Date Your Partner

Dating is tricky and hard and fun and exciting and anxiety-inducing.  The last time I brought you dating tips, they were geared toward first dates.  If the first date goes well and things continue to progress, eventually you find yourself in a long-term relationship.  Honey, that is not where the work and the dating ends.  That is where it changes, but becomes even more important.

We hear it said all the time that relationships are hard work.  Sure, in a way…. but that work should be fun most of the time.  Dating your partner is part of the “work” we need to put into relationships.  This becomes more complicated when you have children, limited budgets, or heavy work schedules.  That’s why I’m here, friends… to give you some inspiration on dating the person with whom you share life.

Concerts. Going to see live music may not be the best choice for a first date, because you can’t get to know each other over booming speakers with drunk people bumping into you.  In an established relationship though, it can be so freeing to just let the music flow through you, to have a few drinks and just…vibe.  Thinking about the venue and seat choices can really make or break the experience.  Locally, we have a large venue that has cheaper lawn tickets.  Those allow for you to spread out a blanket and really relax or stand up and dance in your spot.  We also like to take advantage of a venue that has (pricey) suite seats, where the seats are in pairs and have plenty of space around them.  This fits every budget, because you can do anything from a hole in the wall bar with a jazz trio to a suite at an arena.  Choose a music act you both love, find seats that allow you to breathe, grab your partner’s hand, and let the music fill your heart.

Staycations.  When life has been busy and you haven’t had quality time with your partner in awhile, you can find yourself itching for a getaway.  There isn’t always time or money to hop on a plane and take a week (or even a weekend) trip.  Staycations are a great way to have a mini-getaway to reconnect. Drinks by the pool, dinner in the hotel restaurant, breakfast in bed….and let’s face it, hotel sex is just hot.  Choosing a walkable downtown area can provide lots of entertainment and dining options.  Going with a more resort-like location can mean the ultimate in relaxation.  Again, there’s something for every budget and also something for every timeframe.  Whether you can get away for one night or three, booking a nearby hotel is a great way to get the ultimate date night.

Brewery or winery visits.  If tasting and enjoying adult beverages is a part of your relationship like ours is, it is a natural choice to make a date of a brewery visit.  There are so many options these days for places where adult beverages are made.  Local craft breweries often have lawn games, trivia nights, live music, and more.  Some of them even partner with local restaurants and food trucks to bring culinary experiences to the brewery.  Wineries and even distilleries do similar things.  For a great date experience, you’ll want to first choose a place that has your favorite beverages, then look online for reviews so that you ensure you’re choosing a place with a fun vibe.  This is absolutely a low-cost date and if you are short on time, an hour or two is enough time to drink a beer flight and play a gigantic game of Jenga.

Getting out of the house is great, but sometimes, budget and child care concerns just don’t allow for it.  No worries, because some of our best date nights are right here in the house… sometimes with the kids home and sometimes without.

Romantic Night In.  Grill a nice steak, roast some asparagus, and pour a glass of wine.  Settling in for the evening can be done on any night of the week and if you have children, after they go to bed.  After dinner, flip off the lights and flip on the TV for some Netflix and chill (any definition of it you choose) with a bottle of wine.  Wrap up the night with a nice massage and some sexy time.  It really makes for the perfect night, even if it seems a bit cliché.

Backyard paradise.  Sure, it would be amazing to head off to a tropical paradise and sip cocktails in your private infinity pool.  That may not be an option for you on any given Friday evening, but there is another option.  Fill your inflatable kiddie pool with air and water early in the afternoon.  Turn on some string lights and bluetooth speakers.  By night, any kids are in bed and the water is warm.  With or without swimwear, you can now take a cocktail to the kiddie pool and enjoy the evening in your personal oasis.

No matter what you choose to do, having some time alone with your person is essential to maintaining and deepening your relationship.  Make it a priority and it will pay off.

Are any of these date ideas things you have done?  Did you get inspired to date your partner?