Week in Review: Rhonda

Last week, we skipped out on our Week in Review posts because we were trying to wrap our minds around the tragedy in Las Vegas.  I don’t know that I’ll ever really be able to wrap my head around it, but I can’t allow my  life to completely halt following tragedies.

My kids are STILL out of town at their dad’s, so I have been trying to be productive while doing some things for myself as well.  Let’s just hit the highlights of the last two weeks, in no particular order.

There was bath beer, drinks with the girls, and sunbathing.

There was patio chilling and grilling, and yummy comfort food whipped up in the kitchen.

There was more sunbathing and a date night.

There was brunch at our spot.

It was a lovely couple of weeks and the freedom I have had is coming to an end – this weekend!  What would you do if you only had a few remaining kid-free days?

Weekend Roundup: Top 5 Posts

With a growth in readers and followers, it’s time to once again link you up to our most read posts.  Whether you’re new around here or just missed something, take a moment to go back and read our top 5 posts.

5. Three Years – an ode to Claudia Love on her third birthday

4. The Story of My Tattoo: Ashley – a tale of a spontaneous decision made in the Fort Worth Stockyards

3. From Arrest to Engagement – the story of how poor decisions can lead to something amazing

2. Nipstick – how to find the perfect nude for your lips, while nude

  1. A Drinking Problem – a response to some cowardly and ignorant accusations

 

Which of these posts is your favorite?

Five First Date Must-Haves

I am a huge fan of first dates – choosing an outfit, getting ready, that nervous first moment when you meet up or are picked up, hopefully great conversation, the awkwardness of whether to hug or kiss.  I don’t necessarily enjoy wondering if he will text back, but it’s all part of it.

I haven’t been on a first date (or any date for that matter) in a long time, but I have a lot of experience and am happy to share my expertise.

So what do you need for a first date?  There are five essentials I wouldn’t dare go on a date without.

  1. Your good underwear.  Now, I know what you’re thinking.  “I don’t do that on the first date.”  That’s fine.  I don’t either, in theory.  But I did once or twice.  It happens.  The thing is, wearing pretty and well-fitting underwear isn’t just in case you get undressed during your date.  Wearing nice and pretty matching underwear that fits like it was made for you boosts your confidence and makes you feel and act sexy.  I started wearing Soma Intimates exclusively last year and it changed the way I carry myself, whether I’m out running errands in cutoff shorts, out on a date in a lace dress, or getting naked.
  2. A Kiss-Proof Lipstick.  With any luck, you’ll get a first date kiss.  Don’t try to tell me you don’t kiss on the first date.  It’s a must.  Don’t waste a second date with a bad kisser.  Gross.  Anyway, I personally feel sexy in confident in a red lip, but don’t want to smear it on my partner’s face (or neck or…. anywhere).  Luckily, I’ve been using Lipsense most of this year and that problem is GONE.  You can ask my fiance, we are both big fans.  It doesn’t transfer to him (or on my glass).  You can hit me up on my Facebook group.  Our readers get 10% of their first orders!
  3. Breath Strips.  If you’re anything like me, you’re going to eat a nice steak with a garlic butter and your breath may not be amazing when the meal is done.  Or maybe you’re just on a date to a hole in the wall bar.  Beer breath is no bueno either.  No worries – excuse yourself to the restroom while the two of you are waiting for the check.  Pop a breath strip in your mouth and by the time you have washed your hands, it will have dissolved and your breath will be kissably fresh!
  4. A pre-date drink.  It doesn’t matter how much I am looking forward to a date or other event – I have ridiculous situational anxiety.  I will literally get sick in anticipation of things to come.  It’s not necessarily the alcohol that calms me as I do my hair and makeup, it’s the ritual.  Sipping on a drink (I tend to do bubbly or wine) while you blend your eyeshadow can really calm your nerves.  And well, if you do choose an alcoholic drink, you’re more likely to be yourself and a little more receptive to flirtation.  Just don’t go overboard.  You certainly don’t want to start a date drunk.
  5. A friend on SOS duty.  Look, you never know when a date is going to be a bust.  We should all be ladylike and mature enough to sit through and end a date that is a little awkward and boring, but never “tough out” a date with someone who is disrespectful or makes you truly uncomfortable.  You need a game plan.  Have a friend you can slip to the bathroom to text, who will text or call you in a few minutes with an emergency.  Be prepared with code words in case you should ever feel unsafe.  Dating is supposed to be fun, but never take for granted that your date is going to be a good guy.

