Don’t be an Entitled Working Parent

The other day my sister and I were having a conversation about working – more specifically we were talking about taking time off from work. I made the offhanded comment that I didn’t want to be that person … that parent … who made non parents ( or even older parents with grown children that were no longer as dependent upon them like my tiny babes are on me ) feel like my time off from work is more valuable than theirs. Her immediate response was, “Oh yes, please don’t be that person.”

That conversation made me really sit back and think. I honestly don’t ever want to be that parent. I’ve been on the opposite end of that situation, as a non parent, way too many times. And I’m here to say, as the mother of two babies, that MY need for time off from work is no more important than anyone else’s just because I have children. Maybe you’re reading this as a parent and are thinking it’s strange that I think this is even issue, because you are so not that parent that makes non parents feel less important. If so, go you. But MAYBE you are that parent. OR maybe you are that non parent whose priorities were pushed to the wayside in favor of a parent’s priorities for time off from work. Either way. What I have to say is for you. All of you. 😉

 

I didn’t have my first child until I was 28 years old. Prior to that I’d worked in management since I was 19 years old. So pretty much a solid ten years in management as a non parent. I’ve had to referee my employees who were parents and the ones who were not parents as they fought over days off. I’ve dealt with having to sacrifice my own desire to be off because a parent that I worked with played their parent card. One of the very first instances that comes to mind when I think about how parents are often prioritized when it comes to time off occurred when I was the assistant manager of a clothing store. I was in my early twenties. My store manager was probably around my age now. She had two small children. It was summertime and the Fourth of July was coming up. We were discussing who should get that holiday off. She said that she felt like she should get the holiday off. Not because she was the store manager. Not because she had worked some previous holiday while I was off. She said that she should get that holiday off, because of her children. Y’all. The Fourth of July? Yup. It had always been a holiday that was special between her and her children. They had faithfully attended the town’s local firework display the years prior. So. Because she was a mom. And I wasn’t. She said she should have that day off. Now, the Fourth of July is not a big deal to me. And I am super passive. So, I didn’t put up a fight. BUT that memory has always stuck with me. I find it to be a ridiculous reason. She didn’t even have to play the mom card. All she had to do was ask if I cared or had any 4th of July traditions, which I didn’t, and that would have been the end of the story.

 

Another holiday most often claimed by parents? (Mom’s specifically) : Mother’s Day. Ok. Maybe at this point…you’re thinking…hey now Ashley. That’s a legitimate holiday for a mom to stake her claim on. And yeah. You have a tiny point. However, guess what? Maybe your coworker isn’t a mom….BUT she has a mom of her own, who would probably love to spend that day with her daughter and vice versa.

 

Some other holidays that parents try to man handle their control over ( as far as time off is concerned ) ? Thanksgiving and Christmas. And – the same concept applies. Yes. You are a parent. You want to celebrate all your winter holiday traditions with your children…on the actual holiday days. You think, “these non parents I work with just don’t understand – they don’t need to be off as much as I do.” Wrong again. Those non parents. They have family too. They have special people in their lives that they want to see during the holidays. Stop infringing on their right to enjoy a holiday off.

 

What is my point?? Take your turn. If you have to work on Christmas Day… move your Christmas Day celebration to another day. Put this little sacrifice in your back pocket. And pull THAT out when you want a different day off. Not your parent card.

 

Bottom line…we chose to become parents. We have a choice not to become parents…every step of the way, from before to after conception. That’s the truth. You are not more important or more special just because you have children. Don’t use your kids as an excuse to get to the front of a line that you do not deserve to be at the front of. Wait your turn … just like everyone else.

 

I’m not saying emergencies don’t happen. They’ve happened to me. We have these little human beings that cannot take care of themselves. Sometimes, situations occur where childcare falls through – and you HAVE to leave work or take off work to look after them. That’s not what I’m talking about. I’m talking about the blatant disregard for the value of a non parent’s time off or need to have time off in favor of a parent’s  –  simply because they are a parent.

 

Let’s not be that parent. Let’s be considerate of our co-workers. I’m an adult. If something happens and I can’t take off work (and I obviously have time to plan – talking NON emergency folks) to take care of my children when their typical childcare is not available to me – I’ll figure something out. I’ll make it work.

