Week In Review: Ashley

Hey y’all hey! Hope you guys have had a good week and weekend. Have you been dying to know what we were up to? You were?! Great…let me fill you in then. 😉

Monday & Tuesday- normal everyday stuff. This was Cooper’s first week at DayCare. He’s going half days Monday through Friday. I was pretty much a wreck starting Sunday night. I am super great at compartmentalizing things and not thinking about something until I have to actually deal with it. I knew Cooper would be starting school on Monday…but I just didn’t allow myself to really dwell on it until Sunday night. My stomach was in knots. He was SUPER excited. My hands were literally shaking as I filled out some last minute paperwork at the school that morning, and I promptly shed many tears when I got back in my car. Cooper had a fantastic day though!

Wednesday- I was off work, and we started to see some weather affects of Tropical Storm Cindy. Sophie and I dropped Cooper off at school though, because it really wasn’t even raining for most of the day. 🙂 PLUS he still wanted to go. So, Soso and I killed time at WalMart and visiting Grammy at work, because it was her birthday. Around lunch, we headed back to school to pick up Coop. We grabbed some lunch…then headed home to eat and commence nap time. I can’t really remember what else we did…I’m pretty sure I grocery shopped that day. Not positive though.

Thursday- I had to work. The weather was bad thanks to TS Cindy.  There was lots of rain. Cooper’s school was even closed. We all survived though. Starbucks was still open, which I was very grateful for. 😉

Friday- We had work and school of course, but that night I got to hang out with my sister and brother in law who had just gotten back from Europe on Wednesday night. Grace and I had dinner with our friends Michael & Michael – then we headed to meet up with Grace’s husband, Dejan, at their new house. Grace and Dejan got back in to town on Wednesday night and closed on their new home Friday morning! This was my first time seeing the inside. We hung out there for a while talking and catching up before we went to downtown Ocean Springs to grab a drink.

Saturday & Sunday- Just the usual hanging out at Grammy and Ppop’s for the day on Saturday. I got my haircut that afternoon. Saturday night and morning I did spend quite a bit of time catching up on some shows on HULU. Sunday was a lazy day. I picked Cooper up around lunch time and we just spent the rest of the day hanging at home…with a short trip to Walmart for some more groceries.

And that is all folks! What were you guys up to??

Happy Mother’s Day – Love Ashley

It is almost impossible to know where to begin when I think about all the things I want to say to my Mom. Motherhood is such a complicated, messy, all consuming, stressful, frustrating, tear inducing, beautiful, heart melting, smile making, joyful, and euphoric business – where do you even start to talk about all those things?? Becoming a mother myself has made me a million times more grateful for my own mother. When I think of my mom, I think of how selfless and kind she is. I get frustrated with my children often. I can’t remember a single time in my life when my mom showed her frustrations with me. I’m under no real delusions that I was some golden child – and I also know for sure that there was at least ONE time that I brought her to tears (this instance involved my absolute objection to getting dressed…and a tiny toddler drama queen) – but she never ever made me feel like a burden or inconvenience. She always always made me feel loved, special, and important. She still does.

I know that she’s made countless personal sacrifices to make my life and my siblings’ lives better. I know that she loves without condition. I know that she is most happy when she knows her children are happy and well. I’m pretty sure that she is the most patient person I know. She’s lived with my Dad for the past thirty something years…so that is a big test in patience and understanding. For real. She withholds judgement and assumes innocence, until you prove over and over again malicious intent.

Not only is she an amazing Mother, but she is the best Grammy in the whole world. She treats my children as if they were her own. She loves them fiercely and they feel the exact same way about her. She asks to be around them. She makes time for them on a regular basis. She (and my Dad) have them over weekly – which is a treat for them and also an act of love toward me because it allows me to have some ‘me’ time.

I can’t imagine a better Mom than the mine. I know we probably all feel that way about our own mothers…and that’s perfectly fine. That’s wonderful. That’s the way it should be. I love you Mom. I hope you know that I admire you. I hope you know I see all the little things…all the big things…that you have done and continue to do for me – for Grace and Shane – and for those sweet babies that call you Grammy.

So, Happy Mother’s Day and I love you beyond measure.

What’s In My…Carryon? 


Hello hello! I am at the airport waiting for my flight and wanted to share with you what is in my carryon. 


