’s amazing to think back to my childhood and the way my mama was with us.  I can’t remember her ever losing her temper.  That isn’t to say she never lost it, but if she did, it didn’t stick with me.  Good god, I hope my kids don’t think back as adults and remember that I am an asshole most of the time.  Mama and Daddy lived traditional marriage roles and I honestly believe it was the best thing for us children.  She was always there when we got off the school bus, with a snack and hugs.  I always knew my mom would be there for me.  I still know that today.

As teenagers, my brother and I were absolute dreams.  I am not kidding – ask anyone with close knowledge of my family.  I didn’t go through the typical I-hate-my-mother phase that most teen girls do.  If anything, we were the closest in my teen years.  I knew that no matter what I was going through – boy trouble, friend drama, making a C on a test (yes I was the person who might cry over that), color guard stress – mama would have a listening ear and a shoulder to cry on.

 

Mama was always The Cool Mom.  “Shit” was always part of her vocabulary, she put me on birth control just because I had a boyfriend, she encouraged me to wear short-shorts and midriff tops (I refused both and wish I could go back and slap myself), and I never had a curfew.  And you know what?  I was so fucking well-behaved.  Sometimes I think back and roll my eyes because I totally missed out on the rebellious teenager experience.  Giving us so much space to make stupid mistakes really allowed us the freedom to discover ourselves and turns out, we were super good kids.  I didn’t drink until I was in college, I only had sex with my super-long-term boyfriends, and didn’t get into legal trouble until I was a parent myself.  I’ve still never done drugs.  I know that my mama contributed to my good behavior.  When parents smother their kids, kids rebel.  It wasn’t an issue in my household, as evidenced by the fact that I could stay at my boyfriend’s house until 1:00 am.  I was allowed to make these decisions.  My mama trusted me.  The feeling was mutual.

The way I was mothered has shaped the way I parent.  My kids are fully allowed and encouraged to fuck up.  It’s the only way we learn.  And holy shit, the woman is the best grandparent.  My grandmother was everything to my ENTIRE family and I couldn’t have imagined that my own mama would be just as amazing, but she really is.   I come from a long line of strong southern women and I wouldn’t be the crazy person I am today without that.

My mama taught me so many things, but the most important thing she taught me was self-confidence.  When I started developing, I would walk with my arms crossed over my chest and she told me to walk confidently.  Last year, I wore a bikini for the first time as a mother and I almost cried as I texted a picture to her.  She has been rocking bikinis since always.  And she really ROCKS it because she is confident.  I am glad she has taught me to love myself.

I love you, Mama, and I hope I can be as fucking crazy and strong as you.

What Mom Really Wants: An Unfiltered Gift Guide

Mother’s Day is coming up in just a few days.  You can find gift guides all over the web and for the most part, they all include the same things – flowers, jewelry, spa gift cards.  Those are all great things, but as a real-life mother of four, I’m going to let you in on a little secret – you’re missing some really important shit.

Wine.  Or maybe the mother in your life prefers whiskey, tequila, or beer.  Still good options.  But seriously, give your mother or baby mama the booze of her choice.  It is affordable and can be purchased last-minute (you know who you are).  And you know what?  It’s hard out there for a mama.  She needs this.

Solitude.  When she gets that drink, she is going to need peace to enjoy it.  Nothing worse than sipping on a frosty beer and being constantly interrupted with requests and complaints.  It can be hard to finish a cup of coffee while warm or an adult beverage while cold.  I have been known to drop a couple of cubes of ice in my chardonnay because between potty training, sibling squabbles, and someone always wanting a drink, it can take an hour to finish a single glass.  Even if she isn’t having a drink, time to finish a thought, read a book, or talk to a friend can be so therapeutic.  Some of my best Mother’s Days have been spent solo, shopping, seeing a movie, or napping.  So take the kids out of the house for the day or send her off guilt-free.

Shopping.  Yep, it’s cliche but it is so true.  Most women love shopping.  Maybe she isn’t that person, but I bet she would appreciate free rein to spend a little money on something.  Moms often take care of everyone else first and there’s not time, energy, or money left for herself after everyone else is handled.  Whether she chooses to buy some fresh shrimp, a new mop, or the latest eyeshadow palette, a Visa gift card or just a little grace to spend from the joint account without judgment goes a long way.

Some fucking sleep and help and shit.  Some mothers are lucky enough to have a partner who shares household duties equally, but more mothers do not.  If your partnership agrees on that balance, all is good, but that doesn’t mean that on this day meant to honor Mom, you can’t pick up some slack.  Handle the meals and clean-up, and for fuck’s sake, change the diapers and wake up with the baby.  Acts of service really show appreciation and respect in the way a bouquet of flowers can’t.  At the end of the day, be sure to express you can personally see how much she does and that you truly appreciate her.  After all, isn’t that what the day is all about (aside from upping the revenue for Hallmark)?

