Week in Review: Rhonda

Last week, we skipped out on our Week in Review posts because we were trying to wrap our minds around the tragedy in Las Vegas.  I don’t know that I’ll ever really be able to wrap my head around it, but I can’t allow my  life to completely halt following tragedies.

My kids are STILL out of town at their dad’s, so I have been trying to be productive while doing some things for myself as well.  Let’s just hit the highlights of the last two weeks, in no particular order.

There was bath beer, drinks with the girls, and sunbathing.

There was patio chilling and grilling, and yummy comfort food whipped up in the kitchen.

There was more sunbathing and a date night.

There was brunch at our spot.

It was a lovely couple of weeks and the freedom I have had is coming to an end – this weekend!  What would you do if you only had a few remaining kid-free days?

A Dream Wedding

I wasn’t really the girl who grew up with an idea of a dream wedding in my head.  I actually spent a lot more time dreaming up my ideal marriage.  I wanted to be a career woman with a couple of kids and a husband I could dote on after my Saturdays spent shopping.

Somewhere along the way, I got engaged a few (several? many?) times.  I got a glimpse into the wedding industry and fell in love with it.  I became a wedding blogger and soon, everything ran together and nothing was original.  A wedding was a wedding.  It really jaded me.

When my ex-husband and I first got engaged, I was really wanting to FINALLY have a wedding.  I loved the glamour and the party and the well-done photography and videography.  What I didn’t love is the fact that we needed to pay for it and, well, I wasn’t 100% certain that I wanted to be with him forever ever.  We eloped at the courthouse and a friend took our pictures (which were super cute).  It was fine.

Fast forward several years and I am engaged again.  I am SO EXCITED to spend my life with Stuart and knew I wanted witnesses this time.  I wanted a party for sure, but I also wanted something that was very us.  It’s almost NOT unique to say you want a “unique” wedding, but it is what it is.  We aren’t striving for unique.  What we are striving for is having those we love the most, who support our relationship, to be present.  Also, we have so many things we want for our family that we are just not interested in going into (further) debt for a party.  So we are doing shit our way.

However, I’d be lying if I said that given $20,000 to specifically spend on a wedding that I would plan the same thing.  So what would my wedding be like in that instance?

This amazing dream dress by Inbal Dror is Stuart’s pick and way beyond what I can pay.

The White House Hotel in Biloxi, MS is my dream venue, but… well it’s a little too costly for us and it being in another state adds on a bunch of other expenses.  It’s dreamy AF though.

I would love for one of “my” bands to be my reception entertainment… something personal.  Sure, it would be fantastic to have Brett Young, Maren Morris, or Gavin DeGraw (my favorites ever ever) to be there, but the fact of the matter is, regardless of all the expensive touches I would put on my “dream wedding,” I still want to know and love everyone involved.  With that in mind, I would hire Gas Station Disco, DUMM, or Light Up the Moon, unsigned bands I have a personal connection to and who know how to get a party started.

As for food, well…. I’m not extra fancy, but I LIVE for our brunches at Bolsa and would die for them to do a brunch in the evening for our wedding.  We fell in love there and it and the staff are special to us.  I can’t even imagine how money much that would set me back!

I met a charming and personable dude when I was blogging in the wedding genre.  His name was Clane and he submitted a wedding to me.  I fell in love with his photography and him as a friend. His photography is stupid amazing and I did look into booking him, but it just wasn’t feasible for us.

These are the things that would be a priority for me, given an unlimited budget.  Don’t get me wrong though – our wedding is going to be the fucking BOMB and those invited are so lucky!  I can’t wait to marry my person and party all weekend long!

Week in Review: Rhonda

What a week!  I actually switched stuff up a little, which was nice.  I am a lover of routine, but it’s nice to have change sometimes too.

Unfortunately, I woke up Monday with an ear infection.  Claudia helped me ship some orders at the post office and I went on a laundry adventure in which I washed a Queen comforter in a tiny washer.  Other than that, all I did was some makeup stuff.  And of course, we sat on the patio to watch Stuart arrive to great fanfare.

I woke up on Tuesday still sick and Claudia passed out in my bed while I was still having coffee.  She woke up wanting me to put numerous ponytails in her hair.  I wanted to spend the day in bed, but needed to do some meal prep and film a makeup review.  When the kids laid down for their afternoon quiet time, I had a beer and filmed the review.

At 2:30 am Wednesday morning, I heard Claudia crying hysterically and went to see what the problem was.  The party chick was frantically trying to hold up a painting as tall as she is, because she was playing all over the living room and knocked it over.  I had a hard time sleeping after that, which was unfortunately since I had to get up and out the door early Wednesday so I could get some stuff done with the kids before their weekend trip to their dad’s house.  I ran errands and helped the kids make their Valentine bags for our homeschool party.  The boys enjoyed the announcement I made that we were taking the entire week off school and that the next week would only be Wednesday and Thursday.  They celebrated with XBox.

Thursday, we got up to head down to meet the kids’ dad.  It was an uneventful drive down and I was super excited to jam in the car solo on the way back.  I then took the coveted-by-all-moms solo Target trip.  I wandered down every aisle before going home to get ready for date night with my guy.  We finally cashed in the gift card we got for Christmas and had a lovely seafood dinner.

Stuart surprised me Friday morning by taking the day off work so we could spend more time together and so that he could go with me to get my license.  I’m so glad he did, because I ended up being there for several hours.  After some wine shopping, we came home to binge watch Sense8.  What a mind fuck that show is!

Childfree weekend continued Saturday morning with our usual breakfast and mimosa routine.  It was a lovely day out, so we decided to go for a bike ride.  After a ride through small-town Texas, we were starving and thought another dinner out would be a lovely idea.

Sunday morning, Stuart woke me all the way up by asking the ridiculous question, “Do you want to go to Bolsa?”  You’ll soon find out, dear readers, that Bolsa is our slice of heaven.  It’s OUR brunch place, where we fell in love, and where the staff became our family.  I ALWAYS want to go to Bolsa.  After a leisurely brunch, we came home and rearranged our bedroom and I love it so much now!

It was truly such a lovely weekend.  As much as I love my kids, I cherish the time I get to focus on my relationship and get things done without literally tripping over my little shadow.

I hope you also take time for yourself and your relationship if you’re in one.  It’s so important!