I almost always carry the same thing. I like something small enough to store under the seat and comfortable to carry around. This is a Steve Madden tote I got a couple years ago. Let’s take a look inside. 


Birthday card is one I mailed to my BFF’s daughter and it was returned. I decided to just take it to the BFF on this trip. 

Boarding pass clearly goes. 

Red wallet is the All About the Benjamins from thirty-one. Hands down, best wallet of all time. It has, well, wallet shit. 

Sunnies from Sojos, in their pouch. 

Now, let’s take a closer look at the rest. 


Old ass kindle that isn’t even touch screen. Earbuds. Charging cable for the phone that is not pictured, because I took the picture with it (I actually forgot the cable in the car). Luke Bryan backup charging pack. 


My liquids. Hand sanitizer, lotion, lipsense gloss. It actually just occurred to me that I didn’t even remove the bag at security. 


This beautiful mermaid goddess bag from ipsy holds all the random stuff I didn’t want bopping around the bag. Sunnies cleaning cloth, pepto tablets, ponytail holders, shout wipe. 


You don’t wanna see inside this one. It’s just my diva cup because I lost the bag it came with. Started my period before I even left the house, so the bag is currently empty. I think you know where the cup is. You’re welcome for that information. 


The buffalo check pouch holds some bullet journal supplies and the journal itself. I’ll be pulling it out shortly to do my morning journaling.  

And y’all, that’s it. I pack my LIFE in my checked bags, but don’t like to deal with big or heavy bags in the airport. 

Are you the type to pack a change of clothes and 17 magazines in your carryon? Or just essentials?

 

Rhonda’s Five Wardrobe Essentials

I am sure you have noticed how much I repeat basic themes and pieces in my outfits. There are some things that I just feel good in, just feel like myself in. In addition to that, there are some items that I keep in my wardrobe because they get pulled out from time to time without fail and bring me joy. So, to follow up to Ashley’s post, here are my five wardrobe essentials.

  1. Denim Jacket – Y’all, such a jacket has not been featured in my outfits, but there’s a good reason for that.  I just bought one yesterday for the first time in 10 YEARS!  I lost one when I was pregnant with my oldest son and I never replaced it.  I just never found one I liked enough.   Yesterday, I found the perfect distressed number and now I want MORE.  I can’t wait to wear this with everything.

    jacket from Target
  2. Graphic Tees – At least twice a week, I can be seen in a graphic tee or tank.  I can’t get enough of them.  Whether it’s a band tee, a cheeky phrase, or an abstract design, graphic tees can be styled so many ways…absolutely one of the most versatile articles of clothing.  By the way, I design and sell graphic tees and tanks here
  3. Red Heels – Nothing makes me feel as sexy and powerful as a pair of red heels.  I have put on some pretty BLAH outfits, but threw on red heels and felt amazing.  One of my favorite things to do is pair them with the aforementioned graphic tee and jeans.
  4. Kimonos – I probably have too many, especially considering I wear the same three on repeat.  They are so easy to wear and make me feel perfectly boho. There are so many ways to style them and they even make a great swimsuit coverup.  I know the trend will die eventually, but I’m hanging on until I personally get tired of looking at them. All pictured are from Amazon and the one on the bottom right is currently in my shop here.
  5. Converse – There is no casual shoe I love more than Converse.  I wear them a few times a week.  They go with dresses, jeans, shorts, skirts – literally everything.  If you don’t have any, get them.  Get any color to start.  And wear them – just put them on with everything.

What are your wardrobe essentials?  Do we share any of the same ones?

Happy International Women’s Day

It’s International Women’s Day and we believe in the importance, strength, and power of a woman.  Above all, we believe in equality for everyone.  Take today to shop a woman-owned business, send flowers to your favorite women, or say a simple thank you for all women do that goes thankless and unnoticed.

What’s In Our Bags?

Happy Friday, y’all!  Among our favorite posts from bloggers are always the “What’s in my bag?” posts.  Here we are to show you what’s in OURS today.  In the spirit of transparency and keeping it real, we did not hide anything or clean it out before photographing.

Rhonda-

Mine is a bit horrifying.  I don’t even know how all of this shit fit into that medium-sized purse.