 

I’m not going to not show up to work, because I failed to plan ahead when I had plenty of opportunity to find alternate childcare. I’m not going to be late for work, because I just spent a sleepless night up with a sick kid and expect my non parent coworkers to just understand and forgive me and pick up my slack. I’m going to wise up and learn when to distinguish legitimate kid sicknesses or injuries that require me to actually leave work early vs something that can wait until I get off.

 

My kids are my responsibility. I do the best that I can to take care of them, be their mom, and still be me – and not let areas of my life, like work, suffer because I’m trying to be the best mom that I can be.
Ok, getting off my soap box now. 😉 Thanks again for listening….and maybe nodding your head in agreement? Or even rolling your eyes at me. It’s cool. You do you man. But…maybe when you aren’t all infuriated in the moment of your self righteous parenthood feelings of entitlement…you’ll be able to step back and see the value of my point. 😉

 

March ipsy Reveal

Thanks for coming back to see what we got in our bags this month.  We described ipsy to you last month:

What is ipsy? It is a monthly subscription service. You pay ten dollars a month and get a cute bag and five makeup/beauty related products. They are usually deluxe sample sized – sometimes you get a full sized product. When you sign up you do a little ‘get to know you’ type of survey that the ipsy peeps use to determine what types of products to send you. Also, as you receive the products each month you get to review each one individually. If ipsy sends you something you absolutely hate…all you have to do is let them know in the review and they won’t send it again. For instance, say you get some nail polish in your first bag, and you don’t really care for nail polish. Let them know in the review that you’d like to not receive it again. And voila! They won’t send it in your bag anymore!

We both look forward, with great anticipation, each month to receiving our ipsy bags. Ipsy is a great way to try out all kinds of different beauty brands and products without investing in the full size version – not knowing if you will like it or not. You don’t get to hand pick what comes in your bag, but we are pretty sure that there won’t be many times that you regret trying what they send you. 😉

Ipsy rewards you points for referrals, purchasing through their website, and reviewing.  The points can be redeemed in the rewards shop toward products.

You can sign up to receive ipsy by clicking here (we may receive credit if you sign up).  On to March’s goodies!

Rhonda-

This month’s bag itself is so pretty.  It wasn’t quite what I expected based on pictures, but it’s a nice velvety fabric and has a pretty rose gold zipper. You’ll see I got 6 items.  I bought one of them with my points.

OFRA cosmetics peach blush – I have received several OFRA products in the time I have been with ipsy.  I have loved every one.  They have the best sheen and pigmentation and this one is no different.  You get a great natural flush with a sheen with a single swipe (see top swatch above).  The blush is perfectly buildable so you can add on the color.

EYEKO fat eye stick in Satin – This creamy crayon twists up and gives such amazing coverage.  One swipe gives all the pigment you need.  It will be great alone or with a powdered shadow over.  It can be applied without a brush if you’re the type to just want a quick, no-fuss, touch of color on your lids.  This Satin color will look good on everyone (see bottom swatch above).

Elizabeth Mott blending brush – The first thing that struck me about this brush is the coloring.  I love the minty handle and the rose gold accents.  Right up my alley.  I love Elizabeth Mott products and this did not disappoint.  The synthetic bristles are perfect for blending out creamy products without wasting any.  It seems high quality and well made.  I can’t see it shedding.

Styli-Style pressed pigment in liquid gold – This is what I bought with my points.  I had kind of low expectations because I had never heard of this brand.  Holy smokes, it was definitely the stand-out of my bag!  The antique gold hue gave amazing coverage with ONE SWIPE (see middle swatch above).  I literally gasped when I tried it on my eyes.  Truly amazing.  Blendable and highly pigmented.

Marula Pure Beauty Oil, Pure Marula facial oil – I haven’t used this on my face yet, but I am a big fan of facial oils in general.  I swiped some onto my wrist.  It feels nice, soaked into my dry skin, and smells great without being strong.

Cake Desserted Island supreme body mousse – Holy heavens, this stuff was like some decadent frosting on my dry ass skin.  It smells AMAZING and feels great.  I hate for body creams to leave a residue and I totally forget this one is there!

Ashley –

I really like this month’s bag design. I like the color , and I like that it is able to be folded. I got six items this month as well, because I also redeemed some of my points. 

Neogen Coconut Milk Cleanser – This stuff was just okay for me. It didn’t wow me, but I will for sure continue to use it until it’s gone. Will I purchase it? Probably not. The smell is pretty strong. Surprisingly it does not smell like coconut at all – it actually reminds me of Olay Bar Soap. My Mimi always only used Olay bar soap. So that was kind of nice that it reminded me of her. 🙂 However, I’m not a fan of such a strong perfumy scent when I’m trying to cleanse my face.