 

What are your first date musts?  And I need to know, have you ever had to utilize an SOS text?

Week In Review: Rhonda

Dang, it’s Monday?!  Only discovered that when I saw that Ashley posted the recap of her week.  I guess I’ll update you on MY life.  I’m sure you’re just dying to hear all about it.

You all know what Monday was – big eclipse day!  Well, it was also our first day back to school and we had a great day!  We watched the big event live on NASA’s Facebook feed all day.  Later I found Harper using a flashlight to recreate the eclipse.  I love watching his mind work.

Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday were pretty basic.  Figuring out a school routine and general household and work duties.

I got a great surprise Friday when I woke up and Stuart was still in the bed, smiling at me.  He had taken the day off unexpectedly and it made my day.  He helped me with school, which the kids really seemed to enjoy.  We played Trivial Pursuit, during which we discovered Nick has never heard of Levi’s.

Saturday, we took another trip to IKEA, this time with two kids.  We spent so much time there, during which we LOST CLAUDIA.  We were in the kitchen area of the showroom and Quentin was marveling over some stools.  We mentioned that we were headed to the dining tables to take another look at the one we wanted.  Some baby girl hobbled over and touched my leg and I looked down expecting it to be Claudia. It was not and it was then that we realized Claudia was not with us.  Panic.  I immediately turned around and retraced my steps, thinking she got turned around in the crowded store.  Stuart and Quentin were searching the surrounding kitchens.  When I didn’t find her in the last few areas we had been, I switched directions and went ahead.  I found her with an employee who was calling to report her found.  Turns out she had wandered off and a customer found her standing alone.  Scariest moment of my parenting so far.  It was probably only 2 minutes, but it felt like an hour.  Once that nightmare was over, we finished shopping, picked up Claudia’s bed from a friend, and headed home for a late dinner.

Sunday, we started putting together our lovely IKEA haul and that was quite the adventure.  Quentin and Claudia were surprisingly helpful. Stuart’s coworker Jim came over in the evening with his power tools to help with one of the more complicated assemblies in exhange for a steak.

 

Parents Need Sex Too

I hear it all the time from parents and I am willing to bet that either you or one of your friends has said it.

“We don’t have time to have sex. We have small kids.”

Get the fuck out of here with that. That is a bullshit excuse.

Yeah, I hear you.  You are sooo busy.  Guess what?  Everyone is busy, but you make time for things that are important to you.  I’m too busy to feed my kids, but I know they need to eat, so I do it anyway.

Your kids don’t go to bed until 9, which is also about the time your husband falls asleep watching ESPN?  Cool.  It’s time to have a conversation with him.  Have you tried that yet?

Maybe it’s the one hour of the day that you’re going to see your husband, because your schedules just don’t align.  Girl, hand those kids some tablets and lock yourselves in the closet if you have to.  It probably won’t take long.

A friend of mine, at the ripe old age of 24 and parent of one child, told me, “My wife and I have sex about once a month.  There just isn’t time and we are tired.”  No, no, no.  Just no.

Sex is so damn important in a long-term relationship and I am here to tell you this – your marriage will not survive without some nurturing.  I am a firm believer that a marriage or partnership should be prioritized over what the children want.  Note that I said WANT.  I am not advocating starving your kids or skipping diaper changes so you can bang your spouse or cuddle in your bedroom.  What I am saying is you have to be honest with yourselves and realize you just aren’t making the time for one another….and when that happens, things go downhill.

Look, I homeschool 4 kids and work from home.  My fiance works 14-hour days.  Guess who is having sex a lot?  That would be us.

How?

