Don’t Hide My Packages, Thanks

Recently, there was a story making rounds on Facebook about an Amazon delivery driver.  He happened upon a home with a “Please Hide Packages From Husband” doormat.  He noticed it and proceeded to do just that – hide the package.  The homeowner’s doorbell camera captured it on video and it was shared repeatedly.  My friends hailed him as a hero.  Not all heroes wear capes and shit.

For a couple of years now, I had been seeing boutiques telling customers to let them know if they need a “congrats for winning!” sticker on their paid orders.

There’s also been variations on the offer to provide a receipt that matches what your partner thinks you paid for an item.

Brilliant, people say.  Is it?

Is it brilliant to encourage people to lie about or hide financial decisions from their partner?  Sure, you’ll get business from someone who needs that service or just appreciates the humor.  This just isn’t how I operate my business.

It’s not uncommon for me to make a purchase quietly and without fanfare and just hope Stuart doesn’t notice.  Although he wouldn’t care if he did notice, I am conditioned from my first marriage that I will be in trouble for spending money.  That marriage didn’t work for many reasons, our financial interactions being one of them.  Lessons learned the hard way.

I realize that these things are just a joke for most of these businesses and homeowners – a little “wink wink.”  It really just isn’t funny to me because of the culture it breeds.  Finances may not be fun to discuss, but having open and honest communication about money stuff is crucial to not only financial security, but to the health of a relationship.

On top of that, if we could stop perpetuating the stereotype that women are shopaholics and men are trying tame their women, that would be great.


Eat Happy: Chili Lime Flat Iron Steak

Hi there.  Welcome back! We’re doing a weekly series that publishes every Thursday wherein we are cooking through one of our FAVE cookbooks : Eat Happy! If you missed the intro post you can click on over here to read that.

We are starting with the very first recipe and working our way all the way through to the end. We will not be sharing with you the actual recipes that we cook. We WILL be sharing our experience during the whole process and our opinion of the outcome. So thanks for stopping by…and let’s dive in to this week’s recipe shall we?

Hey y’all hey. It’s after five and I am FINALLY sitting down to write this blog. And listen. Let’s be real honest. I literally just cooked this bad boy about 30 (ish)  minutes ago. The steak was rubbed down around one and marinated all afternoon though.

And then also – I don’t know if you guys are regulars or if you’ve been here from the beginning of this series, BUT if you are, you may remember how I mentioned that I’m just not a big fan of big slabs of meat. I know, I know. That sounds silly. It’s how I roll though.

The flavors of this dish are allllll up my alley. Obviously, while I was making it I was having fantasies of letting it chill then slicing it super thin and making a taco with it. A taco minus the actual taco of course. A taco bowl. You know: a little bit of shredded lettuce, some guac, salsa, cheese, sour cream, and black olives. YUM

Did I just commit some kind of steak treason? 😉 ALSO, I did not garnish with cilantro. It’s fo sho not my thing. I hate how it smells and tastes. Anyone else feel that way about cilantro?

A little confession: Because I never cook slabs of mean – I’m a little insecure about how my steak looks. Thinking of sharing these pictures makes me just as nervous as the idea of posting a picture of myself in a bikini. LOL Be kind and gentle with me and when you think your steak judgy-ments.

But yeah. I did the damn thing and cooked this steak. It is super delicious. I will not lie though – I ate a couple pieces then stuck it in the fridge to chill and decimate with my taco idea later on tonight. 🙂 🙂

And as always – Anna’s recipes are simple and easy to follow. I cannot ever express how much I appreciate that. This one was so simple that I could for sure come home and tackle it in a reasonable amount of time with little effort on a busy week night which is a major plus when you have to corral and take care of a five and two year old. But what I appreciate the most? The fact that I can feel good about putting this meal in my body since there are no sugars or grains in it.

Thanks so much for coming by today! Tell me, how do YOU feel about slabs of meat? If you have Eat Happy, have you cooked this recipe yet?



What We Wore Wednesday

Haaay it’s  W E D N E S D A Y which is pretty much one of our favorite days of the week. We’re super pumped for our Wine Wednesday Live show over on our Facebook page. It starts at 9pm – so make sure you go like our page and set notifications to ‘ all ‘ so that you get a reminder when we jump on live!

Not only does Wednesday mean it’s time for #winewednesday , but it also means that we are here to show you what we’ve been wearing over the past week!

Ashley –

I’m in the middle of moving so I packed up all my N&S Earrings except my black and leopard pair which have managed to match any outfit I put on. I mean. That’s probably because I wear a lot of black and neutrals BUT I feel like if you’re in the market for some N&S Earrings and want something to match most any outfit – get the Leopard and Solid Back. 

