“I’m a gypsy and you’re the captain now – Of our own shipwrecks”

If you know either one of us independently in real life, or if you know us as a friend couple in real life – then you know that we fell in love with a little band from Pennsylvania called ‘Gas Station Disco’.

Rhonda and I were actually recently talking about them, and how becoming fans of this band  was an integral part of the reforming and the solidifying of the deep friendship that now exists between the two of us. We stumbled upon this band one night when she and I and my sister and our friend Michael all decided to go out to the Chill Bar and Lounge in the IP Casino here in Biloxi, MS.

I honestly cannot remember how we all decided to hang out that night. At that point, it was not a typical thing that we (Rhonda & I) did. I do know that Rhonda and I were just talking again after a long break. We were in a good place, but we weren’t the besties that we are today.  It was literally from that night forward that we started to become super close. It’s literally thanks to that night that here we are writing a blog together.

Why is that you ask? Well, something about them just clicked with us. We liked them. We enjoyed listening to them. We may or may not have thought the lead singer was cute. You know. Normal things. 😉

First time – Aug 2014

They are based in Pennsylvania, but they made frequent trips down to the  Mississippi coast to perform at the Chill. So, as any good groupie would do – we started going to see them anytime they were down. These outings – going to see GSD – this one on one time together where we could just be friends. Not moms. Not women with responsibilities. We were just two gals hanging out and falling in love with each other as we obsessed over a band together. That time together is what made us the pair that we are today.

And since this blog formed because of our friendship – we thought it would be fun and crazy relevant to tell that story for you guys.

Sept 2014

We have had so many deep and superficial conversations as we sat in the bar chairs at The Chill. We have met so many people. We have chair danced like there’s no tomorrow. We have come up with business plans and ideas for things we wanted to accomplish together.  We just enjoyed each other, and the company we kept. We realized – again and over and over – that we just GOT each other. We understood each other.

Those outings to see GSD spawned other outings for the two of us. We enjoyed that time together..so we sought out more. We had this fun thing in common that solidified us.  The same could be said for my sister and Michael. We dragged those two along with us as often as they would allow. 😉 Grace and I are sisters – and we were already close…pretty much since she stopped annoying me around age 10 or 11. Michael and I worked together and had become close because of that. They were and are my people. Rhonda became my person because of our time together that started with seeing GSD.

How long ago was that you may be wondering? I had to dig back through my pictures to figure it out myself, but it was four years ago. Sometime in August of 2014 to be exact. 🙂 And not only did we religiously go see our band when they were in town, we have  both since established personal connections with  the guys. They became our friends.

Dec 2014

Obviously, things don’t stay the same. The band has changed members and evolved since when we first saw them. Today, none of the guys that are in Gas Station Disco were members when we first saw them. And actually the band that is GSD today – also go by a different name which is confusing. But whatever. You do you dudes. The original members have all migrated to starting or joining different bands and we always support them indiscriminately.

They are all really a talented group of guys. We are forever indebted to the way they shaped our friendship, and we are glad that we can call them our friends.

At this point, Rhonda and I do and have done so many different things together. We hang out wherever and whenever. You guys know – we even resorted to hanging out online every Wednesday night in front of a live audience to get our fix for each other satiated. However, some of our favorite times have been together at The Chill listening to those boys.

Jan 2015

With the distance between us now, since Rhonda lives in Fort Worth, TX – and band breakups and booking drama…it has actually been a long time that we have gotten to go together to listen to them in any of the new bands they are a part of now. Hopefully, we can change that soon.

We both keep up with them through social media. I’ve gotten to see their ‘spin off bands’ fairly often since I’m still here on the coast and they come back here every now and then. I recently saw Light Up The Moon in Destin, FL. LUTM consists of a few former GSD guys as members.

DUMM, another spin off/new startup, still come to play at The Chill, and I’ve seen them a few times since they’ve been back.

Fall 2015

DUMM is the new band that Jason, former lead singer of the GSD we knew, started – and his crew will be in town again in late June to play at The Chill. I need my girl to be there. So let’s all convince Stuart (Rhonda’s boo and betrothed) that she needs to be there that weekend. 😉 Start a petition. Message him on Facebook. Leave your approval here in the comments. Whatever works for you. 😉

Music is just so important. Big bands and little bands – when their music changes your life in some way…you don’t forget that.

As always, thank y’all so incredibly much for reading and listening to the thoughts inside our head as we pour them out onto a computer screen. We sincerely appreciate it.

Tell us, what are some of your favorite moments/things to do with your besties? We love hearing from you!

 

A Dream Wedding

I wasn’t really the girl who grew up with an idea of a dream wedding in my head.  I actually spent a lot more time dreaming up my ideal marriage.  I wanted to be a career woman with a couple of kids and a husband I could dote on after my Saturdays spent shopping.

Somewhere along the way, I got engaged a few (several? many?) times.  I got a glimpse into the wedding industry and fell in love with it.  I became a wedding blogger and soon, everything ran together and nothing was original.  A wedding was a wedding.  It really jaded me.

When my ex-husband and I first got engaged, I was really wanting to FINALLY have a wedding.  I loved the glamour and the party and the well-done photography and videography.  What I didn’t love is the fact that we needed to pay for it and, well, I wasn’t 100% certain that I wanted to be with him forever ever.  We eloped at the courthouse and a friend took our pictures (which were super cute).  It was fine.

Fast forward several years and I am engaged again.  I am SO EXCITED to spend my life with Stuart and knew I wanted witnesses this time.  I wanted a party for sure, but I also wanted something that was very us.  It’s almost NOT unique to say you want a “unique” wedding, but it is what it is.  We aren’t striving for unique.  What we are striving for is having those we love the most, who support our relationship, to be present.  Also, we have so many things we want for our family that we are just not interested in going into (further) debt for a party.  So we are doing shit our way.

However, I’d be lying if I said that given $20,000 to specifically spend on a wedding that I would plan the same thing.  So what would my wedding be like in that instance?

This amazing dream dress by Inbal Dror is Stuart’s pick and way beyond what I can pay.

The White House Hotel in Biloxi, MS is my dream venue, but… well it’s a little too costly for us and it being in another state adds on a bunch of other expenses.  It’s dreamy AF though.

I would love for one of “my” bands to be my reception entertainment… something personal.  Sure, it would be fantastic to have Brett Young, Maren Morris, or Gavin DeGraw (my favorites ever ever) to be there, but the fact of the matter is, regardless of all the expensive touches I would put on my “dream wedding,” I still want to know and love everyone involved.  With that in mind, I would hire Gas Station Disco, DUMM, or Light Up the Moon, unsigned bands I have a personal connection to and who know how to get a party started.

As for food, well…. I’m not extra fancy, but I LIVE for our brunches at Bolsa and would die for them to do a brunch in the evening for our wedding.  We fell in love there and it and the staff are special to us.  I can’t even imagine how money much that would set me back!

I met a charming and personable dude when I was blogging in the wedding genre.  His name was Clane and he submitted a wedding to me.  I fell in love with his photography and him as a friend. His photography is stupid amazing and I did look into booking him, but it just wasn’t feasible for us.

These are the things that would be a priority for me, given an unlimited budget.  Don’t get me wrong though – our wedding is going to be the fucking BOMB and those invited are so lucky!  I can’t wait to marry my person and party all weekend long!