Wedding Planning: The Venue

When I last wrote a wedding planning post, we had only a date.  Then changed it – twice.  At some point, I even decided maybe I just didn’t need to get married at all.  You see, my crippling anxiety truly comes up with some idiotic problems sometimes.  Making decisions is really hard for me so sometimes I decide to just eliminate the process altogether.  That is what I did with wedding planning…just quit thinking about it.

One night, with drinks flowing, Stuart and I had a serious conversation that made me realize my hesitance to plan a wedding had led to him wondering if I wanted to be with him at all.  I quickly understood where he was coming from and immediately decided to plan a surprise for him.

Back in late summer of 2017, we had visited a craft brewery to check them out as a venue.  We loved the event coordinator, the atmosphere, the location, the aesthetics…it just felt right.  We didn’t book on the spot, but only because we wanted to make sure it was what we wanted.  Looking back, we probably should have just gone for it.

Since then, I changed the date several times and researched venues so much that I couldn’t remember a thing.  I created spreadsheets to track the information I got.  Then one day, in a moment of super appreciation for this man who puts up with me, I thought, I should just book the venue without telling him.  I told my closest friends and they all agreed that it would mean so much and, in the end, put me at ease to know that I at least have that much figured out.

As soon as I had the money together, I chose a date, paid the deposit on the brewery, signed the contract, and put together a card to tell Stuart.  I printed a portion of the contract and put it into a card.  I bought beers from the brewery for us to toast with.  When he got home and settled in, I gave him the card.  It took him a minute to process what was happening.  He was absolutely shocked and delighted.  We are now FULL SPEED planning this wedding, since it’s in November this year!


Next up, finalizing guest list, making wedding party official, and booking photography and catering!  I plan to update here along the way, because it should be interesting!