Skone Blending Brush – I love a new brush. And I really really love a new blending brush. Seriously. 🙂 I like this one. The bristles are way  longer than any of my other blending brushes, so that was a bit of an adjustment at first. After using it for several days – I can officially say that I’ve fallen for it. Like I said. I’m a sucker for a good blending brush. 😉

Tarteist Lip Paint in Rose I’m still on the fence about this one. I was actually super excited to know that I was receiving a Tarteist Lip Paint, because I’d been wanting to try one. I <heart> all the things Tarte that I’ve tried so far. I think I’m just not wild about the color on me. The formula was pretty typical to most liquid lipsticks that I’ve tried. It didn’t feel super heavy on my lips, but it was definitely drying.

Freematic Eye Shadow Doucce – This is the little tiny Mauvey shaded eye shadow. Eh. Honestly, I feel like Ipsy has sent me this shade (in different brands) a couple times before. It was an ok shadow. I definitely had to build the pigment up.

Chella Ivory Lace Highlighter/Crayon – I wasn’t even sure what this crayon was meant to highlight. Of course I asked Rhonda. She told me it was for my brow bone. I like it ok. I felt like a cream highlight for the brow bone would be more suited for someone who was looking for sharp defined brows. I’m not that girl. I just fill in and darken my eyebrow hairs that are naturally there. No sharp drawn on lines here.

Swatches Left to Right: Highlighter Crayon, Freematic Eyeshadow, and Styli-Style Pressed Pigment

Styli-Style Pressed Pigment in Liquid Gold – This was an extra in my bag that I got by redeeming points. Y’all. This stuff is sooo pigmented and sooo pretty. The day I wore it, Cooper complimented me. When a three year old notices your eye shadow – well that eye shadow is doing something good for ya. 😉 As you saw above – Rhonda bought this with her points as well. And we are both in love with it. 🙂

 

That’s it you guys! Thanks for checking out our bags. Have you signed up for Ipsy yet?? Click that link above and go do it. If you do get Ipsy, what did YOU get this month?

 

What We Wore

Welcome back to the blog.  We are seriously so thankful that you keep coming back to read!  It’s once again time to show you what we wore this week.  It promises to once again be completely groundbreaking.  [end sarcasm]

Hockey hoodie:  Dallas Stars merch.  Jeans:  Old Navy.  Shoes: Converse.  Unimpressed expression:  Courtesy of getting up early for a long drive.

Sweatshirt: Target.  Jeans: Old Navy Rockstar, exact pair not available.  Shoes: Converse.

Dress: Amazon.  Chambray:  JCPenney, old AF.  Shoes: Betseyville for Target, no longer available.

TShirt: Old Navy from last year.  Jeans: Old Navy.  Bracelets: Alex & Ani.  Earrings: Nickel & Suede.

Top: boutique.  I also had on leggings and awesome shoes, not visible.

TShirt: Old Navy.  Shorts: Old Navy, not current.

So yeah…basically I failed to take good outfit pics on the days when I actually put on cute clothes.  Cool.

 

 

Pants: Liverpool Skinnies from Stitchfix Shirt: Old Navy  [similar] Scarf: Gift from Rhonda 🙂 [similar] Jacket: Target Sunglasses: Sojos on Amazon Earrings: N&S Brown Cut Out

Cardigan: Walmart [similar] Shirt: Walmart [similar] Pants: Red Jeggings [similar] Earrings: N&S Select Leather Red

 

Jacket: CATO [similar]  Dress: Target Clearance Earrings: N&S Gypsy  Teal

Cardigan: Walmart [similar]  Shirt: Walmart [similar]  Jeans: Jordache Skinnies Earrings: N&S Minty Fresh This was St. Patrick’s Day – I actually remembered to dress myself AND the kids in green! 🙂 🙂

FYI – Ashley Speaking… I just finished editing my portion of this post with my children climbing all over me, hitting each other with light sabers, pushing a lawn mower back and forth in front of me, and along with constant intermittent pulling at my laptap or trying to hit the keyboard…you get the point. I literally feel like I just accomplished a great feat by finishing it without having a major breakdown. Anyway. Mom life for real. 🙂 

Hope you guys have a fabulous Wednesday! What were y’all wearing this past week??  Click over to the Pleated Poppy to see what others are wearing.