Shirt // Shorts -from TJMaxx [similar] // Earrings

Cardigan // Shirt // Shorts // Earrings 

Chambray Button Up // Tee // Pants//Shoes [Kohl’s-not online]// Earrings

Cardigan // Tee // Pants // Earrings

This Tee is a Luxe Tee from Old Navy and they are on sale for under ten dollars! Go grab them in all the colors! I have several. LOVE them. 

Rhonda –

Cardigan // Tank // Shorts // Earrings

Top // Shorts [Target, no longer available] // Earrings

A List of 13 Firsts and Lasts

Hey Hey and H A P P Y F R I Y A Y!  And this is no regular Friday you guys – it’s Friday the 13th which is always fun. 😉 We thought we’d do a little play on this fun holiday and keep it nice and light around here by giving you a list of 13 Firsts and Lasts to entertain you.

We’ve got a list of 13 things – and we’re going to spill the beans on when the first time we experienced or did them was followed by the last time we did or experienced that thing.

This should be fun, and feel free to play along in the comments!

    1. When was your first/last kiss?
      Ashley – I’m thinking like a kiss a makeout kiss… Sooo my First was sometime in the spring of 2003  when I was 17 or 18 and my  Last wassss like three weeks ago. Lol
      Rhonda – First kiss was 6th grade and last kiss was last night.
  1. What was your first/last job?

    Ashley – my first was Mcdonald’s and my last is my current job at a moving company.
    Rhonda – Day Care teacher was first and currently a boutique owner.
  2. First/Last car accident?

    Ashley – my first was on the way back to college during my freshman year. I merged and my blind spot wasn’t clear so I clipped a lady next to me. My last was sometime last year in the Starbucks parking lot. As I was backing out of my parking space so was the car directly behind me and we collided.
    Rhonda – In the 11th grade, I ran my car off a dark back road and walked away lucky as fuck. My last car accident was when a young girl side swiped me at the gas station in 2012.
  1. What’s the FIRST thing you do in the morning and the LAST thing you do at night? Ashley – the first thing I do is get up and go grab a wash cloth to go clean my face. The last thing I do is check my phone and set it down.
    Rhonda – First thing in the morning I pee, last thing at night I check my phone – repeatedly.
  2. What was the first/last traffic violation you received? Ashley – A speeding ticket was my first and the last was I think when I got a ticket YEARS ago on the way home from Hattiesburg for an expired inspection sticker.
    Rhonda – The first time I was stopped, I was in high school and was pulled over for a rolling stop – and my dad passed by and laughed at me.  The first time I actually got a ticket though was for speeding in college.  I honestly don’t remember the last time I had a traffic violation.
  3. From where did you get your first and last paycheck?

    Ashley – I guess this is kind of redundant…but my first was from Mcdonald’s and my last from my current job.
    Rhonda – My first paycheck was from the day care I worked at in high school.  My last one was from KEEP collective, where I sell jewelry.
  4. What was your first/last pet?

    Ashley – my first pet was a little black dog that I can’t even remember the name of which is horrible! And my last was the dog that my parents have. She was supposed to be Mine…but then I realized for sure I’m not an animal person and I went away to college so now she’s basically like my other sister
    since my parents claimed her. LOL——————————-
    Rhonda – My first and last pets were both dogs.
  5. When was the first/last time you got engaged? (this is funny because we’ve both been engaged multiple times – one of us more than the other. 😉 )
    Ashley -the first time was in 2007 to my then boyfriend…the last time was 2008 (I think) to a different boyfriend. Obviously neither of those panned out cause I’m still not married.
    Rhonda – The first time I was engaged, I was in 1999.  The last time was in December 2016.
  6. When and where was the first/last time you gave birth?

    Ashley – First time was in 2013 at Ocean Springs Hospital…and second was in 2015 same place.
    Rhonda  – The first time I gave birth was in 2006, in Hattiesburg, MS.  The last time was in 2014, in Gulfport, MS.
  7. Who was/is your first and last best friend?