  1. We lock the damn door.
  2. We put our phones away when we get in bed.
  3. We don’t limit ourselves to bedtime.  A Saturday afternoon during an obnoxious YouTube video works great, especially when you’ve had mimosas all morning.
  4. We just GO for it.  Sometimes one of us is super sleepy and clearly not in the mood, but we strip off our clothes and go for a good kiss.
  5. We stay intimate in every way.  Once that is lost, it’s hard to get back..not impossible, but hard. So we tell each other our dreams and secrets and we hug a lot and hold hands in the store.  We laugh a lot and goodness, we drink so well together.  Drinks never hurt.
  6. I take care of myself.  For some women, this isn’t as important.  For me, I feel so much sexier and in the mood when I have on a gorgeous red lip and a satin robe or a dress.  If I am constantly in leggings and a ponytail when he comes home from work, I will never feel hot.

Tonight, put on something pretty, lock the damn door and go for it.

Weekend Roundup: Our 5 Most Read Posts

We are kicking off this new series to give weekend or new readers a good place to start with what to read!

Today, we give you our top five posts.  These are the five posts that, from our start in February 2017, have gotten the most views.  Have you read them all?

5. 5 Things I Want My Daughter to Know About Love – This post, by Rhonda, is a super personal and heartfelt post written for anyone out there who needs some lessons in love.

4. Three Years – An ode to Rhonda’s daughter and a look at how she changed everything.

3. The Story of My Tattoo: Ashley – Ashley got a tattoo on a drunken adventure, but the meaning behind it is a long-held lesson of love.

2. From Arrest to Engagement – How an arrest changed Rhonda’s life for the better.

1. Nipstick – A titillating look at a very personal lip color, by Rhonda and Ashley.

After you read through, share your favorites to social media!  Happy Weekend!

Week In Review: Rhonda

Another week behind us.  It was a really good one, y’all.  There were some very, very bad moments, but overall it was amazing.  Isn’t it weird though how short weeks actually feel extremely long?!

Stuart had to work on Monday, but was able to get out early enough to grill for us again.  We live for that shit.

Independence Day has always been my absolute favorite holiday.  There is nothing better than spending time outdoors with sunshine, family, grilled meats, and all things ‘Merica.  It was a lovely one!  Stuart even took a plain supermarket cake and put berries on it.  He’s the cutest!

Jonathan did my makeup live for Wine Wednesday over on our Facebook page (make sure you’re tuning in for those because we are just getting started).

 

Sadly, Jonathan left Thursday and I wanted to cry.  However, I rallied and got my ass to work.  I worked so much on Thursday and Friday, that it all blurred together.  Being your own boss is amazing, but there is NOTHING easy about it.

Saturday, we went to the pool.  It was a great time for all of us, but my favorite parts of the day are always when we come home and grill.

After working over mimosas, we spent Sunday doing our usual things – going to work with Stuart and grilling.

 


 

Week In Review: Rhonda

Goodness, the last few weeks have been a blur and there are days I completely lose, it seems.  I now have a date for when the kids are going to their dad’s again and I am determined to make the most of those two weeks.  But for now, let’s look back on the past week.

Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday were full of BossBabe-ing and Momming, as most of my weekdays are.  We took a couple of trips to the grocery store and post office and I ran two Facebook parties for my lip biz.

I also unboxed my FabFitFun box as the first installment of a new series on our blog page – Wine Wednesdays LIVE.  Make sure you like our page so you don’t miss those.

Friday, I got up early and hit the ground running, because my oldest “son” was driving my way!  I took another load of packages to the post office AFTER a run to the grocery store.  Then I came home to clean the house and make dinner.  He got in about 4 o’clock.

We lived our weekend as we usually do, but with the addition of Jonathan.  The kids instantly fell in love with him and I think he kinda likes them too.  Ooooh, Quentin decided he wanted to start cutting his own food and he did great!

Obviously, we ended both Saturday and Sunday with grilling and patio time.  We also took some time on Saturday afternoon to go to Stuart’s work and to buy water guns for these triple digit days we’ve been having.

It has been an absolute joy to have Jonathan here and I know we will be sad to see him go!

What was the highlight of your week?

Week In Review: Rhonda

As you know, we had a lot going on and skipped our Week in Review last week.  So I going to to just hit the highlights.  I had a kid-free two weeks, so it was both relaxing and productive, with a good dose of fun!

Tuesday and Wednesday, I took advantage of my solo status and worked at Starbucks and Buffalo Wild Wings…with shopping breaks.  I got a lot of blogging, working, and writing done, along with a healthy dose of people watching.