 

Week in Review: Rhonda

This week was so much fun, but went by incredibly fast.

Monday, I ate amazingly and prepped some deviled eggs and cucumber salad. Unfortunately. I also go into some gelato.  Oops.  We finished up math and science before the kids’ spring break.

Tuesday, we wrapped up our Ireland and St. Patrick’s Day studies, during which my children proved to me that they don’t understand religion at ALL.  I think we are starting next school year with a unit on world religions.   I went grocery shopping, which I genuinely enjoy. We watched the much-hyped This is Us finale, and I was completely underwhelmed.  WTF was that nonsense?  Came prepared with tissues and didn’t need them.

Wednesday, I took the kids to their dad and it was time for me to do ME.  I watched TV on my living room TV without interference and went shopping for both clothes and wine.   It was lovely to have time to myself.

Thursday was a great day for me. With the kids gone and Stuart at work, I took care of some errands and shopped again.  I stocked up on my nails, found a top for my weekend plans, and browsed some wedding dresses.

Friday was St. Patrick’s Day.  We spent most of the day driving to Mississippi.  We met up at Buffalo Wild Wings, the place we first met, with my brother and sister-in-law, Stuart’s sister and nephew, and our mutual friend Dave.  It was the first time being together with family members and it was a great time.  We stayed the night at his sister’s house.

The entire reason for the trip to Mississippi was to get my hair done.   You could say I am a little loyal to my stylist.  I got my unicorn hair back and it feels and looks amazing.

Saturday night was epic, as it always is when Ashley and I get together.  Our Michael and Stuart made great dates for Chili’s and the Chill Lounge at the IP casino (totally our place forever).

Boy, was Sunday long AF.  We had a 13-hour drove and I was so hungover during the entire trip.   I guess that’s what you get when you stay out drinking til 3 am when you’re 36-years-old.

Week In Review: Ashley

Hey y’all… and welcome back to another Week In Review by yours truly. 😉 Let’s see what were we up to this past week? Monday and Tuesday were pretty typical. Work go home…etc etc. We did have to start a count down to Ppop’s house for Cooper.

That kid. He has a flair for the dramatics…for sure. Therefore the nightly countdown is necessary to help him get through the LONG week ..you know…before he gets to go back to his Ppop’s house the following weekend. lol

Wednesday, I was off. I decided to take the kids to the park, which was not the best decision. You see, we got a little taste of winter this past week. It was pretty dang cold at the park. We literally only lasted 30 minutes before it was time to go. And by we, I mean mommy. The children would have stayed out until their little fingers froze off.

So, after our failed park visit – we headed to Target for some things we needed. Of course, we grabbed Chick-Fil-A for lunch. Halfway through our Target trip I informed Cooper that he’d have to take a nap when we got back home. That little announcement didn’t go over well..so I spent the last half of my trip listening to him whine and complain and tell me how he was “plenty rested” from the night before. That was super fun.

Sophie was all about that nap time. Coop, true to his word, did not take a nap. Mom had things to do – so I put him to work. 😉 We washed dishes, changed several light bulbs, did a little laundry, cleaned the floors, etc.

He was a huge help…and the joke was on me…because he loved helping me. hehe He always has though. 🙂

Just LOOK at that baby pony tail. She’s so stinking cute. Alllll the heart eye emojis at that.

Friday was St. Patrick’s day. I somehow remembered to dress everyone (including myself) in some shade of green. 🙂 Anddd I celebrated that night in true cliche parent fashion, by sleeping in my bed. All night. Well, except when someone needed a sippy cup with some milk in it. 😉

Andddd Saturday night I got to see my love! 🙂  Our friend Michael also came out to hang…and Stuart was there too – but I didn’t get any selfies with him. 🙁 We went to eat at Chill and then went to the Chill Lounge at the IP Casino. It took FOREVER to get our meal at Chili’s. So by the time we made it to the Chill –  the place was packed. Our poor little feet were dying by the end of the night – cause you know: heels. It was so much fun seeing Rhonda…but that night and the whole weekend, actually, went by waaaaaaay too quickly. I will definitely be planning a trip to Dallas soon!

Anyway, that’s what my week looked like. How was yours? What did you guys do? Anything fun for St. Patricks Day?

