A Dream Wedding

I wasn’t really the girl who grew up with an idea of a dream wedding in my head.  I actually spent a lot more time dreaming up my ideal marriage.  I wanted to be a career woman with a couple of kids and a husband I could dote on after my Saturdays spent shopping.

Somewhere along the way, I got engaged a few (several? many?) times.  I got a glimpse into the wedding industry and fell in love with it.  I became a wedding blogger and soon, everything ran together and nothing was original.  A wedding was a wedding.  It really jaded me.

When my ex-husband and I first got engaged, I was really wanting to FINALLY have a wedding.  I loved the glamour and the party and the well-done photography and videography.  What I didn’t love is the fact that we needed to pay for it and, well, I wasn’t 100% certain that I wanted to be with him forever ever.  We eloped at the courthouse and a friend took our pictures (which were super cute).  It was fine.

Fast forward several years and I am engaged again.  I am SO EXCITED to spend my life with Stuart and knew I wanted witnesses this time.  I wanted a party for sure, but I also wanted something that was very us.  It’s almost NOT unique to say you want a “unique” wedding, but it is what it is.  We aren’t striving for unique.  What we are striving for is having those we love the most, who support our relationship, to be present.  Also, we have so many things we want for our family that we are just not interested in going into (further) debt for a party.  So we are doing shit our way.

However, I’d be lying if I said that given $20,000 to specifically spend on a wedding that I would plan the same thing.  So what would my wedding be like in that instance?

This amazing dream dress by Inbal Dror is Stuart’s pick and way beyond what I can pay.

The White House Hotel in Biloxi, MS is my dream venue, but… well it’s a little too costly for us and it being in another state adds on a bunch of other expenses.  It’s dreamy AF though.

I would love for one of “my” bands to be my reception entertainment… something personal.  Sure, it would be fantastic to have Brett Young, Maren Morris, or Gavin DeGraw (my favorites ever ever) to be there, but the fact of the matter is, regardless of all the expensive touches I would put on my “dream wedding,” I still want to know and love everyone involved.  With that in mind, I would hire Gas Station Disco, DUMM, or Light Up the Moon, unsigned bands I have a personal connection to and who know how to get a party started.

As for food, well…. I’m not extra fancy, but I LIVE for our brunches at Bolsa and would die for them to do a brunch in the evening for our wedding.  We fell in love there and it and the staff are special to us.  I can’t even imagine how money much that would set me back!

I met a charming and personable dude when I was blogging in the wedding genre.  His name was Clane and he submitted a wedding to me.  I fell in love with his photography and him as a friend. His photography is stupid amazing and I did look into booking him, but it just wasn’t feasible for us.

These are the things that would be a priority for me, given an unlimited budget.  Don’t get me wrong though – our wedding is going to be the fucking BOMB and those invited are so lucky!  I can’t wait to marry my person and party all weekend long!

Week In Review: Rhonda

As you know, we had a lot going on and skipped our Week in Review last week.  So I going to to just hit the highlights.  I had a kid-free two weeks, so it was both relaxing and productive, with a good dose of fun!

Tuesday and Wednesday, I took advantage of my solo status and worked at Starbucks and Buffalo Wild Wings…with shopping breaks.  I got a lot of blogging, working, and writing done, along with a healthy dose of people watching.

Thursday and Friday were spent getting some stuff done around the house and relaxing. I worked on some wedding party stuff, which was really exciting.  Friday night was supposed to be the night that Ashley arrived for a visit, but the airline had different ideas, so we invited Stuart’s coworker over to grill.  Stuart grills a mean steak.

Ashley finally arrived Saturday and we had a wonderful whirlwind day.  Shopping, happy hour, a tattoo for Ashley, and a night at the Fort Worth Stockyards.

I finally got to start wedding dress shopping.  More to come on that later.  Suffice it to say, nothing I tried worked, but I got a better idea of what I wanted.

After a Thursday afternoon spent at Starbucks working, Friday brought about a great surprise – Stuart took the day off to take care of our internet issues.  Once those were cured, we went to visit the marketing coordinator at our preferred venue.  We were happy to determine that it is THE place for us.  I’ll tell you more later!  Later that evening, Stuart surprised me with a date night to our favorite steakhouse.  I can’t recommend enough that you try out The Keg in Arlington for the kind of steak that that nearly gives you an orgasm.

We spent Saturday with all the relaxation.  We stopped by an open house for a rental house.  It was oddly situated in a sketchy neighborhood but was a super nice house.    Stuart once again surprised me as we dropped by our wedding venue for a quick beer (they were about to close).  We came home to grill again, which is always a good idea.

Sunday was our final morning without children, so we had brunch, then went to Stuart’s messy-ass office for him to do some work.  Then we hit the road to get the kids, which is always a grand adventure.

What did you do this week?  Get into anything fun?

 

Wedding Planning – Introduction

When Stuart and I got engaged this past December, I knew that I wanted to have the whole to-do.  Both of us had gotten married at the courthouse with our previous marriages and while that is lovely and gets the job done, I just wanted something different this time.  I wanted those who love us and support our relationship to be able to witness our union.  At the same time, I also knew that we wanted something personal and intimate that wouldn’t break the bank.

We set a date, then put off wedding planning until after my beach vacation.  I had too much else to focus on and pay for, so it just didn’t make sense to really get into it.  Now, here we are over a month after my vacation and I am just over 300 days away from my wedding date.  What have I planned?  Well, let’s see…

  • Date: CHECK!
  • Venue: Yeah, not so much.
  • Photographer: I have narrowed it down to a couple options.
  • Catering: I have some ideas…ish.
  • Wedding Party: Bride’s, yes.  Groom, uh…pretty sure we haven’t even talked about it.
  • Dress: Ha!
  • Aesthetic: Got that lined up!
  • Guest list: Sort of.  It has been discussed and it’s small enough that I could make the list in 5 minutes.

Safe to say we haven’t done shit.  I bought a planning binder, decided I didn’t like it…bought another.  I picked out my bridal party and they know who they are.  I know what the colors and feel of the wedding are.  I sort of know what I want in a dress and I have some ideas for catering.

We just really need this venue thing nailed down before we can do much else.  And here’s the thing – we have a venue in mind, but we also would prefer to do it in our own backyard….but we don’t have one.  We are trying to find a house and I hope it’s soon so that we CAN figure out if we want to get married there or elsewhere.

What I definitely know about our wedding is it will be intimate, personal, and very us.  In the same way I rage against the MOMachine, I will very much be raging against the wedding industry.  I have zero desire to just go along with and pay for everything I’m “supposed to.”  No thank you.  So you’ll see a lot of DIY and unusual ideas here.

Anyway, I will be posting an update to this series any time I feel like there is something to update on.  First installment will be about my bridal party and that is coming soon!

Anyone else really drag their feet in planning their wedding?