    Ashley – my very first best friend was a girl I went to elementary school with whose name was Ashleigh. And my last is a tie between Rhonda and my Sister.—————————–
    Rhonda – 
     My first best friend was Peaches and my last and current best friends are Ashley and Nicole.
  8. First CD you bought and last song/album you purchased? (cause know ain’t nobody buying CDs on the regular anymore ) Ashley – the first CD I bought was Savage Garden in like 1997. The last song/album I purchased was a Light Up the Moon album. I also pay for Amazon music unlimited monthly  so I don’t have to buy most individual songs or albums.
    Rhonda –  The first time I received music was actually a CASSETTE of the Beastie Boys.  First CD I bought myself was Green Day Dookie.  The last song I purchased was Dan + Shay f/ Kelly Clarkson, Keeping Score.
  9. What was your first/last cellphone?

    Ashley – Goshhh my first was this little blue Nokia back when I was 16…so in 2001 (ish). And my last is an IPhone X.
    Rhonda – My first cellphone was a bulletproof Nokia when I went to college.  It was for emergencies only but was free to talk after 9 pm! My last phone is  an Iphone 7s.
  10. When was the first/last time you got on a plane?

Ashley – my first was when I was like 9 or 10? I’d have to ask my mom. We flew to PA  to visit my aunt. And the last time  was flying home from the –DFW.
Rhonda – The first time I got on a plane was when I was pregnant in 2005. The last time was in 2017 for a trip to Orange Beach.

Anddd there you go guys  – now you know just a little more than you probably wanted to about us. 😉 Hehe We want to know more about YOU though. Please, share some of your first and lasts with us!

Eat Happy: Coconut Crusted Shrimp

Hi there.  Welcome back! We’re doing a weekly series that publishes every Thursday wherein we are cooking through one of our FAVE cookbooks : Eat Happy! If you missed the intro post you can click on over here to read that.

We are starting with the very first recipe and working our way all the way through to the end. We will not be sharing with you the actual recipes that we cook. We WILL be sharing our experience during the whole process and our opinion of the outcome. So thanks for stopping by…and let’s dive in to this week’s recipe shall we?

When I saw that I was going to be making shrimp, I was excited because I love shrimp, but I have also never actually cooked it myself, so there was some intimidation there.  After reading Ashley’s shrimp experience from last week, I was really not looking forward to peeling and deveining them.

Luckily, Kroger had the hookup.  Sure, they were more expensive, but it was a price I was willing to pay to avoid that nasty task.

I was expecting this to be a stressful meal to make, just out of shear intimidation.  However, I poured some tequila, turned on the music, and got to it.

Like pretty much all recipes where you bread or crust something, the most frustrating part was when the coating starts to get super wet and no longer sticks to shrimp.  In other coated foods, I have started doubling the coating so that when the first batch gets wet, I can use the second.  Just a tip for you.

I honestly can’t believe how overall easy this was to cook and how delightful the taste was.  I feel like it’s a dish that I can impress company with, but at the same time, my 4-year-old loved it.

Would absolutely make this again, and kinda can’t wait!

What We Wore Wednesday

Welcome back to another week of style!  We are so thankful for your continued visits.  If you’re new here, be sure to click around and check out other posts!

Don’t forget to join us tonight for Wine Wednesday Live on our Facebook page!


Tee: Mixtape. Shorts: Target, not available. Earrings: Nickel & Suede.

Top: Mixtape. Shorts: Mixtape. Shoes: Target. Earrings: Nickel & Suede. Bangles: Alex and Ani. Leather Bracelet: KEEP Collective.

Dress: Mixtape. Shoes: Old Navy, ancient. Earrings: Nickel & Suede.

Tank: Mixtape. Shorts: Mixtape. Cardigan: Mixtape. Shoes: Target. Earrings: Nickel & Suede.


Shirt: Ash top from Mixtape Boutique Jeans: Old Navy Mid Rise Rockstar Skinnies Shoes: CATO Earrings: N&S Black

Shirt: LVB Art on Society 6 [apparently you can’t get it there anymore 🙁 ] Shorts: Denizen from Target Shoes: Kohl’s Earrings: N&S Signature Gold

Shirt: oldddd Target Clearance Item Shorts: Denizen from Target Shoes: Target Rose Gold Slides Earrings: N&S Pink Suede [not available]

Shirt: Amazon  Shorts: Walmart Earrings: N&S Black Cut Out



I don’t know about you guys, but I am always always chasing volume when it comes to styling my hair. I’ve got super thin and fine hair that kind of just hangs there limply unless I do something to it.

My favorite thing to do to really pump some volume into my lifeless hair? Man. I love a good blowout. I give myself one after every time that I wash my hair. And let me just say, that after years of practice – I’ve gotten pretty good at it.

The thing is. I don’t wash my hair everyday. I typically wash my hair every 3-4 days. So. What do I do about getting some volume in my hair on those no wash days? Well. I’ve got a few tricks up my sleeve, and I thought maybe you guys would be interested in hearing how to achieve that blow out look without the use of a blow dryer!