(Purse is Betsey Johnson, Wallet is thirty-one)

Huge wallet is full of credit cards, my ID, and a couple rewards cards that I need to scan onto my phone. There is some change as well.

Spare key to my ex’s van.  I have been carrying it around to give it to him when I see him, but I always forget.

Sunnies from Amazon.  I have these in 6 colors.

Rewetting drops for my contacts.

Antibacterial gel.

Ponytail holder for my daughter.

Lip products galore.  The shiny palette is the Vice lipstick palette from Urban Decay.  I carry it around sometimes just to have lots of lippie options in one place.  Then there’s two Colourpop, a Rimmel, a NYX, a Milani and two lip balms.

Cashews.  Keeping a snack in my purse keeps me from grabbing something bad when I’m hangry.

A rogue Skittle.

Receipts.  I am not sure how these ended up in my purse, as I have a very specific method of dealing with them.  I check and scan them for rebates, then toss them.

Papers. There is a used grocery list and my temporary license, which is no longer needed.

Coins. 

Pen.  I seriously have never seen this pen.

Shout wipes.  I sometimes dribble coffee or wine on myself when out and about.  Plus, four kids.

Medications.  There is Advil and some intestinal stuff, because my anxiety literally makes me sick.

Ashley-

The Purse – This is a CATO purse that was actually part of a two for one type thing. It is a little cross body that was inside a larger shoulder bag. I’ve had it for over a year now, and I JUST pulled it out about a week or so ago to use.

Inside Pocket – This is my little area where I stash check stubs and other important documents I need close at hand. Secret ish stuff you know. 😉

Wallet – Target wallet. It’s pretty simple in design. On the other side is just the pocket for my DL. There is one little zipper that holds cash/coins (on the RARE occasion that I have any…tip money?? Not me ma’am…can’t I swipe my card???)

Lippies –  This is normal..right? Ha. So on the left are all the current lippies that are chilling in my purse. The right are ones that LIVE there.

So starting with the top left I have my EOS hand lotion. A must for this dry skinned lady. Top right is a random pair of janky head phones (yes that is scotch tape on them). And the bottom are my current pair of sunglasses.

And last, we have my emergency bag. It’s one of my Ipsy bags (obviously). I keep extra feminine products, contact case, and a ziplock bag with one dose of Ibuprofen.  The essentials man. 😉

 

 

And that’s it ladies and gentlemen! Hope you enjoyed checking out what we stash in our purses. TGIF!!!

 
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Guest Blogger: Rain in Style

Hi, everyone! Rhonda and Ashley asked me to write a guest post for them and I am so excited! I’d love to chat a little about being a style addicted stay at home mom. What does that even mean?! Being a style addicted stay at home mom? Well, it means a lot of things to me, so grab some coffee (or wine… because let’s be honest, I’m a wine loving mom too) and let’s chat.

First, a little about me. My name is Lorraine, from Rain in Style (find my blog at www.raininstyle.com). I’m 36 and have two young kids ages 6 and 4.5 (that ½ is important… I’m reminded almost daily that’s she’s half way to 5). I left my job in the advertising photography world when my son was born and have been a stay at home mom ever since. And that’s about the same time my style sense and love for style took a back seat to all the demands of being a new mom. In fact, I didn’t really pay very much attention to myself at all until a little over a year ago. That’s when I had reached my breaking point of going weeks without shaving, wearing jeans all year long, and not caring about how I presented myself, so long as my kids were well dressed and bathed. Them before me….that’s the mama code, am I right?

But, what if I told you that sometimes it’s ok to say, me first. For example, I will tell my kids, “no, I can’t help you put together a 1 million piece lego set until I’ve had at least three cups of coffee, or two glasses of wine”. And I’m cool with that. I’m also perfectly fine with saying, “mama needs time to get dressed, put makeup on and breathe a little bit before I go down to make you breakfast”. Why? Because I’ve come to realize that if I don’t do these things for myself, I’m no good to anyone else. Wearing the mom uniform of yoga pants and t-shirts just didn’t make me feel like I was at my very best. That affects my mood, and, if the mama ain’t happy, ain’t no one happy.

