When Stuart and I got engaged this past December, I knew that I wanted to have the whole to-do. Both of us had gotten married at the courthouse with our previous marriages and while that is lovely and gets the job done, I just wanted something different this time. I wanted those who love us and support our relationship to be able to witness our union. At the same time, I also knew that we wanted something personal and intimate that wouldn’t break the bank.
We set a date, then put off wedding planning until after my beach vacation. I had too much else to focus on and pay for, so it just didn’t make sense to really get into it. Now, here we are over a month after my vacation and I am just over 300 days away from my wedding date. What have I planned? Well, let’s see…
- Date: CHECK!
- Venue: Yeah, not so much.
- Photographer: I have narrowed it down to a couple options.
- Catering: I have some ideas…ish.
- Wedding Party: Bride’s, yes. Groom, uh…pretty sure we haven’t even talked about it.
- Dress: Ha!
- Aesthetic: Got that lined up!
- Guest list: Sort of. It has been discussed and it’s small enough that I could make the list in 5 minutes.
Safe to say we haven’t done shit. I bought a planning binder, decided I didn’t like it…bought another. I picked out my bridal party and they know who they are. I know what the colors and feel of the wedding are. I sort of know what I want in a dress and I have some ideas for catering.
We just really need this venue thing nailed down before we can do much else. And here’s the thing – we have a venue in mind, but we also would prefer to do it in our own backyard….but we don’t have one. We are trying to find a house and I hope it’s soon so that we CAN figure out if we want to get married there or elsewhere.
What I definitely know about our wedding is it will be intimate, personal, and very us. In the same way I rage against the MOMachine, I will very much be raging against the wedding industry. I have zero desire to just go along with and pay for everything I’m “supposed to.” No thank you. So you’ll see a lot of DIY and unusual ideas here.
Anyway, I will be posting an update to this series any time I feel like there is something to update on. First installment will be about my bridal party and that is coming soon!
Anyone else really drag their feet in planning their wedding?