First things first? The hair that I’m talking about working on is day 2 or 3 after you’ve washed and blow dried your hair. I always use a heat protectant and some volumizing mousse when I am going from wet hair to blown out and dried hair. So just keep in mind that the look I achieve is with those products already in my hair.

Alright, so it’s day 2 or 3 after your wash and you need to kick up those roots and give your hair some oomph! Here’s the things you need:

Large Velcro Curlers

Hair Brush

Flat Iron

Volumizing Dry Shampoo

Volumizing Spray

Flexible Hold Volumizing Hairspray

  1. Brush all the tangles from your hair.
  2. Use your flat iron to smooth down your hair, curl under the ends, and remove any kinks left in your hair from a ponytail holder, headband, or just plain ole sleeping gymnastics.
  3. Lift and spray the roots of your hair with the dry shampoo. Allow the dry shampoo to set then flip your head over and use our fingertips to rub in/distribute the dry shampoo.
  4. Begin by grabbing a 1-2 inch section of hair. Brush the section then spray the section with the volumizing spray from root to tip (spraying along the underside of your hair section). Wrap the section of hair around a velcro curler. Repeat this step until the top two third sections of your hair are in curlers.
  5. Lightly spray over all your curlers with the hairspray.
  6. Continue on with your morning. Put your makeup on. Make and drink your coffee. Search for ten minutes before you find a matching pair of socks for your toddler’s outfit. Or just browse social media on your phone. Whatever you do – I’d let the curlers rest for at least 20-30 minutes.
  7. Remove the curlers. Use your fingertips to rub and shake up your roots to pump your hair up even more. Like sky high. Because inevitably your hair will fall a little bit. Give your whole head a nice generous spray of the hairspray.
  8. Look in the mirror and be amazed at that fresh blow out look that you achieved without a blow dryer!

See the difference?? Obviously, I’d also done a full face of makeup between the before and after. That makes a huge difference too. 😉 LOL But seriously this method just really wakes up and gives some oomph to my flat bed head that I wake up with! 🙂

Also, I am on the hunt for some scentless volumizing spray and setting spray – do you guys have any suggestions? If so, please leave me a comment and I’ll for sure try them!

Date Your Partner

Dating is tricky and hard and fun and exciting and anxiety-inducing.  The last time I brought you dating tips, they were geared toward first dates.  If the first date goes well and things continue to progress, eventually you find yourself in a long-term relationship.  Honey, that is not where the work and the dating ends.  That is where it changes, but becomes even more important.

We hear it said all the time that relationships are hard work.  Sure, in a way…. but that work should be fun most of the time.  Dating your partner is part of the “work” we need to put into relationships.  This becomes more complicated when you have children, limited budgets, or heavy work schedules.  That’s why I’m here, friends… to give you some inspiration on dating the person with whom you share life.

Concerts. Going to see live music may not be the best choice for a first date, because you can’t get to know each other over booming speakers with drunk people bumping into you.  In an established relationship though, it can be so freeing to just let the music flow through you, to have a few drinks and just…vibe.  Thinking about the venue and seat choices can really make or break the experience.  Locally, we have a large venue that has cheaper lawn tickets.  Those allow for you to spread out a blanket and really relax or stand up and dance in your spot.  We also like to take advantage of a venue that has (pricey) suite seats, where the seats are in pairs and have plenty of space around them.  This fits every budget, because you can do anything from a hole in the wall bar with a jazz trio to a suite at an arena.  Choose a music act you both love, find seats that allow you to breathe, grab your partner’s hand, and let the music fill your heart.

Staycations.  When life has been busy and you haven’t had quality time with your partner in awhile, you can find yourself itching for a getaway.  There isn’t always time or money to hop on a plane and take a week (or even a weekend) trip.  Staycations are a great way to have a mini-getaway to reconnect. Drinks by the pool, dinner in the hotel restaurant, breakfast in bed….and let’s face it, hotel sex is just hot.  Choosing a walkable downtown area can provide lots of entertainment and dining options.  Going with a more resort-like location can mean the ultimate in relaxation.  Again, there’s something for every budget and also something for every timeframe.  Whether you can get away for one night or three, booking a nearby hotel is a great way to get the ultimate date night.