So how? How do I muster the energy to take care of me? Especially since I’m not going out anywhere fancy, I mean, let’s be honest, the school drop off line and grocery store runs aren’t that glamourous. And yet, I won’t leave the house unless I feel put together. How? You give your self permission to, and let go of that mama guilt. Easier said then done, I know. For me, I want to show my kids (especially my daughter), that just because I’m a mom, doesn’t mean I have to sacrifice everything else; and for my son, I want to show him that just because I wear heels and makeup doesn’t mean that I’m only skin deep. I might have given up my career to stay at home and raise my kids, but I don’t need to give up my personal joys and self love to be a mom. Start with easy outfits. If you like makeup, then start simple. Have crazy mornings? Shower at night, that’s what I do. Plan your outfits ahead of time. Look for ways to streamline your mornings without taking away time from yourself. Let “me time “ be like a cup of coffee…. You need it, your family needs you to have it, the world around you thanks you for drinking it, and after you drink it you feel like you can conquer the world!

Yes, I’m serious. People will often ask me if I work, and when I say that I stay at home (although I do have part time jobs) they are surprised that I always look so nice. Since when does being a stay at home mom with young kids mean that you have to wear yoga pants and t-shirts all of the time?!? I don’t understand. And, honestly, I don’t think that it’s fair to think if a women is dressed nicely then she must have somewhere important to be. My important place to be, is right here waiting in line with my kids…standing tall and confident in my heels, skinny jeans and rockin’ my pink hair. So, be confident, be bold, be a strong mama…just don’t be last.

The Engagement

As I promised in the post about my arrest, I wanted to share the story of my engagement from my previous blog.

For years I said that if I couldn’t make my first marriage work, I would never remarry.  I fully meant that.  I felt that marriage wasn’t for me, for many reasons.  The moment I realized I had fallen in love with Stuart, I knew that it was forever.  I didn’t immediately put a future husband label on that, but our love just felt bigger than me, like something I had little control over.  It is really hard to explain.  I just knew from the beginning that this was the real deal and it would never end, that I would always fight to protect it.  I can’t put a finger on the moment that I realized I wanted to marry Stuart.  I just remember looking at him during brunch and thinking, I want to make this official at some point, in front of all of our loved ones.  I never want to live without this man.  

On my birthday in December, the kids were out of town and we were gearing up to go out for dinner.  I was feeling great in my outfit with a couple of glasses of wine down.  We were running early for our reservations (for the first time in our relationship), so we sat down for a drink and some music on the couch.  Weeks earlier, I had signed for a package for Stuart and asked him what it was.  He said he couldn’t tell me, because it was for me, but also said it wasn’t necessarily tied to Christmas.  With Christmas and my birthday coming up, I didn’t think much of it but figured it was jewelry due to the size of the box.  Christmas passed and he didn’t give me anything that could have fit in that box.

Sitting on the couch before dinner, he asked me if I would like the gift I signed for.  Well, yeah!  He pulled a box out of his pocket.  A RING BOX.  And then it was open and I was just staring at it, then him.  Stunned doesn’t even begin to describe it.  There was a never a question, because we both knew.  He put the ring on my finger and I may have flipped out a little.  I just kept kissing him and stuttering things like, “Is this..?”  “Are you…?” “Oh my God.” “I can’t…”  It was one of the best moments of my life and I am so glad he decided to go with the moment and keep it private.  It was perfectly us.

I am elated to begin 2017 engaged to this man, the best part of my heart and soul.  After a 13-year friendship, we are headed down a new road.  I can’t wait to set a date and plan the wedding that perfectly encapsulates us, the way the “proposal” did.

Fast forward several weeks…. I now have a date set for a perfectly “us” wedding and it has been exactly one year since our conversation that changed everything (you can read more about that in the arrest post).

I want to share with y’all the highs and lows of our relationship (without divulging so much that our relationship loses too much privacy) and the process of planning this wedding (without so much that I begin boring y’all).  Thanks for joining me on this ride!

