Hi, everyone! Rhonda and Ashley asked me to write a guest post for them and I am so excited! I’d love to chat a little about being a style addicted stay at home mom. What does that even mean?! Being a style addicted stay at home mom? Well, it means a lot of things to me, so grab some coffee (or wine… because let’s be honest, I’m a wine loving mom too) and let’s chat.
First, a little about me. My name is Lorraine, from Rain in Style (find my blog at www.raininstyle.com). I’m 36 and have two young kids ages 6 and 4.5 (that ½ is important… I’m reminded almost daily that’s she’s half way to 5). I left my job in the advertising photography world when my son was born and have been a stay at home mom ever since. And that’s about the same time my style sense and love for style took a back seat to all the demands of being a new mom. In fact, I didn’t really pay very much attention to myself at all until a little over a year ago. That’s when I had reached my breaking point of going weeks without shaving, wearing jeans all year long, and not caring about how I presented myself, so long as my kids were well dressed and bathed. Them before me….that’s the mama code, am I right?
But, what if I told you that sometimes it’s ok to say, me first. For example, I will tell my kids, “no, I can’t help you put together a 1 million piece lego set until I’ve had at least three cups of coffee, or two glasses of wine”. And I’m cool with that. I’m also perfectly fine with saying, “mama needs time to get dressed, put makeup on and breathe a little bit before I go down to make you breakfast”. Why? Because I’ve come to realize that if I don’t do these things for myself, I’m no good to anyone else. Wearing the mom uniform of yoga pants and t-shirts just didn’t make me feel like I was at my very best. That affects my mood, and, if the mama ain’t happy, ain’t no one happy.
So how? How do I muster the energy to take care of me? Especially since I’m not going out anywhere fancy, I mean, let’s be honest, the school drop off line and grocery store runs aren’t that glamourous. And yet, I won’t leave the house unless I feel put together. How? You give your self permission to, and let go of that mama guilt. Easier said then done, I know. For me, I want to show my kids (especially my daughter), that just because I’m a mom, doesn’t mean I have to sacrifice everything else; and for my son, I want to show him that just because I wear heels and makeup doesn’t mean that I’m only skin deep. I might have given up my career to stay at home and raise my kids, but I don’t need to give up my personal joys and self love to be a mom. Start with easy outfits. If you like makeup, then start simple. Have crazy mornings? Shower at night, that’s what I do. Plan your outfits ahead of time. Look for ways to streamline your mornings without taking away time from yourself. Let “me time “ be like a cup of coffee…. You need it, your family needs you to have it, the world around you thanks you for drinking it, and after you drink it you feel like you can conquer the world!
Yes, I’m serious. People will often ask me if I work, and when I say that I stay at home (although I do have part time jobs) they are surprised that I always look so nice. Since when does being a stay at home mom with young kids mean that you have to wear yoga pants and t-shirts all of the time?!? I don’t understand. And, honestly, I don’t think that it’s fair to think if a women is dressed nicely then she must have somewhere important to be. My important place to be, is right here waiting in line with my kids…standing tall and confident in my heels, skinny jeans and rockin’ my pink hair. So, be confident, be bold, be a strong mama…just don’t be last.