Flash Back Friday + A little News

So, you guys, something super exciting is happening this weekend. It literally just occurred to me this morning…that we haven’t even said aword about it over here on the blog. As you all know – well I’m assuming you know…because I’m assuming you’ve read our About Us page…BUT if not … Rhonda lives in Arlington, TX and I (Ashley 🙂 ) live in Ocean Springs, MS. Y’all that is 578 miles apart. Rhonda moved to Dallas last fall. We’ve tried to arrange a couple of trips between then and now but things fell through for one reason or another. HOWEVER, this weekend Rhonda and Stuart are for sure coming down here! What does that mean? Oh, my friends, that means epic amounts of fun will be had. 😉

I just wanted to announce that. And say, keep a look out at our social media (Twitter, IG, SnapChat). I’m sure we’ll be posting like crazy.  AND I thought it would be a great time to tell you guys a little about how we met, the history of our friendship, and show you some of the fantastic selfies we’ve taken together over the years. I mean really. Some of these are definitely embarrassment worthy (on my end for sure). And surprisingly I’ve posted several of these more shady ones to my facebook page! Thankfully, now I am older and wiser and only post the most respectable and good looking ones. 😉

October 2009

Rhonda and I met each other while working at a women’s retail clothing store in Lucedale, MS. That was almost ten years ago now. Which is incredibly crazy to think about. Really. That ten years went by in a freaking flash. Back then I was childless and Rhonda only had Nick. Nick, who by the way is basically looking like a grown man, was just a wee little babe. I had a Mercury Cougar – a little two door sporty car. We used to (somehow) stick his carseat in the back of that thing and head to Mobile for shopping and hang time.

 

February 2011 – That guy was not with us. He totally epically photobombed us. 😉

When we first met and started working together, I’m pretty sure Rhonda didn’t really care for me…or she thought I didn’t care for her? I can’t remember. I am an extremely introverted person. So a lot of the time I come off as being aloof and rude. I’m not. I’m just unsure of myself and embarrassingly socially awkward (unless I’ve had some wine…… that’s a story for another day though). So yeah. It took us a minute to connect. But when we did…we realized we had a lot in common and so much to bond over.

 

January 2011

At the time we were both in long distant relationships that had started from meeting online. So, we had that to gab about on endlessly. Also, our personalities were so similar but just enough different so that we don’t really clash a ton. We were pretty dang close. We got into a lot of (fun) trouble together. We got involved in some shenanigans. It was pretty great.

Eventually, she moved away to live with the guy she was in a long distant relationship with. I followed suit not too long after. We found ourselves separated by many miles, but we were able to maintain our friendship through the use of technology. 😉

Of course, as with most relationships that last for such a long period of time – we got to a point where we had a few bumps in the road. BUT we eventually reunited (over mexican and margaritas….that spontaneously led to an interesting night of casino hopping..) 🙂

January 2011 – Folks, these are some alcohol induced pictures…FOR SURE.

The getting back into the swing of things in our friendship took a while. Ironically, things really heated up, when I started working at the clothing store where we first met. I was managing a couple stores in Biloxi and Gulfport – and I hired Rhonda to work for me. We never really looked back from that point.

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So, now many many years and five more kids later – we are here. Writing this blog together about our passions..our loves…and pretty much whatever we want to. 😉 Thanks so much for stopping by – honestly – it means a lot. 🙂

And because I’m a little sappy and sentimental, I couldn’t not do a song dedication to my boo. This is us y’all.

We hope you all have an amazing weekend! Anyone have any exciting plans? 

Ashley’s Current Beauty Product Faves

Hey there party people. 🙂 Hope your week is going well. I love watching YouTube makeup videos. Some of my current YT obsessions include: Jeffree Star, Manny MUA, Casey Holmes, Juicyjazz, Kathleen Lights, Thataylaa, and many many more… Anyway, the point is I love watching these guys. Some of my favorite videos to watch are their ‘monthly favorites’ videos. I like seeing which products they tried out..how those products worked for them…and even which products they didn’t like. It really helps me know what’s hot – what’s new – and gives me an idea of things I want to try – OR don’t want to try. You know, instead of going into Ulta or the drugstore and blindly choosing something.

So, why did I just tell you all that? Wellll, today I wanted to share with you some of MY current beauty products that I cannot live without. These are things that I reach for on a daily basis, because I do my makeup and take care of my skin every single day. I thought maybe this would help one of you if you are looking for something new to try and don’t know where to start.