What We Wore

Here we are again! It’s time to take a look at a few of the outfits we put together over the past week. 🙂

 

Cardigan: Target T-Shirt: Target Pants: Target Mossimo Jeggings Shoes: CATO Sandals (from two? years ago) Necklace: Kohls (Couldn’t find it on their site – this was a gift to me) Earrings: N&S Champagne Shimmer

Tops: Both from Target – I can’t find the exact ones anymore but here are some good alternatives to achieve a similar look Flannel / Red Tank Leggings: Target … I mean duh 😉 Shoes: Oldies but goodies from CATO (no longer available)

Top: Basic Girl Long Sleeve T-Shirt from a 5K that my sister participated in Jeans: Target Denizen Skinny Jeans Shoes: Sandals from CATO (no longer available) Earrings: N&S Brown Cut out

Jacket: Another Oldie but Goodie from CATO (can you tell I worked there??) T-Shirt: Long sleeve T from Old Navy last year Under Shirt: Tank from Forever21  Pants: Basic Black Jeggings (Surprise!) Earrings: N&S Champagne Shimmer

Sweatshirt:  Target, no longer available.  Leggings: Old Navy.  Exact style not available, but similar here.

Boyfriend tee: Old Navy, not currently available. Leggings: Lularoe.

Kimono: Amazon.  Tank:  Old Navy, not currently available, but just a simple blue tank.  Shorts:  Old Navy.  Sandals: Old Navy, not currently available. Earrings: Nickel & Suede Matte Gold.

Dress: Cynthia Rowley, last spring

Tee: Old “Laissez le bon temps roule” by Crown & Ivy.  Maxi skirt: Cynthia Rowley, old.

Ashley and I discussed this week how we noticed that we wear a lot of leggings. Sorry, not sorry.  Do you have a staple piece that is part of your “uniform?”

Week in Review: Rhonda

I don’t know why, but it was the longest week ever to me.  I stayed busy and had a great time, but Monday through Thursday absolutely DRAGGED.

On Monday, I drove down to pick up the kids from their dad.  On the drive, Brett Young’s Live from NYC show came on The Highway.  It was exactly what I needed for that drive.  I sang, laughed, and cried the entire way.  His stories behind his songs are what really made the emotions connect.  When we got back into town, Claudia and I went on a last-minute hunt for Valentines, which I absolutely do not recommend.  Claudia was so excited to be reunited with her ‘Tuart, which is always nice to witness.

Tuesday was of course Valentine’s Day.  My homeschool social group held a Valentine’s party.  We find that the one thing previously public-educated children miss the most is school parties and events, so we recreate that the best we can. Our holiday party was good, but this Valentine’s party was epic.  I owe it all to the hostess, Trayci.  She did an amazing job hosting in her beautiful 100-year-old home.

When Stuart got home (at a decent hour for once!), we exchanged our simple valentines.  He gave me a beautiful card and I gave him a framed image of the day I started falling in love with him, paired with the morning after we got engaged, both taken at the same table at our brunch spot.  I topped it with part of a song by Ryan Follese that is so “us.”

But I’ve got one thing right
Here in my arms
And for once in someone’s eyes
I can do no harm
Ain’t no laws up this high
I don’t need these lucky stars
I got you
And I won’t think twice
I got one thing right

We ended the day with a delicious meal I made and some TV in bed.

Wednesday was a day to stay home in a comfy sweatshirt and get some housework and meal prep done with lots of coffee….then cocktails.

Late Wednesday night, the kids were horsing around and Quentin busted his chin.  So Thursday morning, having not had enough sleep, he crawled into bed with me while I was having coffee.  Once we got out of the bed, I got so much shit done.  I don’t know what motivated me, but I was just nonstop all day, washing sheets, cleaning our bedroom, and cleaning out kitchen cabinets.

 

I had planned to finish organizing the kitchen on Friday, but the weather was amazing and our kitchen light was out, so we hit up the playground and the grocery store instead.  Back at home, the kids watched some movies and then we of course greeted Stuart on the patio when he got home.

 

If you aren’t new to this blog or my social media accounts, you know my weekends involve lots of mimosas.  This Saturday was no different.  We started the morning with drinks and brunch at home then Claudia and I “helped” Stuart clean his bike. Late afternoon, we went to downtown Dallas for the kids to hit up the splash pad and get a change of scenery.  It paid off, because they had a great time and slept really well that night.

I had every intention to spend Sunday cleaning out my closet and doing some purging, but being lazy just felt right.  I did pull a few items I don’t wear out of the closet and purge some old photos, but I spent most of the day sipping on assorted beverages, snuggling my people, and participating in spontaneous dance parties with Claudia.  It was absolutely perfect.

I hope your week was equal parts productive and relaxing, because isn’t that the best kind?