What would you add?  What do you most appreciate on Mother’s Day?

 

 

Week In Review: Rhonda

Oh boy… the first week back after vacation is always a killer.  I seriously was not myself for the first several days.  My mind was somewhere on a beach, sippin’ something strong.  I’m back now though, for the most part.  It’s been a fun week and I’m happy to be settling back into some normalcy.

You already know I was still at the beach Monday and that part of Tuesday was spent traveling home.  Stuart took off work early to pick me up from the airport and I came home to lots of presents and a spotless house.  What more could I ask for?  Oh, how about a pan-seared tuna steak and a glass of wine?

Wednesday was the day to pick up the kids, but I had all day to myself.  I can’t even tell you what I did.  I slept, worked a little, watched TV, and cleaned.  Then Stuart came home with another gift, a perfect adult coloring book.  We jammed to some favorite tunes in the car, then stopped for dinner before scooping up the kids.

I woke up motivated Thursday, slowly getting back to normal life.  I pounded some coffee, worked out, received MORE gifts, and cooked a healthy dinner.

Friday was Cinco de Mayo, which is really just an excuse to drink tequila in case I feel like I need one.  I took the kids to my favorite store, Total Wine, where I growled at them because they couldn’t stop touching things. Surely you all know the mom growl that we use in public when polite reminders are working but you don’t want to be the Yelling Mom.  I got my tequila and came home to make taquitos, nachos, and margaritas.

If you’ve been reading this blog from the beginning you know how much I love my weekends.  You also know that we always start with my super strong mimosas and sometimes never get out of bed.  This Saturday, we stepped outside the box a little.  After boozy brunch, we went to the water park where we have season passes.  We really had a great time and everyone enjoyed soaking up some sun.

Sunday was closer to the usual weekend.  After boozy brunch, we just kept on sipping all day.  I never got dressed and I don’t think I even brushed my hair.  Sometimes, you just want to lie down and spend time with your people.

It was the perfect week for getting back into the swing of things.  I am mostly back to normal now, working my ass off and being healthy.

Do you have a hard time bouncing back after vacation?

Week In Review: Rhonda

Another week in the books, folks.  Holiday weeks always fly by for me and this was no exception.  What’s super exciting is that I am now TEN DAYS from my vacation, which means I can NOT let this week fly by.  I have so much prep to do for the trip!

I had a typical Monday.  Lots of stress, clowning kids, and work.  Restocked the shop and now I have so much in stock!

We studied moon phases on Tuesday, which was a hit for all four kids.  I was incredibly impressed that even Quentin fully understood and retained the information.  I got a great workout in, even doing my planks with two children on my back.  In the afternoon, I made Nick help me out with the shop.  He hated every second.

The littles went to Ulta with me on Wednesday.  They were obsessed with the lighted wall portions and wanted to take like fifteen pictures in front of it.  I didn’t get anything super exciting, just some pore cleansers and stuff.

Thursday was playground day, mostly due to the fact that we had a plumbing issue and waiting around on the maintenance guy to come was annoying.  We decided to just get the hell out of the house.  I somehow always forget that the playground we like is overrun by school kids between 12 and 1 every day.  We ended up ditching it and trying a new park.  It was a hit and I am glad, because it is super close to home!

I also started working on my vacation wardrobe, trying to figure out what I am taking and what I need to buy.  All the color and pattern in my closet and I chose a bunch of black and olive green.  Typical.

Friday, we did some watercolor painting for school, then Claudia and I went in search of some things for my vacation. I am a romper lover and seriously over half of what I tried on was rompers and that was not intentional.  I just gravitate toward them.

On Saturday, I got the rare opportunity to go shop solo after brunch.  I was determined to find a swimsuit for my trip, but not surprisingly, that was a fail.  You know what wasn’t a fail?  Restocking my sparkling water supply.

Easter Sunday was lovely, but really not much different from any other Sunday.  We didn’t leave the house and I stayed in my robe all day.  Nobody wore pants.  I lived vicariously through everyone on Facebook in their Easter outfits.

In the wee hours of Sunday morning, I busted my ass carrying Claudia down the stairs.  I now have a gnarly bruise on my ass.  It is super painful and I can’t even sit normally or lie on my back.  A group I am in on Facebook completely imploded when I took shit to a petty and dramatic level.  I was just all done with it.

Did you have a good Easter?  What do you do for the holiday

Week in Review: Rhonda

Well it’s been a rough week.  So rough, that I didn’t even think about writing this post until after noon.  I woke up really sick Monday.  A cold morphed into a sinus infection and I was lucky enough to PMS through the entire thing!