 

  1. EyeshadowAnastasia Modern Renaissance Palette

I actually bought this palette from Rhonda…oh about a couple months ago now. I’ve been hooked to it ever since. I’ve definitely become a bit of an eyeshadow snob. Drug store shadows just don’t do it for me like the high end ones. The AMR palette is perfection. I’ve seriously used it every single day since I got it. If for nothing else I use ‘vermeer’ as my brow bone highlight. If you are looking into investing in a high end eyeshadow palette, I would HIGHLY suggest trying out the AMR. It’s got a great mix of neutrals and some pops of color to switch things up.

 

  1. Highlight/Bronzer/Contour Tarteist Pro Glow Highlight and Contour Palette

Y’all. This palette. I absolutely lurve it. I got it for Christmas…and I just can’t stop – won’t stop – using it. The bottom right shade is my everyday bronzer. It’s a powder. The bottom left is the only thing from this whole palette that I don’t use. It’s a cream contour shade, which is just not something I’ve dabbled into yet. I’ve used every single highlight. They alllll work beautifully on my pale pale skin. Strobe (top right) is my every day – go to highlight. Not only does it look pretty and work really well – it smells heavenly.

  1.  MascaraToo Faced: Better Than Sex [black] & L’Oreal:  Voluminous  Original Mascara   [black]

Both of these mascaras are amazing. I use them interchangeably. I do really love the smaller wand on the L’Oreal one for coating my bottom lashes – BUT the Too Faced wand isn’t sooo big that I can’t comfortably use it on my bottom lashes as well. Both mascaras lift and separate my lashes beautifully – and neither one flakes or wears off throughout the day.  I would say that the Too Faced one does give me slightly more volume.

  1. MoisturizerFormula 10.0.6 Picture Perfect day & Sheamoisture African Water Mint & Ginger Shea Butter Lip Balm

First and foremost all you fellow dry skinned ladies (and guys) DRINK A SHIT TON OF WATER. I promise…like pinky promise and cross my heart – drinking water is the most important thing you can do to ensure that your skin stays less dry than normal and allow for the products that you use to function with the utmost effectiveness. I fight dry skin on a daily basis. These two things are not the only products I use, BUT they are the only products I’m currently using that I love and would purchase/have purchased again. My parched skin always feels refreshed after I apply this moisturizer AND I’m happy because it is also my daily dose of sunscreen. Double duty! This lip balm…I can’t get enough. It has that Vaseline type consistency, but it doesn’t feel like it just sits on my lips – I can tell it’s soaking in. Also, it smells amazing and gives a slightly minty tingle to my lips. LOVE it. 🙂  

  1. Face: Maybelline MasterFix Concealer, L’Oreal Studio Secrets Magic Lumi Light Infusing Primer , Covergirl Clean Matte BB Cream

As I just mentioned – I’ve got crazy dry skin. I do all the things to prevent it…well at least make it LESS dry. I am in love with the Magic Lumi Primer. This magical primer will give even the most matte of foundations or BB creams a nice dewy and luminous look. Most days I mix it with a pea sized amount of the MasterFix Concealer and just cover up a few trouble spots. On days that I need more full coverage I reach for the CG Clean Matte BB Cream – also mixing that with the magic lumi primer. I don’t do full on foundation – I just don’t need it AND that’s just usually too much on my dry dry dry dry as a desert skin. I promise, I’m not being dramatic.

  1. Cheeks: Wet N Wild Color Icon Blush – Rose Champagne

This blush is freaking dirt cheap – but it is amazing. The pigmentation is impressive, and this shade is just perfection. It is just that little bit of natural glow on my pale face. It goes with almost any look – because it is so neutral. I can’t live without it. For sure.

^^ That’s me…wearing all these products. 🙂

Ok – I think that is about it for now. I didn’t mention lips. I know. You see….I have this problem: there is no way I could narrow that section down to one or two lippies. Lips are a post in and of themselves. 😉
Anyway, I hope you enjoyed hearing about my current beauty favorites – and hopefully you found a few new things to try out for yourself!

What We Wore

Hey y’all! Welcome back to another Wednesday of parading our fanciest of outfits for you guys to oogle over. JK hehe Anyway, you guys know the drill – if not, today is the day of the week that we compile our chosen outfits from the previous week. Why are we showing you what we wore? Well, we like clothes and take joy in choosing our outfits each day. Also, we are hoping to maybe inspire you whenever YOU are standing at your closet….staring…thinking to yourself , “I have NO clothes.” I mean, at least that’s usually what WE think when we are doing that. 🙂 So yeah, we hope you enjoy seeing what we’ve worn!

