JUMP

Wise man Gavin DeGraw once said, “Sometimes the only way is jumping, I hope you’re not afraid of heights.”  It has stuck with me for the last fifteen years since the song “Meaning” came out.  It’s just true – you have to take a leap at times.

In the last couple of weeks, I have taken leap after leap after leap.  It’s scary, but it’s how I live my life in a way that I can be happy and not sit around wondering what could have happened.  Last week, I surprised Stuart by booking our wedding venue and today, I pulled the trigger on a new business.  It was extremely scary, but I know it’s the only way to feel like I am doing all I can.  I can’t say that something is my dream and then not take steps toward it.  It doesn’t work that way.

Dreams come true with a lot of hustle and heart, and those are two things I certainly have.  I look forward to telling you all about this new adventure… as soon as I can get my ex-husband to fix my technical difficulties, because that is not my strong suit!

When was the last time you did something extremely scary AND life-changing?

A Dream Wedding

I wasn’t really the girl who grew up with an idea of a dream wedding in my head.  I actually spent a lot more time dreaming up my ideal marriage.  I wanted to be a career woman with a couple of kids and a husband I could dote on after my Saturdays spent shopping.

Somewhere along the way, I got engaged a few (several? many?) times.  I got a glimpse into the wedding industry and fell in love with it.  I became a wedding blogger and soon, everything ran together and nothing was original.  A wedding was a wedding.  It really jaded me.

When my ex-husband and I first got engaged, I was really wanting to FINALLY have a wedding.  I loved the glamour and the party and the well-done photography and videography.  What I didn’t love is the fact that we needed to pay for it and, well, I wasn’t 100% certain that I wanted to be with him forever ever.  We eloped at the courthouse and a friend took our pictures (which were super cute).  It was fine.

Fast forward several years and I am engaged again.  I am SO EXCITED to spend my life with Stuart and knew I wanted witnesses this time.  I wanted a party for sure, but I also wanted something that was very us.  It’s almost NOT unique to say you want a “unique” wedding, but it is what it is.  We aren’t striving for unique.  What we are striving for is having those we love the most, who support our relationship, to be present.  Also, we have so many things we want for our family that we are just not interested in going into (further) debt for a party.  So we are doing shit our way.

However, I’d be lying if I said that given $20,000 to specifically spend on a wedding that I would plan the same thing.  So what would my wedding be like in that instance?

This amazing dream dress by Inbal Dror is Stuart’s pick and way beyond what I can pay.

The White House Hotel in Biloxi, MS is my dream venue, but… well it’s a little too costly for us and it being in another state adds on a bunch of other expenses.  It’s dreamy AF though.

I would love for one of “my” bands to be my reception entertainment… something personal.  Sure, it would be fantastic to have Brett Young, Maren Morris, or Gavin DeGraw (my favorites ever ever) to be there, but the fact of the matter is, regardless of all the expensive touches I would put on my “dream wedding,” I still want to know and love everyone involved.  With that in mind, I would hire Gas Station Disco, DUMM, or Light Up the Moon, unsigned bands I have a personal connection to and who know how to get a party started.

As for food, well…. I’m not extra fancy, but I LIVE for our brunches at Bolsa and would die for them to do a brunch in the evening for our wedding.  We fell in love there and it and the staff are special to us.  I can’t even imagine how money much that would set me back!

I met a charming and personable dude when I was blogging in the wedding genre.  His name was Clane and he submitted a wedding to me.  I fell in love with his photography and him as a friend. His photography is stupid amazing and I did look into booking him, but it just wasn’t feasible for us.

These are the things that would be a priority for me, given an unlimited budget.  Don’t get me wrong though – our wedding is going to be the fucking BOMB and those invited are so lucky!  I can’t wait to marry my person and party all weekend long!