Brewery or winery visits.  If tasting and enjoying adult beverages is a part of your relationship like ours is, it is a natural choice to make a date of a brewery visit.  There are so many options these days for places where adult beverages are made.  Local craft breweries often have lawn games, trivia nights, live music, and more.  Some of them even partner with local restaurants and food trucks to bring culinary experiences to the brewery.  Wineries and even distilleries do similar things.  For a great date experience, you’ll want to first choose a place that has your favorite beverages, then look online for reviews so that you ensure you’re choosing a place with a fun vibe.  This is absolutely a low-cost date and if you are short on time, an hour or two is enough time to drink a beer flight and play a gigantic game of Jenga.

Getting out of the house is great, but sometimes, budget and child care concerns just don’t allow for it.  No worries, because some of our best date nights are right here in the house… sometimes with the kids home and sometimes without.

Romantic Night In.  Grill a nice steak, roast some asparagus, and pour a glass of wine.  Settling in for the evening can be done on any night of the week and if you have children, after they go to bed.  After dinner, flip off the lights and flip on the TV for some Netflix and chill (any definition of it you choose) with a bottle of wine.  Wrap up the night with a nice massage and some sexy time.  It really makes for the perfect night, even if it seems a bit cliché.

Backyard paradise.  Sure, it would be amazing to head off to a tropical paradise and sip cocktails in your private infinity pool.  That may not be an option for you on any given Friday evening, but there is another option.  Fill your inflatable kiddie pool with air and water early in the afternoon.  Turn on some string lights and bluetooth speakers.  By night, any kids are in bed and the water is warm.  With or without swimwear, you can now take a cocktail to the kiddie pool and enjoy the evening in your personal oasis.

No matter what you choose to do, having some time alone with your person is essential to maintaining and deepening your relationship.  Make it a priority and it will pay off.

Are any of these date ideas things you have done?  Did you get inspired to date your partner?


Eat Happy: Asian Marinated Shrimp Skewers

Hi there.  Welcome back! We’re doing a weekly series that publishes every Thursday wherein we are cooking through one of our FAVE cookbooks : Eat Happy! If you missed the intro post you can click on over here to read that.

We are starting with the very first recipe and working our way all the way through to the end. We will not be sharing with you the actual recipes that we cook. We WILL be sharing our experience during the whole process and our opinion of the outcome. So thanks for stopping by…and let’s dive in to this week’s recipe shall we?

So, I really love shrimp. Eating shrimp. If you asked me what my favorite meal is I’d probably first reply by saying I’ll eat anything mexican and anything with shrimp.

The thing is- peeling said shrimp really freaking sucks. I can’t tell you how many times during the process of peeling these shrimp that I considered giving up. Pinching their heads off and seeing all the things that secreted during the pinching…. I just can’t imagine willing doing that again for a while.

I mean. Was it worth it? Well yeah. We’re doing this whole thing to get out of our comfort zones when it comes to making NSNG foods. Well, when it comes to making food in general! And also, this was super delicious.

Anna has yet to let us down. 🙂

Also, considering I prepped and cooked this dish while I was also making Quesadilla Casserole and baking/shredding some chicken for another recipe later this week – I can safely say that this shrimp recipe is easy peasy to whip up.

The hardest part is the shrimp peeling. I feel like that could be a form of torture. Cheat on your math test? Here, now you must peel 3 pounds of shrimp.

Sophie, my two year old, wasn’t helping matters when she repeatedly would come check on me and go, “oooh mommy what you doin’? That yucky!” LOL

I didn’t cook my shrimp on skewers. Why? Cause I failed at remembering to buy some. I feel like they probably tasted the same. 😉

But yes, this was super yummy and as always extremely good for my body because there were no sugars or grains!

What We Wore Wednesday

Hey hey, it’s Wednesday! Happy July 4th to you, and welcome back to another installment of WWW wherein we show you guys some of the things we’ve been wearing!

*we may get paid when you shop from links in this post*

Ashley –

Shirt: Mixtape Boutique Pants: Old Navy Rockstar Skinnies Shoes: Target Earrings: N&S Pink

Shirt: Olddd Kohl’s from men’s section Pants: Old Navy Rockstars distressed black skinnies Shoes: Target Earrings: N&S Silver

Shirt: Mixtape Boutique Shorts: Target Denizen high waist Earrings: N&S Silver

Rhonda –

Tee: Twisted Buffalo Boutique. Shorts: Mixtape. Shoes: Target. Life-saving period pain relief clipped on my shorts: Livia. Earrings: Bauble Bar.

Top: Marshall’s. Shorts: Target, not available. Shoes: Target. Earrings: Nickel & Suede.

Tee: Mixtape. Shorts: Target, not available. Earrings: Nickel & Suede.