When a Facebook Comment makes you rant….

I am capable of making humans. I was born with this ability. I did not ask for it. I did not ask for reproductive organs that allow me to carry and grow a human. Nevertheless, I am able to do this. I am a woman. Have you figured out how to make humans without me yet? Are there little tiny humans cooking in some lab somewhere? If you have – that’s fantastic, because being pregnant fucking sucks and I would have gladly turned that responsibility over to someone else…or over to a lab tech. Whoever. Yeah, I could adopt – or hire a surrogate. I don’t HAVE to be pregnant. Do you know how expensive that is though? Having a baby, no matter how you do it, is expensive – BUT doing it myself is definitely less than the other options. And also, you’re still using a woman to make that baby. I know. I know. I need a man too. Not for the whole process though. We could freeze all the men’s sperm and kill them all and STILL be able to make babies. Just saying. I do not literally have intentions of doing that – just fyi. Buut yeah – can you make a baby for me at the same cost it is for me to do it myself? Oh. You haven’t figured that out yet?? What. A. Shame.

I know that I don’t speak for all women. I know that plenty of women have differing views than mine. That is totally fine. It is ok if you want to give up your rights to equal health care. It is your prerogative to take a back seat while we are being taken advantage of – laughed at for asserting ourselves – scoffed at for demanding what we deserve. It’s 2017 and our great grandmothers already fought this fight. It’s 2017 and didn’t we JUST enact the ACA? But here we are again. Here are the naysayers again. The ones that say, “You already got what you want.” while they attempt to take it away from us. For what? For religious liberty? You don’t have a vagina so it’s not your problem?? Well. Fuck off. You say. Abstain from sex if you don’t want to create an unwanted pregnancy. You say your moral code does not permit promiscuity so disease should not be a problem. You say “It’s all in gods hands – he has a plan and a purpose for everything” so I should just pray to/trust in him concerning things like uncontrollable pain, cancer, unending bleeding, recurrent ovarian cysts, hormone induced migraines…and so on?

Doesn’t your god work through his or her people? I’m not familiar with all religions and the way their god’s orchestrate their will. I am familiar with a few and in my experience the gods need us mere humans to do their bidding. So, as a religious individual isn’t it your responsibility to take care of the people? To take care of the people who are responsible for growing the future generation?

And it’s not your problem? Did I ask you to pay for my healthcare? Are you going to pay for my healthcare? Is someone going to make you pay for MY healthcare? Nope. The answer is no. Get off your high horse and come back to reality. If anything, we are imploring each other to pay for our own healthcare. Afraid of paying more taxes? Wouldn’t it be better to pay a little more in taxes than what you are paying out of pocket for healthcare? By the way, there are countries out there with functioning universal healthcare systems run through their governments.

Also, don’t misunderstand me. I’m not asking for a place of honor as a woman. I’m just asking for respect. I’m just asking for necessary care. I’m asking for you to stop being a prick. I’m asking for you to be considerate. I’m asking that you inform yourself. I’m asking that you don’t just take someone else’s word and run with it. I’m asking that you take the time to form your own educated opinions and learn how distinguish fact from fiction.

  1. Birth Control is not free to everyone at a state funded health department location. In most cases, you have to meet income guidelines. So, if I make a lot of money to support myself and my family, but my insurance doesn’t provide free or discounted access to BC – I probably also can’t get it at my local health department.
  2. You don’t pay more for healthcare as a man in order to pay for my BC and other female services. That’s a lie. No one is even asking you to pay more. You know who did pay more? Women. You know who are being threatened to once again have to pay more? Women.

Ok – so here’s the deal, no one is asking you to be inconvenienced by the things my body needs in order to function properly. No one is actually inconveniencing you. I’m worried though. I’m literally and rightfully worried about the future or my healthcare. I’m worried for my daughter. So I can’t just sit here and see your comment without saying something. I can’t know that there are people out there who think and feel the same way you do without doing something myself. So, I’m doing what I can. I’m speaking my mind, because thankfully I have a platform from which i can  stand on and write. I’ve donated money. I’ve signed petitions. I will do what I can and when I can to fight for myself. To fight for other women. I shouldn’t have to. It’s utterly insane that I do. That we do. I’ll admit that. This should all be a non issue. But it isn’t. So I’m not going to be silent.

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