RHONDA:

It is debatable if you can even call half of these outfits, but this is real life.

Kimono: Amazon. Peach top: Old Navy (my exact one not available, but similar here).  Jeans:  Target.  Wedges:  Jessica Simpson.

Tee: Old Navy men’s (men’s has the best graphic tees).  Leggings: LulaRoe.

Tee: Again, Old Navy men’s.  Jeans: Old Navy.  Shoes: Converse. Earrings: Nickel and Suede.

Sweatshirt: Target.  Leggings: Old Navy.  Hair: Courtesy of an afternoon nap.  Riveting stuff, I know.

 

Tunic: Amazon.  Leggings: Lularoe.  Shoes:  French Connection.  Necklace:  BaubleBar (this style isn’t available.  It was one of their flash-sale styles “buried baubles” – sign up with this link to start getting their emails so you don’t miss out!).

 

ASHLEY:

LOOK at that…me in another black shirt! haha 🙂 Shirt: Sweater from KMart (got it waaaay early in the winter)  [similar] Pants: Jordache High Rise Skinny Jeans Earrings: N&S Gold

IDK What I was doing… Shirt: Marshall’s Pants: Black Jeggings Choker: Target Earrings: N&S Black

Yup – this is a repeat. At least above my neck was a little more interesting and different?? 😉 Shirt: Chambray Button up from Target Undershirt: Forever21 Pants: Black Jeggings Choker: Target Earrings: N&S Silver

Sweater: Amazon Pants: Those Liverpool Skinnies again 😉 Earrings: N&S Sweet Pea

This is what trying to take a picture of myself at home usually looks like, which is one of the reasons why I get to work a few minutes early to snap mine. You know, have my morning photo shoot in the bathroom. This was Wednesday – we went to the trampoline park so I wanted something comfy. 🙂

Shirt: Ross Pants: Black leggings for the win Earrings: N&S Black

You Have Time

There’s a phrase that is constantly uttered by people from all walks of life.  I’ve said it and I am sure you have said it.

I don’t have time.

Wait, what?  Let’s take a step back and think about what you really mean when you say this.  Then say exactly what you mean.

I don’t want to do that.

That is not important to me.

I am choosing to not make that a priority.

Look, I get it… you’re busy.  If anyone understands being busy, it is this gal right here.  Let’s take a quick look at some of the things I juggle daily.

  • Homeschool four kids
  • Cook and eat healthy food
  • Work out regularly
  • Maintain a successful relationship
  • Take care of four kids in every way
  • Maintain a social life
  • Maintain a mostly clean household
  • Co-write this blog, which also involves managing many social media outlets
  • Run my resale business
  • Plan several other ventures

There are many other things that I do, but these are the things I prioritize and MAKE time for, because they are important to me and reflect the kind of life I want.  Let me assure you, that is what this is all about.  We all get 24 hours in a day.  Every. Single. One. Of. Us.  Yes, I’ve used the time excuse.  I used to use it ALL THE TIME.  Oh, the things I didn’t have time for.

I don’t have time to make friends.

I don’t have time to work out.

I don’t have time to eat healthy.

I don’t have time to go back to school.

I don’t have time to do makeup daily.

I don’t have time to clean.

So what happened?  I didn’t magically get extra time in my day.  No, I decided I was done.  Done with excuses.  Done with waiting for life to be the way I want.  Done with feeling so unsatisfied with life.

Not only did I stop making excuses for things I wasn’t doing, I stopped apologizing for not making time for certain things.  There was a day a coworker asked me to get drinks after work.  Internally, I was thinking about how I’d rather catch up on DVR and have some quiet time on the couch, but instead, I said, “oh, I don’t have time tonight.  Sorry.”  NO.  Stop apologizing.  Don’t be sorry that you don’t want to do something.  There is nothing wrong with saying, “Thanks for the invitation, but I just want some time to myself tonight.  I have a full DVR and bottle of wine calling my name.”  Own your life.

I thought about what my idea life would entail and I started chipping away at the parts I could.  I made decisions and took action.  And holy shit, it has really paid off.  I love my life.  I LOVE MY LIFE.

Ask yourself what you want out of life.  Then MAKE time for it.  You will have to drop some things, wake up a little earlier, rearrange your day… but do it.

The life you want is waiting.