Thursday and Friday were spent getting some stuff done around the house and relaxing. I worked on some wedding party stuff, which was really exciting.  Friday night was supposed to be the night that Ashley arrived for a visit, but the airline had different ideas, so we invited Stuart’s coworker over to grill.  Stuart grills a mean steak.

Ashley finally arrived Saturday and we had a wonderful whirlwind day.  Shopping, happy hour, a tattoo for Ashley, and a night at the Fort Worth Stockyards.

I finally got to start wedding dress shopping.  More to come on that later.  Suffice it to say, nothing I tried worked, but I got a better idea of what I wanted.

After a Thursday afternoon spent at Starbucks working, Friday brought about a great surprise – Stuart took the day off to take care of our internet issues.  Once those were cured, we went to visit the marketing coordinator at our preferred venue.  We were happy to determine that it is THE place for us.  I’ll tell you more later!  Later that evening, Stuart surprised me with a date night to our favorite steakhouse.  I can’t recommend enough that you try out The Keg in Arlington for the kind of steak that that nearly gives you an orgasm.

We spent Saturday with all the relaxation.  We stopped by an open house for a rental house.  It was oddly situated in a sketchy neighborhood but was a super nice house.    Stuart once again surprised me as we dropped by our wedding venue for a quick beer (they were about to close).  We came home to grill again, which is always a good idea.

Sunday was our final morning without children, so we had brunch, then went to Stuart’s messy-ass office for him to do some work.  Then we hit the road to get the kids, which is always a grand adventure.

What did you do this week?  Get into anything fun?

 

Stop Living For the Freakin’ Weekend

I can admit that I’ve been this person who counts down to Friday…just waiting for the weekend to come so that I can live.  While I do still very much look forward to the weekends, my life got exponentially better when I stopped living for the weekend.  Yours can be that way too.

Here’s the thing, y’all.  There are seven days in a week.  What happens when you spend a good chunk of the week in a blur, waiting for Saturday?  You lose valuable time that you can never get back.

What about the weekend makes it more special than the weekdays for you?

Do you work Monday through Friday and off on weekends? And do you dislike that job?  Is it stressful?  Do you hate school days because of all the chaos that comes with that?  Maybe you are a stay-at-home parent and your other half works weekdays so you look forward to having an adult around on the weekend.

For me, there were times when I did not place much value on the weekends because I was a retail manager and usually worked.  I worked a couple of jobs that were typical weekday jobs and they were highly stressful, so I looked forward to that weekend break and time with my family.  Currently, working for myself from home and homeschooling four children, I crave those weekends, which bring time with Stuart and help around the house.  He works very long days, so I don’t even get to look forward to time in the evenings with him much.

Somewhere along the way, I changed in the last few months.  I started just taking advantage of blocks of time every day.  It took deciding that I was going to be positive and enjoy each and every ordinary day.

A random Tuesday doesn’t have to be full of plans and fun moments to be enjoyed.  It takes a simple action – a naptime margarita, a playdate with your best friend and her kids, watching shitty reality TV in your room while the kids watch YouTube videos, a trip to Ulta or a solo movie while your kids are at school.

There are two things I do every weekday to make sure I am taking care of my mental health and just living my life to the fullest.

  1. My pre-dinner ritual.  Whether or not the kids are home, I turn up my favorite music, pour a drink, and dance around the kitchen while I make dinner.  Trust me, it makes cooking dinner less of a routine chore and more of a moment to be enjoyed.  Sometimes I Snapchat the moment.  Sometimes I Instagram it.  Sometimes I leave my phone on the charger and just soak it in.
  2. Naptime routine.  My boys do not nap and Claudia rarely does, but we still make it part of the day.  They get in their beds, I put on the TV or hand them a tablet, and I take a coffee or beer to my room.  I lock the door and watch DVRed shows, workout, blog, do my makeup…whatever I want to do in peace.  They aren’t allowed to so much as knock on the door unless someone is hurt.

You don’t have to do the same things I do to make your day good.  But do something that makes you happy.  Soak in a bath, text a good friend, watch horrible TV, go for a walk, read a book, sit in Starbucks.

Every day is special.  Every.  Freaking.  One.  Because you’re still alive…. And the weekend will be here before you know it.  Now go live.

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