Recently, there was a story making rounds on Facebook about an Amazon delivery driver. He happened upon a home with a “Please Hide Packages From Husband” doormat. He noticed it and proceeded to do just that – hide the package. The homeowner’s doorbell camera captured it on video and it was shared repeatedly. My friends hailed him as a hero. Not all heroes wear capes and shit.
For a couple of years now, I had been seeing boutiques telling customers to let them know if they need a “congrats for winning!” sticker on their paid orders.
There’s also been variations on the offer to provide a receipt that matches what your partner thinks you paid for an item.
Brilliant, people say. Is it?
Is it brilliant to encourage people to lie about or hide financial decisions from their partner? Sure, you’ll get business from someone who needs that service or just appreciates the humor. This just isn’t how I operate my business.
It’s not uncommon for me to make a purchase quietly and without fanfare and just hope Stuart doesn’t notice. Although he wouldn’t care if he did notice, I am conditioned from my first marriage that I will be in trouble for spending money. That marriage didn’t work for many reasons, our financial interactions being one of them. Lessons learned the hard way.
I realize that these things are just a joke for most of these businesses and homeowners – a little “wink wink.” It really just isn’t funny to me because of the culture it breeds. Finances may not be fun to discuss, but having open and honest communication about money stuff is crucial to not only financial security, but to the health of a relationship.
On top of that, if we could stop perpetuating the stereotype that women are shopaholics and men are trying tame their women, that would be great.