Monday and Tuesday were complete blurs…. post office runs, shots of medicine, and lots of time in the bed reading and watching TV.  Overnight, about 2 am on Tuesday morning, we were woken by the weather.  Tornado sirens forced us into our tiny half bath, but we were very fortunate and suffered no damage.

Wednesday, we made a meal plan and a trip to the grocery store.  I was so excited to cook some yummy stuff.

I honestly can’t tell you what happened Thursday, other than drinking lots of coffee and tea for my throat.  I think I had pretty much hit the worst of my sickness.  I legitimately wanted to sleep all day.

Friday was Claudia’s birthday and we took a trip to her favorite place, Target.  She was able to choose one thing out of the dollar spot and naturally, she chose bubbles.  I hate bubbles, but birthday girl gets what she wants. After Target, I made taco salad and packaged up orders.

Saturday, we celebrated Claudia’s birthday in the best way.  As soon as Dustin got here, we had brunch, then opened presents and had cupcakes.

After that, Claudia and Quentin helped Stuart clean his motorcycle before we grilled burgers for dinner.  I can’t think of a better way to spend a Saturday.

Sunday we woke to lots and lots of rain.  The patio began to flood, but luckily it stopped short.  We had brunch again as usual then after Dustin headed back home, had some tv time in bed.

Sunday night was the ACM Awards, just about my favorite thing to watch all year.  I completed my journal spread and enjoyed too much vodka.

What did you do this week?  Any celebrations?

 

Happy International Women’s Day

It’s International Women’s Day and we believe in the importance, strength, and power of a woman.  Above all, we believe in equality for everyone.  Take today to shop a woman-owned business, send flowers to your favorite women, or say a simple thank you for all women do that goes thankless and unnoticed.

Week in Review: Rhonda

I don’t know why, but it was the longest week ever to me.  I stayed busy and had a great time, but Monday through Thursday absolutely DRAGGED.

On Monday, I drove down to pick up the kids from their dad.  On the drive, Brett Young’s Live from NYC show came on The Highway.  It was exactly what I needed for that drive.  I sang, laughed, and cried the entire way.  His stories behind his songs are what really made the emotions connect.  When we got back into town, Claudia and I went on a last-minute hunt for Valentines, which I absolutely do not recommend.  Claudia was so excited to be reunited with her ‘Tuart, which is always nice to witness.

Tuesday was of course Valentine’s Day.  My homeschool social group held a Valentine’s party.  We find that the one thing previously public-educated children miss the most is school parties and events, so we recreate that the best we can. Our holiday party was good, but this Valentine’s party was epic.  I owe it all to the hostess, Trayci.  She did an amazing job hosting in her beautiful 100-year-old home.

When Stuart got home (at a decent hour for once!), we exchanged our simple valentines.  He gave me a beautiful card and I gave him a framed image of the day I started falling in love with him, paired with the morning after we got engaged, both taken at the same table at our brunch spot.  I topped it with part of a song by Ryan Follese that is so “us.”

But I’ve got one thing right
Here in my arms
And for once in someone’s eyes
I can do no harm
Ain’t no laws up this high
I don’t need these lucky stars
I got you
And I won’t think twice
I got one thing right

We ended the day with a delicious meal I made and some TV in bed.

Wednesday was a day to stay home in a comfy sweatshirt and get some housework and meal prep done with lots of coffee….then cocktails.

Late Wednesday night, the kids were horsing around and Quentin busted his chin.  So Thursday morning, having not had enough sleep, he crawled into bed with me while I was having coffee.  Once we got out of the bed, I got so much shit done.  I don’t know what motivated me, but I was just nonstop all day, washing sheets, cleaning our bedroom, and cleaning out kitchen cabinets.

 

I had planned to finish organizing the kitchen on Friday, but the weather was amazing and our kitchen light was out, so we hit up the playground and the grocery store instead.  Back at home, the kids watched some movies and then we of course greeted Stuart on the patio when he got home.

 

If you aren’t new to this blog or my social media accounts, you know my weekends involve lots of mimosas.  This Saturday was no different.  We started the morning with drinks and brunch at home then Claudia and I “helped” Stuart clean his bike. Late afternoon, we went to downtown Dallas for the kids to hit up the splash pad and get a change of scenery.  It paid off, because they had a great time and slept really well that night.

I had every intention to spend Sunday cleaning out my closet and doing some purging, but being lazy just felt right.  I did pull a few items I don’t wear out of the closet and purge some old photos, but I spent most of the day sipping on assorted beverages, snuggling my people, and participating in spontaneous dance parties with Claudia.  It was absolutely perfect.

I hope your week was equal parts productive and relaxing, because isn’t that the best kind?